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In this lovelustfridays 2024 Year-End Wrap-Up, Hosts Jake, Michele and Producer Haley engage in a candid conversation about relationships, personal growth, and the valuable lessons they've learned throughout 2024. Jake opens up about his three dating rules—and why they still keep getting broken. Michelle reveals her essential dating hygiene must-haves, while Haley reflects on her people-pleasing tendencies and where they stem from. In addition, they delve into the application of AI—specifically ChatGPT—to analyze their personalities and uncover surprising insights. The conversation wraps up with an exciting announcement: a brand new podcast series for 2025, aimed at demystifying the legal system and examining how it impacts relationships. links Michele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ [https://www.michelelocke.com/] https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ [https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/] Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch [https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch] www.HaleyGrayResearch.com  [http://www.haleygrayresearch.com] Additional Links  National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365) Call 1.800.799.SAFE [http://1.800.799.SAFE] (7233) Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline [https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline] https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/] guest + story | submission information  If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below. E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/] submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear [https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear] subscription links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear] Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec [https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec] Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283] RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss [https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss] Want to hear more? Whatever app you’re listening on, just rate us and/or leave us a comment or review. Thank you for your support!

Host Jake Deptula and family law attorney Michelle Locke are joined by Lauryn from Episode 17 of lovelustfear, titled “You Have to Learn to Trust Me.”  Lauryn reflects on her first toxic relationship, sharing the emotional toll of repeated breakups and reconciliations that led her to question her self-worth. She describes how these painful cycles pushed her to emotional extremes and behaviors she didn’t recognize in herself. Lauryn also opens up about her struggles with body image, self-confidence, and how societal pressures influenced her perception of beauty. The conversation delves into the challenges women face today, the journey to self-acceptance, and the critical role of family and friends in overcoming adversity. Michelle offers valuable advice for parents on how to help their children navigate emotionally challenging breakups. links Lauryn Lugo Here’s a link to my show Border’d on YouTube:  https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3XBICHsy7GjVKinY7RhZXh8gy67zOSNZ&si=sYPzspemX3P1e1EG [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3XBICHsy7GjVKinY7RhZXh8gy67zOSNZ&si=sYPzspemX3P1e1EG] Here’s a link to my show Little Things on YouTube:  https://youtu.be/BowNWLggBzQ?si=mGcgCnGkVUrcNdmb [https://youtu.be/BowNWLggBzQ?si=mGcgCnGkVUrcNdmb] Michele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ [https://www.michelelocke.com/] https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ [https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/] Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch [https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch] www.HaleyGrayResearch.com  [http://www.haleygrayresearch.com] Additional Links  NAMI https://www.nami.org/ [https://www.nami.org/] NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. The Gift of Fear Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence by Gavin De Becker (Book) https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0316235776/ [https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0316235776/] One Tree Hill https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Tree_Hill_(TV_series) [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Tree_Hill_(TV_series)] Sources https://people.ucsc.edu/~sgrabe/Shellys_Home_page/Publications_files/Grabe%20&%20Ward,%20Hyde,%20Media%20Meta%20(PB,%202008).pdf [https://people.ucsc.edu/~sgrabe/Shellys_Home_page/Publications_files/Grabe%20&%20Ward,%20Hyde,%20Media%20Meta%20(PB,%202008).pdf]  https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/05/08/dating-and-relationships-in-the-digital-age/ [https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/05/08/dating-and-relationships-in-the-digital-age/]  National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365) Call 1.800.799.SAFE [http://1.800.799.SAFE] (7233) Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline [https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline] https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/] guest + story | submission information  If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below. E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/] submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear [https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear] subscription links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear] Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec [https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec] Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283] RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss [https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss] Want to hear more? Whatever app you’re listening on, just rate us and/or leave us a comment or review. Thank you for your support!  topics | #bodyimage #selfconfidence #toxicrelationships #mediainfluence #personalgrowth #selfworth #societalpressures #healing #friendship #parentingadvice #heartbreak #parenting #emotionalsupport #relationships #love #mentalhealth #copingstrategies #familydynamics #stalking #selfdiscovery #intuition #theater #empowerment

Lauryn’s romance with her movie theater coworker spirals into a toxic cycle of heartbreak, doubt, and obsession, leaving her emotionally crushed but driven to prove her instincts right. chapters (00:00) listen with caution (00:16) next on lovelustfear (02:08) about lauryn (03:14) lauryn’s story (31:26) questions & answers (38:49) closing thoughts (39:53) charity & organizations (40:23) submit your story (40:34) disclaimer quotes "...in middle school when girls and boys were starting to pay more attention to each other. And I had crushes, but they were not reciprocated..." - Lauryn “At the time, I was just like, we're going to be together forever. We had talked about it. You're the love of my life. I'm the love of your life.” - Lauryn "He breaks up with me, I'm devastated, I start to move on, he calls me, we get back together, he starts to pull away again." - Lauryn "I'm crying and sobbing, and I wake my parents up. I wake my mom up, and I tell her…I feel like I'm going to die and I will do anything to make this pain stop." - Lauryn "I'm begging him, begging him, please just break it off with me. I can't do this anymore. I know that you're cheating on me. I know something's going on. I feel it. He was like, I know that we've been through a lot, but you have to learn to trust me." - Lauryn “Most people that know me, I guarantee you would be like Lauren would rather eat glass than sit around and let someone disrespect her because it's not who I am. But back then, it was who I was…” - Lauryn topics #romanticmovies #toxicrelationships #heartbreak #infidelityandbetrayal #selfesteemjourney #comingofagestory #emotionalrecovery #lifeafterheartbreak #loveandselfdiscovery #cheatingandrecovery #teenageromance #lovecycles #findingyourself #healingafterheartbreak #toxiclovepatterns #copingwithbreakups #romanticizedlove #boundariesinrelationships #heartbreaktohealing #redefininglove #trust #stability #doubts #cheating #breakup #devastation #infidelity #confrontation #betrayal #trauma #mentalhealth #recovery #chronicillness #podcasting #awareness #support #podcast music | sounds Music (CC BY 4.0): Lost Place Atmospheres 002 by Sascha Ende Very Low Note by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com [http://incompetech.com/]) Other Music and Sound Effects by Alex Wit, Yevhenii Kovalenko, Syouki Takahashi, Timothy Kulig, Pixabay, Samuel F. Johanns, and UNIVERSFIELD from Pixabay stay aware | follow | share (lauryn) Women Deliver https://womendeliver.org [https://womendeliver.org] An Unwavering Advocate for Girls and Women – Women Deliver We’re a global advocacy organization guided by one end result: that every girl and woman exercises her rights to full bodily autonomy and health. National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365) Call 1.800.799.SAFE [http://1.800.799.SAFE] (7233) Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline [https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline] https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/] story submission information  If you would like to consider being a guest on lovelustfear or would like your story featured anonymously, please contact us below. submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear [https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear] E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/] subscription links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear] Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec [https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec] Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283] RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss [https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss] Want to hear more? Whatever app you’re listening on, just rate us and/or leave us a comment or review. Thank you for your support!

Host Jake Deptula and family law attorney Michele Locke are joined by Lori Morrison, a retired private investigator, speaker, author, podcaster, and church safety coach.  Lori shares her insights into spiritual abuse, the role of women within religious communities, and offers advice for those seeking guidance in handling church-related disputes. The episode also covers Lori’s journey into private investigation and her continued dedication to helping victims through her podcast, The Unlovely Truth. The conversation emphasizes the gender-based power dynamics prevalent in many faiths and how women need to challenge such oppressive structures respectfully but firmly, highlighting the paramount importance of understanding and asserting one's rights. Jake and Michele also discuss their personal experiences with the Catholic Church, addressing issues such as the hypocrisy observed within religious institutions and how churches handle misconduct accusations. They highlight the problematic nature of internal conflict resolution within churches and discuss the broader issues of abuse and cover-ups in various denominations.  links The Unlovely Truth Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unlovely-truth/id1490970256 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-unlovely-truth/id1490970256] Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0oOJagNw54yyATuQ5dI6l0 [https://open.spotify.com/show/0oOJagNw54yyATuQ5dI6l0] Lori Morrison https://theunlovelytruth.com/ [https://theunlovelytruth.com/] https://www.facebook.com/theUnlovelyTruth [https://www.facebook.com/theUnlovelyTruth] https://www.instagram.com/theunlovelytruthpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/theunlovelytruthpodcast/] Michele Locke https://www.michelelocke.com/ [https://www.michelelocke.com/] https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/ [https://www.instagram.com/attorneymichelelocke/] Haley Gray | Producer & Researcher https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch [https://www.instagram.com/HaleyGrayResearch] www.HaleyGrayResearch.com  [http://www.haleygrayresearch.com] Additional Links  National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7/365) Call 1.800.799.SAFE [http://1.800.799.SAFE] (7233) Text: START to 88788  https://www.thehotline.org/ [https://www.thehotline.org/] https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline [https://www.facebook.com/NationalDomesticViolenceHotline] https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/NDVHofficial/] guest + story | submission information  If you have a dating or relationship story to share, want to participate in a discussion here on lovelustfridays, or have a topic you’d like us to cover, contact us below. E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/ [https://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod/] submission link | https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear [https://lovelustfear.aidaform.com/lovelustfear] subscription links Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b06d0ea8-cb29-4c3a-98e6-0249d84df748/lovelustfear] Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec [https://open.spotify.com/show/0e3ndcf5u8lZ5lhN1lvWec] Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovelustfear/id1735876283] RSS feed https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss [https://audioboom.com/channels/5125912.rss] Want to hear more? Whatever app you’re listening on, just rate us and/or leave us a comment or review. Thank you for your support!  topics | #ChurchSafety #SpiritualAbuse #LoriMorrison #PrivateInvestigator #ChurchAccountability #GenderAndFaith #ReligiousReform #AbusePrevention #FaithAndJustice #WomenInChurch #TruthAndHealing #AddressingAbuse #ReligiousHypocrisy #FaithBasedAbuse #TheUnlovelyTruth #ChurchLeadership #ChurchSafetyCoach #EmpowerWomen #ReligiousCommunity #SpeakUpForJustice #SupportSurvivors

Jake Deptula, host of lovelustfear and cohost of Strictly Stalking, sits down with Terra Newell to discuss his journey and the inspiration behind his podcasts. Jake opens up about his own experiences with toxic relationships and how they shaped lovelustfear, which delves into the darker side of dating. Terra and Jake discuss the importance of providing survivors with a platform, creating safe spaces for sharing, and the challenges of covering such sensitive topics. Their conversation also touches on self-discovery, setting boundaries, and the impact of generational trauma.  Terra Newell - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/terranewell/ [https://www.instagram.com/terranewell/] Other links  https://www.terranewellsurvival.com [https://www.terranewellsurvival.com] Barking B**ches  Adopt Juneau! https://www.barknbitches.com [https://www.barknbitches.com] Book a 1 on 1 call!  HTTPS://linktr.ee/terranewell  [HTTPS://linktr.ee/terranewell%20] Terra’s 30 Day Trauma Journal https://square.link/u/DvXXYN27  [https://square.link/u/DvXXYN27%20] Exclusive Content on Patreon! http://patreon.com/Terrasbaddyclub [http://patreon.com/Terrasbaddyclub] lovelustfear - Guest Submission E-mail | lovelustfearpod@gmail.com Instagram | www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod [http://www.instagram.com/lovelustfearpod] Strictly Stalking - Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strictly-stalking/id1494237083 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strictly-stalking/id1494237083] https://open.spotify.com/show/5dw1NJIObaOsj0o7JdruVQ [https://open.spotify.com/show/5dw1NJIObaOsj0o7JdruVQ]