Good Moms Bad Choices

What does it look like to heal your relationship with your mom while raising a daughter of your own? In this episode, Good Moms reflect on healing alongside their mothers, the challenges of letting go of old patterns, and the unexpected lessons that surface when you start to see your mom as “just a girl” too. They talk about caretaking, validation, breaking cycles of criticism, and the emotional labor of holding space for the women who once held it for you. Timestamps * (07:45) The power of staring into your mothers eyes * (19:20) Seeing your mom as “just a girl” and shifting the dynamic * (28:10) Mommy-pleasing, validation, and unlearning criticism * (40:30) How childhood patterns reappear in adult relationships * (01:05:15) Paul Pierce [https://www.instagram.com/p/DNj0bYots5z/?img_index=1&igsh=OG1qYXY1Z21vZGVq] comment showcases: * How harmful it is to assume women’s value in relationships is tied to beauty or “submission. * The flawed idea that dating a so-called “5 or 6” guarantees loyalty or effort. * How men with this mentality often avoid women with opinions or standards because it forces accountability. * Why choosing a partner should be like choosing teammates for a strong family — you’d want someone smart, capable, and supportive, not someone you can just control. * (01:18:00) Submission, gender wars, and questions about partnership * (01:28:45) Ciara's interview on The Breakfast Club [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DNqBSLYh2-n/?igsh=c3I3YzZ5eGZoanl1] and what "corny" really means- Russell Wilson, Future, and what it means to lead a family * (01:43:20) Ciara's perspective on choosing a partner with integrity & remember... your mother is just a girl too! Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices [https://www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @TheGoodVibeRetreat [https://www.instagram.com/thegoodviberetreat?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Good.GoodMedia [https://www.instagram.com/good.goodmedia?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @WatchErica [https://www.instagram.com/watcherica?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Milah_Mapp [https://www.instagram.com/milah_mapp?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co [https://blackgirlvitamins.co/?snowball=GoodMoms20&utm_source=snowball&utm_medium=youtube-first-cohort-campaign&utm_campaign=GoodMoms20]and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

This week Erica and Milah are joined by artist, author, and one of the first guests on the show, Amina Buddafly [https://www.instagram.com/aminabuddafly/?hl=en]. The ladies talk about why self-worth can’t be tied to a bank account, the truth about influencer finances, motherhood, and moving forward when life doesn’t go as planned. You can expect to hear: * The reset moms don't talk about and not being ashamed about starting over  * Amina talk about moving her kids after eviction and starting over * Breaking the silence around financial stress and survival mode * Clearing the air on the Peter Gunz Dallas drama * Why she has no regrets about Love & Hip Hop * Knowing when compromise becomes self-betrayal * When you don’t have space, you can’t create. Share this episode with someone who may need to hear that financial struggle doesn’t define you and that sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices [https://www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @TheGoodVibeRetreat [https://www.instagram.com/thegoodviberetreat?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Good.GoodMedia [https://www.instagram.com/good.goodmedia?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @WatchErica [https://www.instagram.com/watcherica?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Milah_Mapp [https://www.instagram.com/milah_mapp?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM] Kiiro Toys [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=4&aff_id=1538]: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co [https://blackgirlvitamins.co/?snowball=GoodMoms20&utm_source=snowball&utm_medium=youtube-first-cohort-campaign&utm_campaign=GoodMoms20]and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Sometime Brunch with your friends just ISN'T enough time.   This week on Good Moms, chat about the magic of adult sleepovers and why untimed, leisurely hangouts with friends are just as essential in adulthood as they were when we were kids.   What you can expect to hear: (02:13) Empowering your kids set up their own playdates: “Go get her number on a piece of paper.” (06:24) Camping stories & adult friend sleepovers (14:35) Erica’s short-term roommate experiment (24:00) High school reunions (30:25) PSA for white women dating Black men (48:00) Whorie ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  [https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoms_badchoices] Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions [https://form.typeform.com/to/mlKFldCQ]   Catch up with us over at Patreon  [https://www.patreon.com/GoodMomsBadChoices]and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! [https://www.facebook.com/goodmomsbadchoices/]   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices [https://www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @TheGoodVibeRetreat [https://www.instagram.com/thegoodviberetreat?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Good.GoodMedia [https://www.instagram.com/good.goodmedia?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @WatchErica [https://www.instagram.com/watcherica?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Milah_Mapp [https://www.instagram.com/milah_mapp?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]   Kiiro Toys [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=4&aff_id=1538]: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co [https://blackgirlvitamins.co/?snowball=GoodMoms20&utm_source=snowball&utm_medium=youtube-first-cohort-campaign&utm_campaign=GoodMoms20]and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms are joined by attorney, media personality, author, and the first Black Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay [https://www.instagram.com/therachlindsay/?hl=en]. From growing up in Texas with a federal judge for a dad to navigating heartbreak, law school, and the search for "love" on reality TV, they get into love, loss, legacy and what she wishes more reality stars knew. You can expect to hear:  (09:00) Growing up in a strict, achievement-focused Black family—and how being a judge’s daughter shaped her mindset (11:30) Going to law school, pledging Delta, and the moments that made her question everything she thought she knew (12:30) Her first heartbreak, losing her virginity at 20, and why she believes purity culture is dangerous (17:50) Her “athlete era,” chasing fun, and realizing what she didn’t want in a relationship (20:30) How she ended up on The Bachelor, and the gut feeling that told her she had to do it (23:50) The truth about being the first Black Bachelorette, respectability politics, and how she was chosen to be “palatable” for white audiences (25:00) Her master plan to stay quiet during filming and speak out after the season aired (27:00)The power of being seen: why Black women deserve the fairy tale, too ( and why she felt called to bring that to screen) (28:00) Her advice to future reality TV stars: be strategic and own your narrative (30:00) Why she’s not rushing into dating post-divorce and how she felt as a woman paying alimony to her EX-HUSBAND to maintain HIS lifestyle. (31:00) Why she refuses to watch Love Island, and how most dating shows still miss the mark on diversity ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM] Kiiro Toys [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=4&aff_id=1538]: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co [https://blackgirlvitamins.co/?snowball=GoodMoms20&utm_source=snowball&utm_medium=youtube-first-cohort-campaign&utm_campaign=GoodMoms20]and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Erica and Milah continue their sit down with bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) as she unpacks the emotional and physical labor of being a truth-teller in a culture addicted to fantasy.   Now two decades removed from the release of Confessions of a Video Vixen, Elizabeth reflects on the hollowness of fame, the cost of being first, and why men should marry the "slut".   The ladies chat about: * Making trauma informed choices and hyper-sexualition * Men lying about sleeping with Karrine to boost their SEO (not her SEO PUS*Y lol) * They explore the question: Do you have a problem, or do you just have a baby daddy lol * A special whorie from Milah & Karrine ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  [https://www.youtube.com/@goodmoms_badchoices] Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions [https://form.typeform.com/to/mlKFldCQ]   Catch up with us over at Patreon  [https://www.patreon.com/GoodMomsBadChoices]and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! [https://www.facebook.com/goodmomsbadchoices/]   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices [https://www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @TheGoodVibeRetreat [https://www.instagram.com/thegoodviberetreat?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Good.GoodMedia [https://www.instagram.com/good.goodmedia?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @WatchErica [https://www.instagram.com/watcherica?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==] @Milah_Mapp [https://www.instagram.com/milah_mapp?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] ------------------------------------------------ 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Good Vibe Retreat [https://www.wetravel.com/users/good-moms-bad-choices] 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Our summer retreats in Costa Rica are almost here! Book now, pay later because healing should fit your budget too!! Option 1: July 31st- August 5th Option 2: August 8th- August 13th Use promo code ESCAPE at checkout for a deal you don’t want to miss. ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM]   Kiiro Toys [https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=4&aff_id=1538]: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co [https://blackgirlvitamins.co/?snowball=GoodMoms20&utm_source=snowball&utm_medium=youtube-first-cohort-campaign&utm_campaign=GoodMoms20]and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.