The Difference Between Guilt, Shame & Embarrassment (And Why It Matters) (The Edge)

The Difference Between Guilt, Shame & Embarrassment (And Why It Matters) (The Edge)

After Kelly’s conversation with Dr. Frank Spinelli, she and Chip couldn’t stop thinking about one question: what’s the difference between guilt, shame, and embarrassment, and why do so many of us confuse them? This week, they unpack the ideas that stuck with them most, including where shame has shown up in their own lives, how it can quietly keep us playing small, and why the need to belong makes shame such a powerful force. They also discuss why shame has been used as a form of social control throughout history and what it looks like to move toward more self-acceptance instead. And because it’s Kelly and Chip, they also somehow end up talking about their travel outfits and a few other completely unrelated things along the way.   Preorder Dr. Spinelli's book The Shame Compass [https://www.frankspinelli.com] or his website here. (FrankSpinelli.com [https://www.frankspinelli.com]) Dr. Spinelli's Instagram: @fspineellimd [https://www.instagram.com/fspinellimd/]   Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Why Shame Isn't the Enemy: Dr. Frank Spinelli on Trauma, Healing & Self-Acceptance (The Velvet)

Dr. Frank Spinelli spent more than 20 years as a practicing physician, helping others while privately battling alcohol addiction and carrying the weight of unresolved childhood trauma. After being forced to revisit his own experience of childhood sexual abuse during the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case, he began to understand shame in a completely different way, ultimately developing a new framework for healing that became the foundation of his book, The Shame Compass. In this episode, Kelly and Dr. Spinelli explore why shame isn't something to eliminate, but something to understand. They discuss the difference between shame and guilt, how trauma shapes the way we see ourselves, practical tools for working through emotional triggers, and why self-acceptance starts with curiosity instead of judgment. Preorder Dr. Spinelli's book The Shame Compass [https://www.frankspinelli.com] or his website here. (FrankSpinelli.com [https://www.frankspinelli.com]) Dr. Spinelli's Instagram: @fspineellimd [https://www.instagram.com/fspinellimd/]   Watch The Velvet's Edge on YouTube! [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge] Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

How to Build Your Dream Life (Without Waiting to Be Happy) (The Edge)

What does your ideal life actually look like? Could you describe it in detail? Or are you chasing a version of success you’ve never really defined? Inspired by Kelly’s July astrology conversation with Marvin Wilkerson, Kelly and Chip explore the importance of creating a clear vision for the life you want while remembering to enjoy the one you’re living today. They discuss how daily habits shape your future, why so many of us postpone happiness until we reach the next milestone, and the surprising power of finding joy in life’s simple pleasures. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

July Energy Forecast with Marvin Wilkerson: The Power of Being Present (The Velvet)

Kelly sits down with Marvin Wilkerson for a look at the energy of the month ahead and the themes that may be showing up in all of our lives. Instead of getting caught in the pressure to do more, fix more, or figure everything out, Marv shares why this season may be inviting us back to something much simpler: presence. Together, they explore the patterns many people are experiencing right now, how to work with periods of uncertainty, and why slowing down enough to enjoy the small moments might be the most important work of all. If you've been feeling pulled in a hundred directions, this conversation offers a refreshing reminder that peace isn't always found in the next achievement—it can be found right where you are. Book a personal chart reading with Marv: marvin@astromarv.com [marvin@astromarv.com] Book: Soul Fusion Healing [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1965360548/?bestFormat=true&k=soul%20fusion%20healing%20book%20paperback&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-pd-bk-d_de_k2_1_10&crid=1G1PL0L2VZOFR&sprefix=soul%20fusio] Visit Marvin's Website at astromarv.com [http://astromarv.com/], blhypnosis.com [https://www.blhypnosis.com], or SoulFusionHealing.com [https://soulfusionhealing.com] Watch The Velvet's Edge on YouTube! [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge] Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOST: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

What No One Says About Being Child-Free (The Edge)

Society talks endlessly about having kids — but no one really talks about not having them. This week, Kelly and Chip open up about what it’s like to live a child-free life in a world that still expects everyone to follow the same script. They talk about the pressure to become parents, the guilt and judgment that comes with choosing a different path, the surprising joys of child-free life, and the emotional nuance that no one ever acknowledges. From identity and purpose to societal expectations and double standards, this is a real, honest conversation about a lifestyle that’s more common than people admit — but rarely discussed. Watch us on YouTube! (By clicking this [https://m.youtube.com/velvetsedge]) Email us: theedge@velvetsedge.com [theedge@velvetsedge.com] TikTok: @velvetsedge [https://www.tiktok.com/@velvetsedge] Follow the podcast on Instagram: @VelvetsEdgePodcast [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedgepodcast/] HOSTS: Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] // velvetsedge.com Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch [https://www.instagram.com/chipdorsch/] Follow Velvet's Edge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/ [https://www.instagram.com/velvetsedge/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.