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Why Your Intended Message is Misunderstood: George Torok

20 min · 9. juli 2026
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What You Say is Not What They Hear What is the Difference Between Your Intended and Unintend Message? Episode 313 (Solo show featuring George Torok) In this episode we explore: * why your whole message includes more than the words you intend to send * four reasons your intended message might not get through * why clarity in your head does not guarantee clarity for the listener * how beliefs and past experiences filter what people hear * how emotional state changes the meaning people receive * why setting and delivery method influence interpretation * how recent events can reshape audience receptiveness * why unintended messages act like static around your main point * how vocabulary and grammar influence credibility * how body language can contradict spoken words * how pace, pitch and inflection alter meaning * why missing information can distract listeners * how audience engagement strengthens communication * how to reduce unintended messages before they sabotage your intended message ----- Your Host, George Torok: Is known as the Speech Coach for Executives because he’s been coaching executive leaders to convey their messages with more confidence and success for 30 years. For 19 years, he hosted the radio show, Business in Motion, interviewing over 600 business and community leaders. As host of the podcast, Your Intended Message, he has interviewed communication specialists from 16 countries. George is co-author of the national bestseller, Secrets of Power Marketing, and contributed to 12 other books. His articles have been featured in magazines around the world, and he’s written over 2,000 blog posts. An adventurer, he’s visited over 30 countries on five continents and has run 12 marathons. ----- Key Lessons from this episode: * Your whole message includes both the message you intend to send and the unintended messages that travel with it. * Clarify your message before you speak. A message that feels clear in your head might become confusing when converted into words. * Your intended message can fail because people were not listening, did not understand you or did not believe you. * Communication requires several translations: from the thoughts in your head, into words, through the listener’s filters and finally into meaning in their mind. * Your audience filters your message through beliefs, past experiences, emotional state, setting, perspective and recent events. * Recent experiences can influence how people receive your next message. An unresolved issue might block acceptance of a new idea. * Unintended messages create communication static that can blur, weaken or contradict what you meant to convey. * Vocabulary and grammar send messages about clarity, credibility and professionalism beyond the literal meaning of your words. * Body language and voice can support your intended message or create doubt when they conflict with your words. * The method of delivery matters. Email, phone, video, coffee conversation and boardroom discussion each shape how a message is received. * Missing information can distract listeners when you raise a question but fail to answer it. * Audience engagement strengthens the message. Reading slides or text can weaken connection and reduce attention. * Distractions exist in the room, on the screen and inside the listener’s mind. * Effective communicators pay attention not only to what they intend to say, but also to the unintended messages attached to their delivery. ----- ----more---- Your Intended Message is the podcast about how you can boost your career and business success by honing your communication skills. We’ll examine the aspects of how we communicate one-to-one, one to few and one to many – plus that important conversation, one to self. In these interviews we will explore presentation skills, public speaking, conversation, persuasion, negotiation, sales conversations, marketing, team meetings, social media, branding, self talk and more.   Your host is George Torok George is a specialist in communication skills. Especially presentation. He’s fascinated by the links between communication and influencing behaviors. He delivers training and coaching programs to help leaders and promising professionals deliver the intended message for greater success.   Connect with George www.SpeechCoachforExecutives.com [http://www.speechcoachforexecutives.com/] https://superiorpresentations.net/ [https://superiorpresentations.net/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/georgetorokpresentations/] https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskill [https://www.youtube.com/user/presentationskills1]

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