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When Stress Wins for a While, The Dark Place, Learning to Act Myself Out

10 min · 6 de mar de 2026
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This episode almost didn’t happen. The last couple of weeks completely stress-tested my ability to cope. Between our pony Elvis being diagnosed with laminitis, work feeling uncertain, and the general chaos of the world right now, my brain tipped into what I call “the dark place.” A weekend of doom scrolling, junk food, wine, and doing absolutely nothing showed me again how quickly stress can knock me off track. In this episode I talk honestly about what happens in my brain during those stress spirals, why you can’t think your way out of them, and how small actions – not motivation – are what slowly pull me back out. I also share how I’ve been using AI as a kind of thinking tool to help me regain control when everything feels overwhelming. This is not a life guide. Just a real conversation about what it looks like to fall down, get back up, and try again.

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