Pivot or Perish

28. Motherhood Grief is Real and Nobody Warns You About It

In this episode of Pivot or Perish, Bianca continues the Ambition After Motherhood series with a conversation about the grief, identity shifts, and emotional weight that can come with motherhood, even when motherhood is deeply wanted. Bianca is joined by Julie Martin, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist who supports individuals, couples, and families navigating identity, relationships, motherhood, and life across cultures, and Kacy C. Maitland, LICSW, Chief Clinical Officer at Samaritans, Inc., where she leads clinical and crisis support programs including the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Together, they discuss the unexpected grief of shedding who you were before motherhood, the pressure high-achieving women and eldest daughters often feel to “do it all,” the performance of modern motherhood, and how to recognize the difference between a difficult transition and a moment when more support may be needed. Content note: This episode includes general discussion of suicide, suicidal thoughts, postpartum mental health, and crisis support.If you or someone you know is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the U.S. to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline for free, confidential support 24/7. You can also chat through the 988 Lifeline website. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS Connect with Kacy at https://www.linkedin.com/in/kacy-c-maitland-licsw/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kacy-c-maitland-licsw/] Connect with Julie at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmartinlmft/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmartinlmft/] and julie@juliesophiainnerwellness.com [julie@juliesophiainnerwellness.com] LINKS & RESOURCES Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching⁠⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] CONNECT WITH BIANCA: LinkedIn: ⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer⁠⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: ⁠⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

27. We Were Sold a Version of Motherhood That Was Never Real

This episode kicks off the Ambition After Motherhood series. If you're an ambitious woman trying to hold your career and your motherhood at the same time — without dropping either — this episode is for you. We grew up watching our mothers work and hold everything together without complaint. We watched our favorite girlboss entrepreneurs refuse to let a baby slow them down. And we built our entire expectation of what ambitious motherhood would look like around performances that were never the full picture. Bianca gets honest about what it actually looks like to pursue big goals in a season that demands everything from you, why eldest daughters and children of immigrants feel this pressure differently, and why "doing it all" was never a fair ask to begin with. LINKS & RESOURCES Download The Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching⁠ [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] CONNECT WITH BIANCA: LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: ⁠https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

26: Intro to Ambition After Motherhood

Introducing: Ambition After Motherhood, a 4-part series for women in all stages of their motherhood journey. This isn't about "balancing it all," preparing for maternity leave, or any generic mom advice. Bianca and guests will have conversations about what shifts when you've always been ambitious and driver, and now you're navigating that same ambition in a completely different season of life. Connect with Bianca: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

25. You Don't Need a Blueprint. You Need to Trust Yourself.

You already know what you want. The problem isn't clarity — it's that somewhere along the way you learned that your instincts needed to be verified before they were valid. So you research, you ask, you compare, you wait. And the thing you actually wanted to build stays exactly where it was. In this episode, we get into where that pattern comes from, what it's actually costing you, and what becomes possible when you stop looking for someone else's blueprint and start trusting your own. Download the Edit, a free self-assessment designed to help high-achieving eldest daughters of immigrants cut through the noise to get what they already know they want, and keep talking themselves out of:  https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/the-edit] Learn more about and book the Pivot Strategy Session: https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/coaching] Connect with Bianca: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]

24. Should I Get Another Degree? The Truth About Credentials

You've been told your whole life that more education equals more opportunity. But what if getting another degree is actually keeping you stuck? In this episode, I'm getting into why so many high-achieving women, especially children of immigrants, keep reaching for another credential instead of making a move.  We'll talk about the real ROI of advanced degrees, the deeper reason we keep going back to school, and the three questions you need to answer before you enroll in anything else. Learn more about my 6-month private coaching program here: http://brilliantrebel.com/coaching [http://brilliantrebel.com/coaching] Connect with Bianca: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/brazenlawyer/] Instagram https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer [https://www.instagram.com/brazenlawyer] Threads: https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer [https://www.threads.net/@brazenlawyer] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel [https://www.youtube.com/@brilliantrebel] Website: https://www.brilliantrebel.com [https://www.brilliantrebel.com/]