The Self-ish Me Podcast

Not Good With Money: What Every Woman Inherits About Finances and How to Break Free

"Not good with money" is something almost every woman has thought about herself. But it is not a personality trait and it is not the truth. It is what every woman inherits about finances through decades of conditioning, handed down so quietly most of us never think to question it. In this episode, Kamila traces exactly where that belief comes from, turning it into a genuine women's empowerment conversation that starts not with budgeting apps, but with the stories we were handed as girls. You will walk away with: * A clear understanding of why feeling not good with money is a product of societal conditioning, not capability * The research showing how girls are socialised around finances differently from boys, from childhood through to adult life * Recognition of how shame and silence around money quietly remove whole possibilities from your awareness, and what letting go of shame opens up * Kamila's own story of growing up in post-communist Poland and the inherited money beliefs she carried for decades without knowing it * One practical first step to start overcoming societal expectations around money and writing your own financial story Kamila is a Business Psychologist and coach specialising in personal development for women. She draws on research into societal conditioning and her own lived experience to show that understanding how women are socialized is genuinely life-changing. If you have ever avoided looking at your bank account or felt like growing your money was for someone else, press play. This podcast is for women in the middle of rewriting their own story, looking for honest, research-backed conversations across relationships, sexuality, career and health. You will learn how to separate conditioning from choice, know what is truly yours, and build a life that actually feels like it belongs to you. The Money Script Toolkit https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj [https://tr.ee/ikA1fuHXuj] If you preparing to negotiate your salary check this episode on Money, Confidence and Changing the Rules https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6mKJNskI2fKZIBtoMzNuHK?si=vzJIOiIwStiiq3fbs5kzvw] Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Period Shame, Female Friendship and the Power of Being Believed

Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one believes you. In this episode, I'm joined by my best friend Lottie, an advocate for young people from care experience backgrounds with over a decade in education, safeguarding and wellbeing, for an honest conversation about menstrual cycles and women's health, period shame, and what it truly means to be believed. You'll walk away with: * Real stories of period pain so severe it meant ambulances, fainting, and medical dismissal * Why shame around menstruation is learned, not inevitable, and how to stop passing it on * Practical ways to advocate for yourself in medical settings, including going prepared and bringing someone you trust * How normalising menstrual cycles with children can change the next generation's relationship with their bodies * A reminder that letting go of shame around your body starts with being witnessed and believed Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, brings her own lived experience of endometriosis and expertise in women's wellbeing to this raw, empowering conversation. This is the episode to send to every woman who has ever second-guessed her period pain and been told it's just how it is. Want to go deeper? Listen to Kamila's episode, Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women's Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth, Press play https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1M8N9ZCpCNBWbROxxxDTn1?si=gTpGFNPwROCQcp90LFRbkA] Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/] Connect with Lottie LinkedIn Lottie Ormerod | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lottie-ormerod-662392b1/] Period Poem https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu [https://youtu.be/4vu2BsePvoI?si=K43SWl6PuYATrUfu]

Career Growth for Women: Hard Work Is Only 10% of Getting Promoted — Here's What's Missing

You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter? That's not a performance problem. It's a visibility problem. And career growth for women often stalls right there. This episode is all about what actually drives career progression, and it is not just hard work. It is how intentionally you are building your personal brand at work, whether you are remote, hybrid, or in the office every day. You will walk away with: * A clear understanding of why performance alone accounts for only 10% of career success (and what the other 90% is) * A practical framework for building visibility beyond your manager and immediate team * The difference between a mentor and a sponsor, and why women need both for real career growth * A way to map the relationships that actually influence your career progression * Concrete language to communicate your impact in a way that resonates with senior leaders, peers, and stakeholders Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach with over a decade in Learning and Development, draws on her own promotions, mistakes, and research to make this one genuinely useful. If career growth for women is something you think about but never quite act on, this is the episode to start with. Press play. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong

Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them. This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day. It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look? Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Imposter Syndrome in Women: Why Self-Doubt at Work Is Not the Problem You Think It Is

You have achieved something real, something you worked hard for, and somehow your brain is already looking for the flaw. That feeling that you got lucky, that you don't quite belong, that one mistake is about to expose everything? That is imposter syndrome. And if you have ever felt it, you are not broken. You might just be responding to an environment that was never fully designed with you in mind. This episode goes deeper than the usual "believe in yourself" advice. It explores where imposter syndrome actually comes from and why women experience it more frequently and more persistently throughout their careers. You will walk away with: * An understanding of why imposter syndrome is not just a confidence problem, it is often a systemic response to environments that taught you to doubt yourself * A clear explanation of attribution theory and why women are more likely to credit luck instead of their own capability * The concept of the "third shift" and why cognitive overload is connected to self-doubt in ways we rarely talk about * Six practical tools you can use right now, including the ta-da list, feelings vs facts columns, and borrowing confidence before you feel it * A new question to ask yourself the next time self-doubt shows up: is this really about me, or is this about what I am responding to? Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, draws on academic research, attribution theory, and her own honest experience of imposter syndrome to make this one feel like a conversation you actually needed to have. Press play. This is the episode that might finally change the question you ask yourself. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]