The Unraveling Achiever

24. when your career is built on proving yourself

24. when your career is built on proving yourself When your career is built on proving yourself, you're chasing external validation, addicted to achievement, and your worth is tied to your performance and productivity. You need the recognition, the praise, people to see how good you are. Because without that external validation, you're not sure you're enough. In this episode, I share three messages: how to know you're trying to prove yourself, what that's causing, and a step to take. Your career can be built on authenticity, not proving. --- Full Notes: Today's episode is about when your career is built on proving yourself. If that phrase landed for you - if you felt something shift or tighten when you heard it - this episode is for you. Here's what a career built on proving yourself looks like: You're chasing external validation. You're addicted to achievement. Your worth is tied to your performance and productivity. You need the recognition. You need the praise. You need people to see how good you are, how hard you work, how much you accomplish. Because without that external validation, you're not sure you're enough. And so you keep pushing. You keep performing. You keep achieving. Not because the work lights you up. Not because it's deeply fulfilling. But because you're trying to prove that you're qualified, that you're valuable, that you deserve to be here. And it's exhausting. Because no matter how much you achieve, it's never quite enough. There's always something coming up short. There's always a way you could have done it better. There's always someone who might find out that you're not as good as they think you are. I received three messages for you. Here's what came through. -- IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: * 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever * 00:46 When Your Career Is Built on Proving Yourself * 02:35 Message One: How to Know You're Trying to Prove Yourself * 04:57 Message Two: What Trying to Prove Yourself Is Causing * 07:29 Message Three: A Step You Can Take - Shift to What Lights You Up * 10:41 Bringing It All Together * 12:27 Soul Reading -- THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: * You're chasing external validation * Your worth is tied to your performance and productivity * You need constant recognition and praise * You're your harshest critic * You fear being found out as unqualified * The work doesn't bring you joy * You're obsessed with being recognized * You do work to be admired, not fulfilled * You're exhausted from constantly proving yourself -- RESOURCES MENTIONED: No external resources mentioned in this episode. --- READY TO GO DEEPER? If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper. Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next. Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading] --- LET'S STAY CONNECTED: * Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/] * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelamckayllc/] * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amckay1/] * Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/newsletter] --- ABOUT THE PODCAST: The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

23. if you've been in a mood lately

23. if you've been in a mood lately If you've been feeling impatient, easy to agitate, irritated, resentful, weighed down – this episode is for you. You've noticed an uptick in these feelings. It doesn't feel like you. You don't want to be this way, but you're having a hard time not being that way. In this episode, I share three messages: you're trying to do too much (there's a sneaky attachment to proving your worth through busyness – put something down), take care of your whole self including medical care (talk to your doctor about hormones, perimenopause, menopause, and address the basics), and your moodiness is affecting your relationships (put yourself on the receiving end of your sharp words to see the impact). Moodiness is a signal that something is off, something is too much, something needs to shift. --- Full Notes: Today's episode is for you if you've been in a mood lately. I'm not talking about one bad day. I'm talking about noticing that you've been feeling impatient, easy to agitate, irritated, resentful, weighed down, snappy, short. These aren't the only things you're feeling, but you've noticed an uptick. And it's starting to feel concerning. It doesn't feel like you. You don't want to be this way. You don't like how it feels to be irritated all the time or to snap at people you care about. But you're also having a hard time not being that way. It's like you can't quite pull yourself out of it. You need some help sorting the root of this and finding a way out of it. Because moodiness isn't just moodiness. It's a signal. It's your system telling you that something is off, something is too much, something needs to shift. I received three messages for you. Here's what came through. -- IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: * 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever * 00:42 If You've Been in a Mood Lately: What's Underneath It * 02:08 Message One: You're Trying to Do Too Much – Put Something Down * 04:45 Message Two: Take Care of Your Whole Self – Including Medical Care * 07:54 Message Three: Your Moodiness Is Affecting Your Relationships * 11:05 Bringing It All Together * 12:36 Soul Reading -- THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: * You've been feeling impatient, irritable, resentful lately * It doesn't feel like you * You don't want to be this way but can't stop * You're snapping at people you care about * You feel weighed down * You've normalized carrying too much * You've been neglecting self-care and medical care * You're worried about the impact on your relationships -- RESOURCES MENTIONED: No external resources mentioned in this episode. --- READY TO GO DEEPER? If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper. Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next. Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading] --- LET'S STAY CONNECTED: * Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/] * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelamckayllc/] * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amckay1/] * Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/newsletter] --- ABOUT THE PODCAST: The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

22. what to know about money

22. what to know about money Money is on a lot of our minds. It's tangled up with our work, our worth, our security. For some, it feels like never enough. For others, it slips too easily through their hands. In this episode, I share three practical messages: address the extremes you're living in (overindulgence or over-restriction – both block abundance), look up and around (you have more support and resources than you think, break the scarcity mindset), and take your power back (the world is in your hands, stop giving power to old money stories). Each message includes concrete actions you can take this week to shift your relationship with money. --- Full Notes: Today's episode is about money. Money is on a lot of our minds. Because for most of us, money isn't just money. It's tangled up with our work, our worth, our sense of security, our freedom - or lack of it. We relate our work to money. We measure success by how much we earn. And if we're really honest, sometimes we tie our worth as a person to the money we make or have. Our relationship with money is complicated. For some, it feels like it's never enough. No matter how much you make or save, it doesn't feel like enough. There's always this underlying anxiety that you need more. For others, money feels like it slips too easily out of your hands. You work hard, you earn it, and then it's gone. And for some, it's both. I received three messages for you. Here's what came through. -- IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: * 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever * 00:43 What to Know About Money: Our Complicated Relationship * 02:14 Message One: Address the Extremes - Overindulgence or Over-Restriction * 05:11 Message Two: Look Up and Around - You Have More Support Than You Think * 07:36 Message Three: The World Is in Your Hands - Take Your Power Back * 10:36 Bringing It All Together * 11:48 Soul Reading -- THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: * Money feels like it's never enough * Money slips too easily through your hands * You tie your worth to how much you make * You overspend and then feel guilty * You deny yourself and live in scarcity mindset * You feel stuck in old money stories * You're ready to shift your relationship with money * You want practical actions you can take this week -- RESOURCES MENTIONED: No external resources mentioned in this episode. --- READY TO GO DEEPER? If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper. Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next. Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading] --- LET'S STAY CONNECTED: * Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/] * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelamckayllc/] * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amckay1/] * Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/newsletter] --- ABOUT THE PODCAST: The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

21. how to stay true to yourself

21. how to stay true to yourself For high achievers, staying true to yourself is one of the hardest things to do. You've spent so much time doing for others, doing for appearance, following prescribed paths, meeting expectations. Somewhere along the way, staying true to yourself got buried. It takes real intention to pause and ask: Is this actually me? In this episode, I share three messages: remember who you were before the world told you who to be (reconnect with childhood joy), pause before you act and align your actions with your true intentions (not just doing for the sake of doing), and reconnect with what brings you enjoyment and pleasure (you've forgotten what you actually like). --- Full Notes: Today's episode is about how to stay true to yourself. For high achievers especially, this is one of the hardest things to do. Because as high achievers, we've spent so much of our lives doing for others, doing for appearance, doing what we thought we were supposed to do. Following the prescribed path. Meeting expectations. Making sure everyone around us was taken care of, impressed, or satisfied. And somewhere along the way, staying true to yourself got buried underneath all of that. Staying true to yourself takes intention. Real intention. It takes pausing in the middle of your busy, productive, successful life and asking: Is this actually me? Or is this what I think I'm supposed to be doing? It takes reconnecting with who you are at your core - not who you've become in order to succeed or be accepted. And it takes giving yourself permission to choose you, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar. I received three messages for you. Here's what came through. -- IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: * 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever * 00:43 How to Stay True to Yourself: Why This Is Hard * 02:17 Message One: Remember Who You Were Before the World Told You Who to Be * 04:30 Message Two: Pause Before You Act - Align Your Actions with Your True Intentions * 06:38 Message Three: Reconnect with What Brings You Enjoyment and Pleasure * 09:26 Bringing It All Together * 10:28 Soul Reading -- THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: * You've spent years doing for others and doing for appearance * You've gotten so good at meeting expectations that your own truth became quiet * You're not sure who you are outside of what you accomplish * You do things just for the sake of doing them * You've forgotten what you actually enjoy * You feel disconnected from yourself * You want to reconnect with who you are at your core * You need permission to choose you -- RESOURCES MENTIONED: No external resources mentioned in this episode. --- READY TO GO DEEPER? If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper. Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next. Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading] --- LET'S STAY CONNECTED: * Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/] * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelamckayllc/] * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amckay1/] * Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/newsletter] --- ABOUT THE PODCAST: The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

20. what you need to let go of

20. what you need to let go of If you want to move forward, you can't bring everything with you. You have to make space for what you want to come in. In this quick-moving season (spring, Aries energy), I'm sharing three messages about what you need to let go of to move forward in an aligned way: let go of the "shoulds" and the "I'll just do it myself" mentality, let go of the victim and martyr mindset (even if it's how you feel valuable), and let go of what's not actually fueling you (the things you use to escape vs. the things that truly fill you up). Letting go creates space. And space is what allows what you want to arrive. --- Today's episode is about what you need to let go of in order to move forward in the way that you would want to. We're in a quick-moving season - spring, Aries energy - and if you're interested in aligned movement, this is for you. If we want to go where we're going, we can't bring everything with us. We always have to make space for what we want to come in, to arrive. If we don't create space for it, it can't come to us. And if it were to come to us, we wouldn't be able to receive it because everything is already full. There is no space for that thing to arrive. This topic can be tough, especially for high achievers, because we get wrapped up in the I-can-handle-it-all mentality. And we can sure try to handle it all, but you're likely going to see the effects - stress, overwhelm, burnout, anxiety, depression, physical ailments. We want to keep our drive up, but focused on the direction we want to go and what we want to call in, rather than continuing to hold baggage that needs to be let go. I received three messages for you. Here's what came through.   IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR: * 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever * 00:42 What You Need to Let Go Of: Creating Space * 02:56 Message One: Let Go of the "Shoulds" and "I'll Just Do It Myself" * 05:20 Message Two: Let Go of the Victim and Martyr Mindset * 07:57 Message Three: Let Go of What's Not Actually Fueling You * 11:13 How These Create Space * 14:00 Soul Reading   THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: * You're caught in the "I can handle it all" mentality * You follow prescribed ways because that's how it's "supposed" to be done * You default to "I'll just do it myself" * You find yourself in victim or martyr mindset * You attach your value to how much you do * You use things to escape rather than truly fuel you * You know you need to look at something but keep turning away * You want to move forward but feel stuck carrying too much   RESOURCES MENTIONED: No external resources mentioned in this episode. --- READY TO GO DEEPER? If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper. Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next. Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading]   --- LET'S STAY CONNECTED: * Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/] * Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelamckayllc/] * LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amckay1/] * Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.angelamckayllc.com/newsletter] --- ABOUT THE PODCAST: The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.