The Approval Trap: Why We Keep Seeking Worth From Others

You Are Not Meant To Be Like Everyone Else

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/fan_mail/new] We spot a rare red finch and use it as a mirror for the pressure to blend in, then follow that thread into why so many “normal” days quietly feel like suffering. We treat boredom as a serious emotional signal and land on a simple question that helps us reclaim choice without blowing up our lives.  • noticing how often we live by other people’s priorities  • separating the task from the story our mind adds to it  • boredom as a message rather than a personality trait  • how prestige and “important” jobs can still feel empty  • the mental loop of bills, duty, and feeling trapped  • why stepping out of line gets challenged  • the Monopoly analogy for staying in a losing game  • asking “What do I want?” to break the pattern Support the show [https://ko-fi.com/stateofmindhypnosis] We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com [http://www.somhypnosis.com] Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about [https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about] Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507] Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

Are You Resisting What Is? The Definition Of Suffering

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/fan_mail/new] We talk about how suffering often comes from resisting reality, not from the hard facts themselves. We break down how judgment and rumination become habits, then share simple ways to observe what’s happening in your mind and choose a better next step.  • recognizing what is beyond your control and stopping the mental fight  • treating suffering as a mental habit rather than a life sentence  • noticing how family, friends, and culture teach us default reactions  • separating preference from judgment using the ice cream example  • seeing how hate and blame isolate us and weigh on the body  • using “name it to tame it” to shift from “I am” to “there is”  • trying quick regulation tools like peripheral vision and long exhales  • replacing endless rumination with a small, clear “what do I want now?”  I know a really cool school they could join. The infinite mind. Support the show [https://ko-fi.com/stateofmindhypnosis] We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com [http://www.somhypnosis.com] Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about [https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about] Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507] Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

How To Stop Suffering Over What You Can’t Control

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/fan_mail/new] We get honest about the strange suffering of waiting for something you can’t force, using our six-month home sale limbo as the real-life backdrop. We explore how resistance turns into blame and rumination, then practice a cleaner pivot: shifting attention toward hope by asking “What do I want?” • the stress of selling a home and living in limbo • how “should” thinking creates unnecessary suffering • why blame fuels anger and never fixes conditions • Stoicism as choosing your response over control • Taoism and the “be like water” model of adaptation • Buddhism on attachment, resistance, and the source of suffering • using awareness and attention as a practical lever • manifestation as a hopeful mental experiment, not a guarantee • the question “What do I want?” as a doorway to possibility • letting go as stepping back from the wall • finding support through friends, yoga, and online community Support the show [https://ko-fi.com/stateofmindhypnosis] We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com [http://www.somhypnosis.com] Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about [https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about] Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507] Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

How Can We Turn Gratitude Into A Daily Habit?

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/fan_mail/new] We talk about gratitude as a mental habit we can train, not a mood we wait for. We share simple ways to observe our thoughts, shift out of worry, and land in a calmer state fast.  • noticing beauty we usually take for granted, from colors outside to small comforts at home  • using a gratitude jar and daily prompts as gentle reminders  • stepping back to observe thoughts, then choosing what we focus on  • building bedtime gratitude into a repeatable habit and pairing it with dream guidance and a notebook  • defining gratitude as “this is the way it is, and it could have been different”  • checking stress with one question: does this require my attention now  • turning worry into planning by asking what we want and what could improve the moment  • protecting our minds from negative inputs like scrolling, news, and other people’s thought patterns  • closing with a tiny gratitude meditation that lifts how we feel Support the show [https://ko-fi.com/stateofmindhypnosis] We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com [http://www.somhypnosis.com] Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about [https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about] Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507] Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support

Your Body Holds Messages: Do You Want To Hear Them?

Ask us a Question or Leave a Comment! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/fan_mail/new] We explore why physical symptoms can connect to emotions and life events, and how a simple reframing can turn pain into useful information instead of a personal betrayal. We lean on Louise Hay’s “Heal Your Body,” nervous system basics, and our own experience with hypnosis-style listening to show how relief often starts with awareness and kinder self-talk.  • Louise Hay’s symptom chart and why it can feel uncomfortably accurate  • Mind-body evidence through placebo, biofeedback, and epigenetics  • Emotions as messages that seek resolution rather than suppression  • A real fear scenario and practical ways to calm the stress response  • Longer exhales and peripheral vision as fast regulation tools  • Why the body “holds” what we refuse to feel  • Talking to the cells and shifting self-criticism into support  • Knee pain meanings and the left-right relationship lens  • Back pain themes around support and receiving help  • Using affirmations alongside medication and medical care Support the show [https://ko-fi.com/stateofmindhypnosis] We  hope this helps a little as you go through your day. We would love to hear your feedback or questions. We will respond to both in future episodes.    Check us out at  www.somhypnosis.com [http://www.somhypnosis.com] Join our online Community!  https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about [https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/about] Email us at info@somhypnosis.com Start your own podcast with Buzzsprout! https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507] Support Coffee With Hilary & Les https://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support