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ADHD and Alcohol with Liz

Today’s guest is Liz, a 51-year-old writer living in the UK, who joins us to share her story about gray area drinking, late-diagnosed ADHD, and finding freedom through an alcohol-free life. In this episode: * Liz explained how alcohol gradually became woven into every aspect of her life  She reflected on years spent trying to moderate, feeling deprived on non-drinking days  * We explored how late-diagnosed ADHD and perimenopause created the “perfect storm,” * Liz explained how discovering the neurological connection between ADHD and alcohol helped her replace shame with understanding and self-compassion. * why moderation often creates more mental turmoil than freedom * Liz also spoke warmly about the role of the Tribe Sober community, the Breaking Free course and friendships formed in sobriety. We’ve just opened up our tenth Breaking Free program [https://www.tribesober.com/breaking-free/] for enrolment so you can find more info on our website or just email me janet@tribesober.com [janet@tribesober.com] You can join our 7 day Reset program by clicking on this link [https://chat.whatsapp.com/DrvTbFUP8E95OUYIXaNmdX]  One of the most powerful parts of the conversation is Liz’s realization that sobriety does not remove joy - it allows genuine joy to re-emerge. She describes feeling freer, calmer, more authentic and more hopeful about the future than she has in years. You can contact Liz via her blog - here is the link  [https://lizrwalden.wixsite.com/theviewfrom5-2/post/51-years-in-the-foothills] * More Info This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Read more about our program and subscribe HERE [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) 1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY. 2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field. 3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes). 4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews. 5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).

Creating from the Future Instead of the Past

Creating From the Future Instead of the Past Why the Brain Chooses Alcohol and How Recovery Rewires Us In this week’s episode, Lynette explores why lasting sobriety is not simply about willpower — it’s about understanding how the brain works. Our brains are prediction-making machines. They are constantly reaching for what feels familiar, even when those familiar patterns are hurting us. Alcohol, overthinking, scrolling, numbing, people pleasing, avoidance — these can all become practiced neural pathways that the brain automatically returns to in moments of stress, uncertainty, or emotional discomfort. In this deeply reflective episode, Lynette explores: * Why the brain confuses familiar with safe * How automatic thought patterns like “I deserve it” become conditioned pathways * The role of uncertainty in addiction and emotional coping * Why awareness is the first step in rewiring * The “vending machine brain” metaphor and how we begin stocking the mind differently * How tiny repeated choices reshape identity and emotional resilience * Why recovery is repetition, not perfection * The power of community, support, and nervous system regulation in healing * How Tribe Sober, Path to Purpose, and Positive Intelligence help create lasting transformation Lynette also shares the story of “Lisa,” a woman beginning her sober journey and learning to recognize voices like Association Alice, Moderation Mary, and the Wine Witch — and how catching these patterns begins changing the brain itself. This episode is an invitation to stop living from autopilot and begin creating consciously from the future instead of the past. In this episode: * “The brain predicts from the past. Recovery asks us to create from the future.” * Why the thoughts you practice become the thoughts your brain prefers * The neuroscience behind habit loops and emotional survival patterns * How small daily shifts create profound identity change over time * Why healing struggles in isolation but grows in community Reflection for the week: Audit one small pattern honestly: * The first hour of your morning * The voice you use after a mistake * The last app you check before bed * The stories you rehearse most often Then change one thing by 10%. Not dramatically. Just intentionally. Enough for your brain to notice: “We are doing something differently now.” Resources & Support https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/ [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] To connect with Lynette: lynette@llrcoaching.com Music Credit Intro and outro music: “Remember” by Sutherland.

How an Identify Shift Changes Everything with Nigel Jones

Nigel Jones is a hypnotherapist, life coach and author of Walking Back to Happiness. He is over five years alcohol-free — and in this conversation he shares a powerful insight that sits right at the heart of lasting change: 👉 Identity We talk about why so many people struggle to quit drinking… why willpower alone doesn’t work… and how shifting from “I’m a drinker trying to stop” to “I’m a non-drinker” can change everything. Nigel explained how repeated attempts to quit failed — until he made one crucial shift: changing his identity. Instead of seeing himself as “a drinker trying to stop,” he stepped fully into the identity of a non-drinker — and everything changed. Together, we explored: * Why identity is the foundation of lasting sobriety * How limiting beliefs keep us stuck in the drinking cycle * The “tabletop technique” for dismantling false beliefs about alcohol * Why alcohol promises what sobriety actually delivers * How visualising your future self can accelerate change * The role of environment, community, and “your tribe” in recovery * The surprising physical benefits of quitting — including Nigel’s calculation that he’s saved 26 million heartbeats Nigel also shared some practical tools from hypnotherapy and coaching that can help you rewire your thinking and build a fulfilling alcohol-free life. You can contact Nigel via his website….9kmby9am [https://www.9kmby9am.com/] You can join our 7 day Reset program by clicking on this link [https://chat.whatsapp.com/DrvTbFUP8E95OUYIXaNmdX]  * More Info This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Read more about our program and subscribe HERE [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) 1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY. 2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field. 3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes). 4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews. 5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).

Stop Drinking to Truly Living : Your Path to Purpose

From Stopping Drinking to Truly Living: Your Path to Purpose   We often talk about stopping drinking… and yes, that is the first powerful step. But what happens next? Because for so many of us, alcohol was never the real problem. It was the coping mechanism. The plaster over something deeper — our unhappiness, our uncertainty, our disconnection, our sense that life wasn’t quite working. In this episode, Lynette shares her personal journey beyond early sobriety — through the flatness of anhedonia, through the discomfort of not knowing, and into the deeper work that truly changed her life. This is the space where many people struggle… The space where the old coping mechanisms call us back. The space where we either return to old patterns — or begin to evolve. Lynette explores: * Why stopping drinking is just the beginning * The role of uncertainty in keeping us stuck * How outdated beliefs keep us trapped in cycles of “revolving” * The shift from victimhood to personal power * Why real transformation is a daily practice, not a one-time event At the heart of this episode is a powerful question inspired by Dr Edith Eger Are you evolving… or revolving? 🌿 A Gentle Invitation If you are Sober and feeling that pull for something more… More meaning More connection More purpose More you Then this may be your moment to go deeper. Lynette’s Path to Purpose membership is designed for this stage — the stage beyond stopping drinking, where we begin to free ourselves from old patterns, outdated beliefs, and the mental prisons that keep us stuck. This is about: * Rewiring your thinking * Releasing emotional and physical tension * Reconnecting to your authentic self * Creating a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and alive 👉 Explore Path to Purpose: https://www.tribesober.com/path-to-purpose/ [https://www.tribesober.com/path-to-purpose/]   📩 Or reach out directly to Lynette: lynette@llrcoaching.com 🎶 Music Credit Intro and outro music: “Remember” by Sutherland If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who might need to hear it today. Because stopping drinking is not the end of the story… It’s the beginning of your life.

Don't Try Harder...Try Different - with Community Manager Monica

Today I’m joined by my colleague Monica. She’s the Community Manager for Tribe Sober and she’s also celebrating her 5th Soberversary next week. I’ve known Monica since her first Day One and it’s giving me such joy to walk alongside her on this life changing journey.   In this conversation, we explored: * Why so many people struggle for years before reaching out for help * The trap of trying to do it alone * Why relapse is part of the learning process * The importance of community and connection in recovery * How mindset — not willpower — is the key to lasting change * The danger of “I can have just one” thinking * Practical tips for getting started Monica shares powerful advice for anyone at the beginning of their journey: 👉 Don’t try to do it alone 👉 Treat sobriety as a project 👉 Plan your alcohol-free life, not your drinking 👉 Stay connected and keep showing up 👉 And most importantly — don’t try harder, try different This episode is a reassuring reminder that there is no such thing as failure — only learning — and that with persistence, curiosity, and the right support, lasting change is possible. * More Info This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program.  If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Read more about our program and subscribe HERE [https://www.tribesober.com/join-our-tribe/] Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help.  Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) 1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY. 2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Recover Like a Mother) into the search field. 3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes). 4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews. 5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).