S3E19 When the System Wounds, Who Do We Forgive?

S3E25 The Mother Wound: Identity, Boundaries and Forgiveness

Friends, In this episode, I explore the mother wound: how early relational experiences shape identity, distort boundaries, and quietly influence how we relate to ourselves, others, and even God. I focus my discussion primarily on the mother-daughter relationship.  Many daughters grow up learning to perform for love, manage emotional climates, and abandon their own needs in order to maintain connection. Over time, these adaptations can harden into identity. This episode is especially for those who have done years of healing work, yet still feel something unresolved beneath the surface. And for those listening who wonder if this applies to you, you may find your own story reflected here, or gain deeper compassion for those you love. Key Takeaway: You are not defined by what was missing. You are being restored into who you were created to be. Resources: Karyl McBride – Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Lindsay Gibson – Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Kristin Neff – Self-Compassion Research Bessel van der Kolk – The Body Keeps the Score Craig Malkin – Rethinking Narcissism Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E24 Sacred Battleground: Forgiveness and the Heart

Friends,  If forgiveness takes place in the heart, what kind of heart is capable of forgiving? In Episodes 21 and 22, I explored the anxiety that often accompanies forgiveness and practical ways to move through it. In this episode, we go into the heart itself. June is dedicated to the Sacred Heart of Jesus [https://youtu.be/i46vhtZKKJ8?si=9qustQDvw-dHDwv0], a devotion that invites us to contemplate Christ's boundless love for humanity. As I reflected on the image of the Sacred Heart, exposed, wounded, crowned with thorns, and burning with love, I began to wonder what it might teach us about forgiveness. Many of us move through life with either a hardened heart or a guarded heart. We have been wounded. We have learned to protect ourselves. But is there a difference between protecting our hearts and closing them off completely? Drawing from Scripture, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and the example of Jesus Himself, I explore what it means to cultivate a heart that is ready to forgive. The Sacred Heart reminds us that suffering does not have to harden us. Through grace, our wounds can become places where God's mercy enters and transforms us. Resources Mentioned: * Devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus [https://www.catholic.com/tract/the-sacred-heart-of-jesus-catholic-answers-guide] * Catechism of the Catholic Church #2843 * Proverbs 4:23 Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGifthttps://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] * Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptinhttps://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E23: Created for Love: Restoring Authentic Desire in a Pornified Culture

Friends,  In this episode, I sit down with Catholic Coach, Husband, and Father, Andrew Lanchoney, to discuss the impact of pornography on the human person and the journey toward healing and freedom.   Together, we explore the deeper questions beneath pornography use: What are we really searching for? Why do so many people feel stuck? And how do we begin restoring authentic desire in a culture that often reduces people to objects for consumption? Drawing on the wisdom of St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body, this conversation offers hope for anyone who has struggled personally, loves someone who has, or wants to better understand the cultural forces shaping our view of human dignity. Freedom is possible. Healing is possible, and authentic love begins when we recognize that we were created for love, not use. Andrew’s Links:  Email: alanchoney@gmail.com  Website: https://www.andrewlanchoneycoaching.com/ [https://www.andrewlanchoneycoaching.com/] Reference: Theology of the Body: https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/theology-of-the-body [https://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/theology-of-the-body] Are you a Christian woman 40+ who has done all the things to heal from trauma and betrayal, but knows deep down forgiveness is still incomplete? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal starting tomorrow. Click HERE [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass]to learn more and register. Connect with Dr. Carron *       Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGifthttps://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *       Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptinhttps://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] *      Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E22 Tips for Overcoming Forgiveness Anxiety

Friends, What if the anxiety you feel around forgiveness isn’t resistance… but protection? In this episode I explore the very real fear, confusion, and nervous system responses that can surface when we begin considering forgiveness after trauma, betrayal, abuse, or deep emotional pain. Forgiveness is often presented as simple or immediate, but for many people, the thought of forgiving can activate shame, panic, dissociation, hypervigilance, or emotional overwhelm. Why? Because our bodies remember what happened, even when our minds try to move on. Drawing from trauma research, somatic healing principles, and Christian spirituality, I explain how forgiveness anxiety may actually be a signal that deeper healing and safety are needed first. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why forgiveness can feel unsafe in the body * How trauma responses impact our ability to forgive * The connection between embodiment, emotional safety, and interior freedom * Why misunderstanding forgiveness keeps many people stuck * The difference between authentic forgiveness and forced forgiveness * How unresolved trauma can manifest physically through chronic stress and mind-body symptoms * Why becoming a “student of forgiveness” can reduce fear and confusion References:  van der Kolk, Bessel A. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. [1 [https://catalog.freelibrary.org/Record/2097674/Cite], 2 [https://saalck-uky.primo.exlibrisgroup.com/discovery/fulldisplay?context=L&vid=01SAA_UKY:UKY&docid=alma9941964344802636]]  Levine, P. Retrieved from YouTube, May 26, 2026  https://youtu.be/e4If-3mQtLA?si=KWMOhhWWR_z2KYE4 [https://youtu.be/e4If-3mQtLA?si=KWMOhhWWR_z2KYE4] If forgiveness has felt overwhelming, unsafe, or impossible, this episode offers a gentler path forward — one rooted in honesty, nervous system awareness, compassion, and healing. Are you: * A high-achieving Christian woman? * Survivor of Trauma and Betrayal? * Have done all the things - therapy, wellness classes, spiritual growth practices? * And still feel like something is missing? Join us for the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release, and Renewal.  [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass]We start next Wednesday! Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E21 Why Forgiveness Can Feel So Scary

*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.  Friends,  In this episode, I explore one of the most difficult and rarely discussed questions surrounding forgiveness: Who will I be if I let go of unforgiveness? For many people, unforgiveness is not simply an emotional response to pain. It becomes intertwined with identity, safety, survival, and even spirituality. When we’ve lived for years inside betrayal, abuse, abandonment, or grief, forgiveness can feel less like freedom and more like losing ourselves. In this episode, I share my own journey through childhood sexual abuse recovery and explore: * how wounding can become part of our identity, * why the nervous system resists unfamiliar peace, * the attachment we develop to our personal stories, * the spiritual pressure many Christians feel around forgiveness, * and how repeated emotional patterns shape the brain over time. If forgiveness feels scary to you, you are not broken. You may simply be standing at a crossroads between survival and freedom. This episode offers compassion, insight, and hope for those who feel stuck in resentment, grief, fear, or confusion around forgiveness. Reference(s): Van Der Kolk, B.A., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. Learn more about the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release & Renewal.  [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.