The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

If your kid refuses therapy, what other options are there? Or maybe they don’t refuse therapy, but you’d still like to increase the therapeutic support for your child and family. Here are 20 different non-therapy therapeutic supports based on Dr. Perry’s work of ‘moments of healing’ and experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory Over on my website, you can download a handout that lists them all out (and was generated with the help of AI) so you don’t have to take notes! Resources mentioned in this podcast: * Moments of Healing Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/presencing-from-here-to-healing/id1783962473] * How the Brainstem Heals {EP 49} [https://robyngobbel.com/howthebrainstemheals/] * Equine-Assisted Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy {EP 51} [https://robyngobbel.com/equinetherapy/] Read the full transcript at: URL goes here Follow Me On: Facebook [https://facebook.com/robyngobbelmsw] Instagram [https://instagram.com/robyn.gobbel] Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior [http://robyngobbel.com/masterclass] (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment [https://robyngobbel.com/ebook] (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources [https://robyngobbel.com/freeresources] Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club [https://robyngobbel.com/theclub] Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With [https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith] Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors! Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app. RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors [https://RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors] for all the details and to sign up! It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources [https://RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources] ::: The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store [https://robyngobbel.com/store] ::: Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook [https://robyngobbel.com/book] Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub [https://robyngobbel.com/TheClub] Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith [https://robyngobbel.com/BeingWIth]

Have you ever wondered what types of questions you should ask a new therapist to assess how well they understand behaviors through the lens of the nervous system? No need to take notes during this episode, I created downloadable handouts you can access with just one click. Listen to the episode then head over to my website! PLEASE NOTE. These are suggestions. Please vet your professionals thoroughly. I’m certain there are many important questions left off of this list. I’m also certain there are many excellent trainings that I did not include in the list of potential trainings. Also, even if a therapist meets all the criteria, that doesn’t mean they are the right therapist for your family. Even someone trained with me isn’t necessarily the therapist or professional that is right for you.  In this episode, you’ll learn * Questions you can ask a therapist to get a feel for how well they conceptualize behaviors through the lens of the nervous system * Red flags to pay attention to * Trainings on a therapist’s resume that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of ‘all behavior makes sense.’ Resources mentioned in this podcast: * Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist. Download by CLICKING HERE [https://robyngobbel.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/What-to-Look-for-in-a-Therapist.pdf] * Trainings a therapist may have that suggest they conceptualize behavior through the lens of the nervous system. Download by CLICKING HERE [https://robyngobbel.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Recommended-Trainings.pdf] * When Your Child Doesn't Participate In Therapy {EP 86} [https://robyngobbel.com/childintherapy/] (also has an infographic many therapists use to describe therapy to parents) Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/questionsfortherapist [https://robyngobbel.com/questionsfortherapist/] Follow Me On: Facebook [https://facebook.com/robyngobbelmsw] Instagram [https://instagram.com/robyn.gobbel] Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior [http://robyngobbel.com/masterclass] (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment [https://robyngobbel.com/ebook] (FREE) Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors! Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app. RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors [https://RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors] for all the details and to sign up! It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources [https://RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources] ::: The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store [https://robyngobbel.com/store] ::: Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook [https://robyngobbel.com/book] Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub [https://robyngobbel.com/TheClub] Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith [https://robyngobbel.com/BeingWIth]

Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more co-regulation than other kids their age and yes it’s exhausting. Did you know it’s possible to be GOOD exhausted and not just BAD exhausted?!?!  It’s you’re chronically exhausted, you’re probably not doing as much co-regulation as you are masking how dysregulated you are. And hey- no judgment here! This is very explicitly a no-judgment episode. I don’t want you to feel bad or even try to do anything different. In this episode, you’ll learn * The difference between co-regulating and masking * How doing something really hard (like co-regulating a child with a vulnerable nervous system day in and day out) means that YOU need more connection and co-regulation, too! * That you don’t need to try to do anything different right now, it’s too much work to do anything different. In this episode, I’ll just ask you to notice- without judgment Resources mentioned in this podcast: * Stress Response System {EP 94} [https://robyngobbel.com/stressresponse/] Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/coregulatingormasking Follow Me On: Facebook [https://facebook.com/robyngobbelmsw] Instagram [https://instagram.com/robyn.gobbel] Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior [http://robyngobbel.com/masterclass] (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment [https://robyngobbel.com/ebook] (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources [https://robyngobbel.com/freeresources] Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club [https://robyngobbel.com/theclub] Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program [https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith]for Parenting Professionals Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors! Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app. RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors [https://RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors] for all the details and to sign up! It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources [https://RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources] ::: Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook [https://robyngobbel.com/book] Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub [https://robyngobbel.com/TheClub] Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith [https://robyngobbel.com/BeingWIth]

Have you ever wondered how those behaviors that feel 'on purpose' fit into this nervous system approach? They feel so intentional! Like there is so much Owl-brain thought involved. But they certainly aren't behaviors of connection!!! This episode will: * Demystify 'on purpose' behaviors * Remind you to always consider regulation, connection, and felt safety...then strategize how to respond to those 'on purpose' behaviors accordingly Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors! Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app. RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors [https://RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors] for all the details and to sign up! It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources [https://RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources] ::: Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook [https://robyngobbel.com/book] Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub [https://robyngobbel.com/TheClub] Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith [https://robyngobbel.com/BeingWIth]

Monitoring and modifying are the two essential elements of regulation. ~ Dr. Dan Siegel When we really understand what makes up the skill of self-regulation, we can be more intentional about helping our kids develop those skills. We can also be more understanding and compassionate when they aren't able to use those skills! This episode explores the skills of monitoring (noticing) and modifying (changing) our level of arousal and activation as the main ingredients of self-regulation. Remember that self-regulation can only develop with enough co-regulation. But once there is a strong foundation of co-regulation, we can encourage our kids to develop the skills to notice and change (when appropriate or needed!) their level of arousal.  In this episode, you’ll learn * The main ingredients of self-regulation- monitor & modify * How to scaffold up to teaching kids to monitor and modify * How to have appropriate expectations about your child’s ability to monitor and modify, even after they have learned the skills Resources mentioned in this podcast: * The Whole-Brain Child [https://drdansiegel.com/book/the-whole-brain-child/] - Dr. Dan Siegal * No-Drama Discipline [https://drdansiegel.com/book/no-drama-discipline/] - Dr. Dan Siegal Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/ingredient [https://robyngobbel.com/ingredient/] Follow Me On: Facebook [https://facebook.com/robyngobbelmsw] Instagram [https://instagram.com/robyn.gobbel] Over on my website you can find: Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior [http://robyngobbel.com/masterclass] (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment [https://robyngobbel.com/ebook] (FREE) LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources [https://robyngobbel.com/freeresources] Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club [https://robyngobbel.com/theclub] Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With [https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith] Making Sense of Baffling Behaviors: A FREE audio-only training for professionals who work with the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors! Yes! FREE! You'll listen on your own time, right in your podcast app. RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors [https://RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors] for all the details and to sign up! It starts May 5 and will be available to listen to until May 12. But don't wait to sign up! Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources! You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources [https://RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources] ::: The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store [https://robyngobbel.com/store] ::: Buy Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBook [https://robyngobbel.com/book] Join The Club (or get on the waiting list!) over at RobynGobbel.com/TheClub [https://robyngobbel.com/TheClub] Hop on the waiting list for Being With- an immersive professional training program exploring the neurobiology of big, baffling behaviors at RobynGobbel.com/BeingWith [https://robyngobbel.com/BeingWIth]