Trust Me Mom

40. What French Parents Do Differently: Sleep, School, Food & Independence

What is it really like raising children in France?In this episode of Trust Me Mom (season 2, Episode 40), I sit down with parenting coach Sasha Romary, an American mom who has lived in France for more than 20 years and is raising two multi-lingual children in Paris.We discuss the biggest differences between French and American parenting, the French education system, bilingual kids, ADHD accommodations, school lunches, independence, potty training struggles, and why French culture expects children to adapt to the system early.Sasha also shares practical parenting advice from her work as a sleep and potty training consultant, including common mistakes parents make during potty training and why so many toddlers struggle with pooping on the potty.If you are curious about parenting in Europe, raising bilingual children, or navigating modern motherhood, this episode is packed with honest insights and practical takeaways.✨ Topics we cover:• Raising bilingual and trilingual children• Why French kids become independent early• French schools vs American schools• ADHD and neurodivergent children in France• French school lunches and food culture• Parenting pressure in French culture• Potty training mistakes parents make• Fear of pooping on the potty explained• Working parent life in Paris• How French parenting shapes resilience📍Follow Sasha Romary:Instagram: @SashaRomaryParentingWebsite: SashaRomary.com00:00 Introduction01:02 How Sasha Moved From America to France03:17 Raising Bilingual and Trilingual Children05:56 Do Multiple Languages Cause Speech Delays?08:33 French Education System Explained12:53 ADHD and Learning Differences in French Schools15:27 School Breaks and How Working Parents Cope20:35 Do French Kids Play Outside Independently?22:56 When Children Start Using Public Transportation Alone24:03 Why French Parenting Prioritizes Independence26:32 Homework Expectations for French Kids29:21 The French Grading System30:29 Teacher Feedback and Parenting Pressure34:31 French School Lunches and Food Culture36:59 Biggest Potty Training Mistakes Parents Make39:56 Why Toddlers Fear Pooping on the Potty44:15 Sasha’s Parenting Coaching Services44:51 Final Thoughts#FrenchParenting #ParentingPodcast #BilingualKids #ParentingTips #ADHDParenting #PottyTraining #RaisingKids #TrustMeMom #Motherhood #ExpatLife #FrenchSchools #WorkingMom #ParentingAdvice #SleepTraining #ToddlerParenting

39. The Brutal Truth About Being a Working Mom and How 3% Bias Turns Into Massive Inequality

Why does the gender gap still exist, even when women are more educated, ambitious, and hardworking than ever?In this episode of Trust Me Mom (Season 2, Episode 39), journalist and author Stefanie O’Connell breaks down the hidden systems behind workplace inequality, the myth of “work-life balance,” and why individual effort alone isn’t enough to fix it.From the motherhood penalty to the fatherhood bonus, and the shocking truth about bias compounding over time, this conversation will change how you see work, power, and equality.00:00 Introduction & Stefanie’s Background01:50 From Theater to Financial Journalism05:52 What Actually Helps People Earn More08:02 Why the Gender Pay Gap Still Exists12:04 Hidden Bias in Hiring & Promotions16:12 Global Perspective on Gender Inequality18:48 Why Inequality Is So Persistent24:48 The Myth of Individual Empowerment28:51 The Truth About Work-Life Balance32:40 The “Free Time Gap” Explained34:49 Debunking Traditional Gender Roles36:06 The Reality of Working Motherhood38:00 Double Standards Women Face at Work43:08 Can Working Moms “Win”?#WorkingMoms #GenderGap #WomenAtWork #CareerAndMotherhood #PayGap #Feminism #WorkLifeBalance #MentalLoad #Leadership #TrustMeMom #WomenEmpowerment #MotherhoodPenalty

38. Why Working Moms Are Set Up to Struggle

What happens when motherhood collides with a system that wasn’t built to support it?In this powerful conversation with Alexa Starks, founder of Executive Moms and Mothered Magazine, we unpacked the reality of modern motherhood, workplace inequities, and the systems that shape women’s lives. From navigating toxic return-to-work experiences to redefining ambition, Alexa shared her journey from corporate leader to outspoken advocate for systemic change. Together, they explored concepts like matrescence, the hidden struggles of postpartum life, and why so many moms feel like they’re failing—when in reality, the system is failing them.00:00 – Introduction & Meet Alexa Starks01:30 – From Corporate Career to Motherhood Reality03:30 – Why Alexa Started Executive Moms05:30 – “Motherhood Made Me Feral”06:45 – The Truth About Resilience in Mothers09:00 – What is Matrescence?11:50 – Identity Shift: Becoming “Mom”13:40 – The Reality of Breastfeeding15:20 – Motherhood Then vs Now17:00 – Patriarchy Explained20:50 – What is Matriarchy (Really)?24:00 – Women, Power & Society28:40 – Dealing with Criticism & Online Hate31:20 – Why Haters Mean You’re Doing Something Right33:20 – How to Create Real Change36:40 – Masculinity, Femininity & Balance42:30 – U.S. vs Netherlands: Parenting & Culture45:30 – Final Thoughts: It’s Not You, It’s the System#WorkingMoms #Motherhood #Matrescence #ParentingPodcast #WomenInLeadership #CareerAndMotherhood #Feminism #ModernMotherhood #WorkLifeBalance #TrustMeMom #MomLife #ParentingTruths #WomenEmpowerment #GenderEquality #PostpartumJourney

37. School Refusal vs. School Phobia: What Every Parent Needs to Know

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of Trust Me Mom,I sit down with Dr. Elena Merenova, a school psychologist with over 20 years of experience, to unpack a topic many parents quietly struggle with — why kids refuse to go to school. Is it just a phase? A hidden problem? Or something moreserious like school phobia? Dr. Merenova shares real-life stories, practical strategies,and deeply insightful advice to help parents understand, support, and empower their children. 00:00 Introduction & Meet Dr. Elena Merenova 02:00 What is school refusal vs school phobia? 03:30 Real-life example: When a small issue becomes a big problem 06:50 How rare is true school phobia? 08:30 Who should be involved in helping a child? 11:20 Case study: Severe school phobia and recovery journey 18:30 Why small steps and celebrating wins matter 21:00 Peer influence vs parental influence (age 12+) 25:30 What to do if your child has “bad influences” 28:00 Mild school refusal: boredom, stress, and lack of motivation 30:20 What if your child is bored at school? 32:40 Social struggles and isolation at school 34:40 Teaching kids that “boring is part of life” 37:20 How parents shape mindset and resilience 39:40 When boredom becomes something more serious 41:40 Depression in children: signs, causes, and treatment 46:20 Parenting by example: what kids really learn 48:50 Key advice for parents dealing with school refusal 50:50 Why forcing kids (even calling police) is NOT the solution 51:10 Learning disabilities and confidence issues 53:30 How to build confidence in your child 55:50 Finding what your child is good at 57:00 What if your child is depressed? 58:10 Parenting reflections: what to do differently 01:00:30 How to build trust with your child   #ParentingTips #SchoolRefusal #SchoolPhobia #ChildPsychology#ParentingAdvice #MentalHealthKids #ConfidenceInKids #TrustMeMom#ParentingPodcast #ChildDevelopment #AnxietyInChildren #RaisingKids #MomLife#ParentingSupport #EducationMatters

36. Why So Many Couples Start Fighting After Having Kids| Mental Load, Marriage & Modern Fatherhood

Why do so many couples struggle after having kids? In this episode of Trust Me Mom, I sit down with Alex Trippier @alexindadland — podcast host, writer, teacher, and speaker — to unpack the most common relationship mistakes parents make, especially around mental load, invisible labor, modern fatherhood, motherhood, conflict, and emotional connection.We talk about why both spouses often feel exhausted, how resentment builds, and why the transition to parenthood can become one of the hardest seasons in a marriage. Alex shares his personal journey as a dad who believed he was doing everything right — until he realized how much invisible labor his wife was carrying behind the scenes.To learn more about Alex, check https://www.youtube.com/@alexindadlandhttps://www.instagram.com/beahappierparent/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/be-a-happier-parent/id1814419814 00:00 Intro01:16 Meet Alex Trippier02:14 How his relationship struggles led to deeper insight04:30 Discovering mental load and invisible labor07:14 Why women feel overwhelmed in modern marriage08:07 “I was showing up, but not carrying the planning”09:04 What mental load looks like in real life11:35 How men can start helping without being told15:23 Mistakes, learning, and fixing what you mess up17:25 Why praise and appreciation matter in relationships21:11 The Gottman Four Horsemen explained22:04 Why couples argue more after kids27:05 A breakthrough: shifting from “you vs me” to teamwork30:36 The chair story: how childhood shapes conflict31:21 Why early parenting feels so hard31:47 Is staying home with kids harder than people think?37:33 Why fathers need real solo parenting time39:57 Victorian masculinity and modern relationships44:34 Strength, vulnerability, and healthy masculinity46:16 Parenting without fear48:10 Hope for parents of teenagers50:29 Why trust matters with older kids50:58 Why modern parenting feels more stressful52:10 Final advice for struggling couples53:53 The real root of relationship imbalance #TrustMeMom #AlexTrippier #MentalLoad #InvisibleLabor #ModernMarriage #ParentingPodcast #Fatherhood #Motherhood #Relationships #MarriageAdvice #Gottman #