30. Redefining the Village: What Modern Motherhood Actually Requires

30. Redefining the Village: What Modern Motherhood Actually Requires

It takes a village to raise a child — but the village our parents had and the village we're building don’t necessarily look the same. In the final episode of the Ambition After Motherhood series, Bianca sits down with two members of her own village for an honest conversation about what it actually takes to show up as an ambitious mother in a world that wasn't designed to support you. They get into what the village looked like growing up in immigrant households, how their definitions of community have evolved since becoming mothers, the guilt around paid help and why it's time to let that go, the invisible pressures of modern motherhood, and what it really means to be a core memory parent without losing yourself in the process. If you've ever felt like you were supposed to do it all without asking for help, this one is for you. LINKS & RESOURCES Connect with Obi Ikeme, Esq. on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/obi-ikeme/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/obi-ikeme/] Connect with Nkoyo Effiong-Lewis, Esq. on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nkoyoelewis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/nkoyoelewis/] Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] CONNECT WITH BIANCA: LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

29. The Money Conversation Every Mother Wishes She'd Had Sooner

Bianca continues the Ambition After Motherhood series. Nobody tells you that the most loaded financial decisions of your life are going to happen right after you've just pushed a human out of your body. In this episode, Bianca sits down with behavioral money coach and financial therapist Jenny Jean-Baptiste — founder of Surplus Financial and a fellow first-generation professional — for an honest, hilarious, and deeply real conversation about money and motherhood. They get into whether it's actually realistic to save before having a baby, why a lot of us are trying to financially heal through our children instead of for them, how unsupportive partners are quietly tanking women's income potential, why rest is not a reward but a requirement, and the one money conversation every couple needs to have before the baby arrives that has nothing to do with a savings account. This is the episode for the eldest daughter who has been the financial backbone of everyone around her and forgot to put herself in the picture. LINKS & RESOURCES Connect with Jenny: Email: jenny@surplusfinancial.com [jenny@surplusfinancial.com] Text: 508-436-0852 (mention you heard her on Pivot or Perish) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennygjb/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennygjb/] Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about Bianca's coaching: https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] Connect with Bianca:  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer]  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel]  Website: https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

28. Motherhood Grief is Real and Nobody Warns You About It

In this episode of Pivot or Perish, Bianca continues the Ambition After Motherhood series with a conversation about the grief, identity shifts, and emotional weight that can come with motherhood, even when motherhood is deeply wanted. Bianca is joined by Julie Martin, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist who supports individuals, couples, and families navigating identity, relationships, motherhood, and life across cultures, and Kacy C. Maitland, LICSW, Chief Clinical Officer at Samaritans, Inc., where she leads clinical and crisis support programs including the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Together, they discuss the unexpected grief of shedding who you were before motherhood, the pressure high-achieving women and eldest daughters often feel to “do it all,” the performance of modern motherhood, and how to recognize the difference between a difficult transition and a moment when more support may be needed. Content note: This episode includes general discussion of suicide, suicidal thoughts, postpartum mental health, and crisis support.If you or someone you know is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the U.S. to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for free, confidential support 24/7. You can also chat through the 988 Lifeline website. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS Connect with Kacy at https://www.linkedin.com/in/kacy-c-maitland-licsw/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kacy-c-maitland-licsw/] Connect with Julie at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmartinlmft/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmartinlmft/] and julie@juliesophiainnerwellness.com [julie@juliesophiainnerwellness.com] LINKS & RESOURCES Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] CONNECT WITH BIANCA: LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

27. We Were Sold a Version of Motherhood That Was Never Real

This episode kicks off the Ambition After Motherhood series. If you're an ambitious woman trying to hold your career and your motherhood at the same time — without dropping either — this episode is for you. We grew up watching our mothers work and hold everything together without complaint. We watched our favorite girlboss entrepreneurs refuse to let a baby slow them down. And we built our entire expectation of what ambitious motherhood would look like around performances that were never the full picture. Bianca gets honest about what it actually looks like to pursue big goals in a season that demands everything from you, why eldest daughters and children of immigrants feel this pressure differently, and why "doing it all" was never a fair ask to begin with. LINKS & RESOURCES Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] CONNECT WITH BIANCA: LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

26: Intro to Ambition After Motherhood

Introducing: Ambition After Motherhood, a 4-part series for women in all stages of their motherhood journey. This isn't about "balancing it all," preparing for maternity leave, or any generic mom advice. Bianca and guests will have conversations about what shifts when you've always been ambitious and driver, and now you're navigating that same ambition in a completely different season of life. Connect with Bianca: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]