Conversations from the Heart

What do you do when someone you love keeps using emotional blunt force instead of listening? When the men in your life still believe criticism is caring, or that dominance equals dialogue? In this week’s episode, we sit with two brave women learning how to communicate with men who are still playing by old, outdated rules where vulnerability is weakness, power is control, and connection gets sacrificed for the illusion of authority. We explore what it means to keep our hearts open without abandoning ourselves, to name what hurts without making someone wrong, and to build bridges without betraying our own inner truth. You’ll hear real-life moments, fresh language to try, and permission to stop performing “good girl” energy just to keep the peace. In this raw and real episode, two women ask: How do I stay in connection with someone who keeps hurting me? Why do I freeze or fawn when I know better? SHOW NOTES:  * Why old-school masculinity often shows up as dismissal, control, or withdrawal * How women often internalize the pressure to stay sweet, silent, and obedient * What to say (and not say) when our boundaries are being ignored * The art of exiting a conversation with grace and power * How to bring “bad girl” energy back into wholeness This episode is for anyone tired of talking to a wall, and ready to start listening to themselves. 🎧 Tune in now, and reclaim your voice, your power, and your peace. Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me this summer as I host my Inner Grounding Summer Series. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/the-inner-grounding-series-join-now/]We'll explore strengthening inner sovereignty, centering hope, and choosing truth over comfort. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com [http://yvetteerasmus.com/]. Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at: https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Here are more ways to connect with me: * Become a member of my online learning community [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] * Join our calls live [https://yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-join-now/] * Set up a private session [https://yvetteerasmus.com/therapy-coaching/] * Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.yvetteerasmus]

You pulled away. They’re still mad. Now what? In this raw and deeply human episode, we unpack exactly what to say—and how to stay grounded—when you’re ready to reconnect after silence, space, or rupture.  Whether you were isolated by trauma or just needed room to breathe, this episode offers repair scripts, emotional insights, and the one mindset shift that changes everything. In this episode, you’ll learn: •How to craft a heartfelt message to reconnect after distance •What to say when your friend is still angry (without getting defensive) •A reframe for “running away” that honors your healing •How to stay open when shame, fear, or guilt try to take over •The difference between apologizing and collapsing •What to do if the conversation doesn’t go how you hoped You’ll hear real-time coaching with two community members navigating: •Friendship rupture and reconciliation •Emotional honesty without self-erasure •The courage it takes to rebuild trust—step by step Whether you’re the one who stepped away or the one left wondering why, this conversation is a masterclass in emotional maturity, repair, and self-responsibility. 🎧 Listen now—and don’t miss the closing tools to stay steady when the stakes feel high. Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me this summer as I host my Inner Grounding Summer Series. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/the-inner-grounding-series-join-now/]We'll explore strengthening inner sovereignty, centering hope, and choosing truth over comfort. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com [http://yvetteerasmus.com/]. Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at: https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Here are more ways to connect with me: * Become a member of my online learning community [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] * Join our calls live [https://yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-join-now/] * Set up a private session [https://yvetteerasmus.com/therapy-coaching/] * Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.yvetteerasmus]

Ever find yourself carrying someone else’s emotional backpack… and wondering why your shoulders hurt? Today we unpack four real-life questions about emotional boundaries, relational burnout, and the art of letting go of what was never yours to hold. You’ll hear raw, relatable stories, from being exiled from a beloved community group, to walking away from a relationship where you were doing all the emotional heavy lifting, to healing a strained mother-daughter dynamic, and navigating triggering conversations around money. If you’ve ever wondered: * “Am I responsible for fixing this?” * “How do I honor my limits without hurting someone else?” * “Why do I feel so hooked right now?” …this episode offers guidance, clarity, and a whole lot of compassion. You’ll learn: * Why fixing is disapproval * How to set a boundary without bracing for a fight * A script for naming recurring patterns without activating defensiveness * What to say when someone demands emotional labor you can’t give * Why your triggers might be invitations (not threats) Come for the aha moments, stay for the soul-soothing reframes. This one’s a deep dive into the messy, brave work of staying rooted in yourself—especially when it would be easier to collapse, comply, or control. A Special Offer for My Podcast Listeners: Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me this summer as I host my Inner Grounding Summer Series. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/the-inner-grounding-series-join-now/]We'll explore strengthening inner sovereignty, centering hope, and choosing truth over comfort. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com [http://yvetteerasmus.com/]. Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at: https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Here are more ways to connect with me: * Become a member of my online learning community [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] * Join our calls live [https://yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-join-now/] * Set up a private session [https://yvetteerasmus.com/therapy-coaching/] * Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.yvetteerasmus]

Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me this summer as I host my Inner Grounding Summer Series. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/the-inner-grounding-series-join-now/]We'll explore strengthening inner sovereignty, centering hope, and choosing truth over comfort. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com [http://yvetteerasmus.com/]. Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at: https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Here are more ways to connect with me: * Become a member of my online learning community [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] * Join our calls live [https://yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-join-now/] * Set up a private session [https://yvetteerasmus.com/therapy-coaching/] * Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.yvetteerasmus]

This tender and deeply resonant episode follows a heartfelt question from listener Cathy: Do I keep talking to my brother, even after all the harm he’s caused? What unfolds is an intimate exploration of how to stay rooted in our own integrity when we’re torn between love and protection, compassion and accountability, connection and boundaries.  We dive into how to love someone clearly, without collapsing into enabling, appeasing, or pretending. Cathy shares the painful complexity of loving a sibling who’s caused irreversible harm - some unethical, some illegal - and the grief of wanting connection without pretending the pain never happened. Warning:  Strong language is used, so be careful if little ones are listening in!  📝 Shownotes: * Do you have to forgive to love someone again? (Minute 12) * What to say when someone you love won’t take responsibility (Minute 20) * The difference between “enabling” and “accepting” (Minute 27) * A real-life script to stay honest and kind (Minute 35) * How to protect your inner child in hard family relationships (Minute 41) * Why punitive force backfires - and what to do instead (Minute 50) This episode is a masterclass in the art of loving honestly, and in choosing relationship without gaslighting yourself. Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me this summer as I host my Inner Grounding Summer Series. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/the-inner-grounding-series-join-now/]We'll explore strengthening inner sovereignty, centering hope, and choosing truth over comfort. For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com [http://yvetteerasmus.com/]. Get 20% off your annual NVC Library subscription using the code YVETTENVCLIBRARY at checkout at: https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library [https://nvcacademy.com/registration/signup/nvc-library] Here are more ways to connect with me: * Become a member of my online learning community [https://yvetteerasmus.com/membership-join-now/] * Join our calls live [https://yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-join-now/] * Set up a private session [https://yvetteerasmus.com/therapy-coaching/] * Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus [https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.yvetteerasmus]