#72 Part III of V: You Cannot Change Them But You Can Influence Them

#72 Part III of V: You Cannot Change Them But You Can Influence Them

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450061/fan_mail/new] The strongest relationships can trigger the strongest control reflex. When someone we love is making choices that scare us, hurt us, or pull them off course, “helping” can quietly turn into fixing and fixing can turn into pressure, resentment, and distance. I’m Sharon Murphy, a certified life and mindset coach, and I’m speaking directly to the women who want to be happy and holy while navigating real family tension with adult children, spouses, siblings, and even parents. We get honest about the hard truth: we cannot change another person’s thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. That realization can sting, especially when the stakes feel moral, spiritual, or deeply personal. But it’s also the doorway to peace and to genuine influence. I share a clear framework for shifting out of fix-it mode and into a posture that honors free will and dignity while still loving with strength and clarity. You’ll learn five concrete practices to build influence over time: being humbly honest (and sharing your own experience instead of preaching), affirming the good without manipulation, staying receptive to the person and to what God may be showing you, persevering when change feels slow, and surrendering control so your suffering becomes meaningful instead of unbearable. If you’ve been stuck in “What do I say to make them change?” this will help you move toward “Who am I becoming, and how is God inviting me to love?” Subscribe for the rest of the series, share this with a friend who’s carrying family stress, and leave a review so more people can find the support they need. Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call [https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call] https://sharonkcoaching.com/ [https://sharonkcoaching.com/] https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You [https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You]

#71 Part II of V: Laughter And Shared Fun Strengthen Family Bonds

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450061/fan_mail/new] We make a case for play as a missing piece in strong, healthy family relationships, especially when life feels stressful and relationships feel strained. We share how to create fun without turning every gathering into a fixing session, and why joy can be both healing and holy.  • why families who laugh together tend to gather more often  • the difference between play time and problem solving time  • how “hot topics” derail connection at dinners, holidays, and game nights  • why laughter lowers defenses and builds an emotional bank account  • simple ways to create fun: games, movies, walks, shared stories, new experiences  • how traditions create belonging through consistency  • why holiness and joy belong together, with faith based perspective on humor and delight  • a practical challenge to plan one fun moment and avoid hard topics  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon KCoach.com. That's Sharon the Letterk Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call [https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call] https://sharonkcoaching.com/ [https://sharonkcoaching.com/] https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You [https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You]

#70 Healthy Family Relationships: Part I of V - Two Essential Ingredients Every Family Must Have

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450061/fan_mail/new] We explore why strong family relationships matter so much for happiness and flourishing, especially as more families face division and estrangement over differences. We share two research-backed habits that keep families connected over time: tolerating disagreements and choosing forgiveness.  • the rise of family estrangement and disconnection over beliefs, politics, lifestyles, expectations, and unresolved hurts  • why long-term happiness tracks more with relationships than wealth, status, or achievement  • two essential ingredients for strong family bonds: tolerating disagreements and forgiving one another  • the difference between agreement and understanding and how being heard changes everything  • what tolerance actually means and why trying to control beliefs damages connection  • how forgiveness works without denying harm and without abandoning healthy boundaries  • choosing connection over winning and staying at the table when conflict shows up  • closing prayer for grace to love, listen, and forgive  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon Kcoaching.com. That's Sharon the LetterK Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call [https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call] https://sharonkcoaching.com/ [https://sharonkcoaching.com/] https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You [https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You]

#69 From Surviving To Thriving Through Life's Storms: With Special Guest - Theresa Matters

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450061/fan_mail/new] We sit down with Teresa Matters to talk about finding peace when life feels chaotic, from divorce and grief to daily overwhelm and anxious spirals. We share how Catholic mindset coaching helps us manage our thoughts, invite Jesus into real moments, and move from fear toward clarity and freedom.  • Teresa’s background as a lifelong Catholic mom and coach  • Walking through divorce, annulment, and grief while rebuilding life  • How Teresa’s dad’s diaconate shaped faith and trust  • Why Catholic mindset coaching helps with overthinking and anxiety  • What makes coaching different from therapy while still supporting healing  • Little Way Freedom and who Teresa primarily serves  • PBJ Pause Breathe Invite Jesus as a daily practice  • Modeling simple prayer and emotional regulation for kids  • What clients can expect to gain: peace, joy, clarity, freedom  There’s a link for Teresa or myself for a free discovery call. It’s a 30-minute call, and it’s not just an interview, it’s a time for you to get help in any area of your life.  If you’ve enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform and feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you’ve heard about.  Free PB&J Kit: How to Invite Jesus Into Everyday Moments:  https://mailchi.mp/0cc46e6a3d32/pbj-kit [https://mailchi.mp/0cc46e6a3d32/pbj-kit] IG: https://www.instagram.com/little.way.freedom/ [https://www.instagram.com/little.way.freedom/] Join The Little Way Community: https://theresamatters.thrivecart.com/little-way-community/ [https://theresamatters.thrivecart.com/little-way-community/] Email Theresa: http://littlewayfreedom@gmail.com [http://littlewayfreedom@gmail.com] Book A Discovery Call with Theresa: https://calendly.com/tmatters/1hour [https://calendly.com/tmatters/1hour] Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call [https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call] https://sharonkcoaching.com/ [https://sharonkcoaching.com/] https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You [https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You]

#68 The Power & Purpose Of Regret

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450061/fan_mail/new] Regret has a way of sneaking into the quiet moments, replaying old conversations and parenting decisions like a loop you can’t turn off. I’m Sharon Murphy, a certified life and mindset coach, and today I’m speaking directly to mothers, especially moms of adult children, who feel the weight of “I should have done it differently” and wonder if it’s too late to make things right. We get honest about what regret really is: an emotional signal that something in the past didn’t align with our values, wisdom, or hopes. Then we make a crucial distinction that can change your spiritual life and your relationships: regret isn’t automatically the problem. What matters is whether it becomes a teacher or a prison. We walk through healthy regret that leads to humility, repentance, wisdom, and compassion, and we contrast it with unhealthy regret that turns into condemnation, despair, and hiding from God. You’ll also get practical tools for emotional healing and Christian growth, including questions to discern whether a thought is moving you toward action or paralysis, peace or despair. I share a motherhood example many of us relate to, plus three simple steps to transform the moment: name it, learn it, and release it. For Catholic listeners, we also talk about confession as a real encounter with Christ’s mercy and how to stop “resurrecting” what God has already forgiven. If this helps you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who’s carrying regret in silence. What part hit home most for you? Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call [https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call] https://sharonkcoaching.com/ [https://sharonkcoaching.com/] https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You [https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You]