The Franciska Show

Where Are the Adults? Navigating Youth Mental Health Crises with Leigh Ioffe

In this episode of the Franciska Show, Leigh Ioffe, a crisis management specialist and founder of the nonprofit organization The Long Short Road, shares her journey and work in the realm of mental health and crisis intervention. Lee discusses her accidental entry into the field, which began with her work at the Chabad Teen Network and evolved into addressing the mental health needs of young people dealing with suicidal ideation. She elaborates on the unique challenges faced by the Orthodox Jewish community, including religious guilt and trauma, and emphasizes the importance of combining mental health support with religious guidance. Lee also provides insights from her extensive training and experience, including the development of bespoke suicide prevention programs and the importance of relational support in crisis management. She shares personal stories of success and resilience, illustrating the profound impact of compassionate human connections. Additionally, Leigh offers practical advice for individuals and community leaders on how to provide support to those struggling with mental health issues, ensuring they feel safe, seen, and soothed. 00:00 Welcome to the Franciska Show 00:19 Accidental Path to Crisis Management 01:11 Religious Journey and Family Background 02:46 Challenges in Mental Health Awareness 08:46 Warm Line: A Support System 17:53 Expressive Writing for Healing 23:26 Training and Future Plans 32:47 Rescheduling and Learning New Things 33:32 Nuances of Addressing Suicidal Ideation 36:45 Training and Crisis Management 39:21 Balancing Nonprofit Work and Personal Life 43:52 The Importance of Sensitivity in Mental Health 56:00 Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways About Our Guest: Leigh Ioffe is a crisis management specialist and dedicated advocate for individuals navigating mental health challenges. She is the founder and director of The Long Short Road, where she leads the creation of psycho-educational programs, warmline services, and consultations that offer personalized support to hundreds each year. Leigh's work is grounded in compassion and practical care, helping people access the tools they need to heal and grow. Beyond her professional role, Leigh is a wife, a mother to two daughters, and a published fiction author. She is also currently pursuing certification as a mindfulness practitioner, further enriching her holistic approach to well-being. www.linkedin.com/in/leigh-ioffe-25785149 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/leigh-ioffe-25785149] Instagram and Facebook: @thelongshortroad [https://www.instagram.com/thelongshortroad] www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com [https://www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com]

Summer Break Announcement

I will be on break for the next few weeks. Praying for all our people in Israel and around the world. Peace and stay safe! For episode suggestions - please reach out to Franciskakay@gmail.com [Franciskakay@gmail.com]

"My Experiences with Dating as a Black FFB & the Inspirations Behind my Latest Music"

Raphi Fulcher's Musical Journey and Life as a Black Orthodox Jew In this episode, Raphi Fulcher, also known as Hebrew, discusses his unique background and perspectives. Growing up as the youngest of six children to parents who converted to Judaism in the 1960s, Raphi shares his experiences moving across different states and eventually studying in Israel. Currently a project manager in digital marketing, Raphi is also a passionate musician. He talks about his musical influences, family background in music, and the transformative experience of performing live. Raphi sheds light on the challenges of dating within the Orthodox Jewish community as a Black man and the importance of finding a partner who understands and is prepared for those challenges. He also discusses the significance of Torah values and the importance of addressing 'otherness' in the Jewish community. Additionally, Raphi shares insights into his music career, Jewish music festivals, and his aspirations to create music that heals and educates. 00:00 Introduction and Background 00:36 Religious and Professional Journey 03:05 Musical Beginnings 04:20 First Performance and Health Struggles 07:24 Stage Name and Identity 09:00 Growing Up Orthodox 20:46 Dating Challenges 29:14 Navigating Relationships and Conversion 30:44 Qualities I'm Looking for in a Partner 32:24 Challenges in Finding the Right Match 35:10 The Birth of a Jewish Music Festival 37:14 Balancing Tradition and Modernity in Music 43:21 The Deeper Meaning of Cain and Hevel 48:45 Practical Advice for Facing Fear 51:39 Sharing My Music and Inspirations https://www.hebromusic.com [https://www.hebromusic.com] https://www.instagram.com/hebromusic/ [https://www.instagram.com/hebromusic/] https://www.youtube.com/@Hebromusic [https://www.youtube.com/@Hebromusic] www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com [https://www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com] franciskakay@gmail.com [franciskakay@gmail.com] About Raphi: Raphi Fulcher is a man on a mission, a soldier, or a "soulja," if you will, in the army of Hashem. So intent is he on spreading his message of acceptance and brotherhood through rap and hip hop music, that he performs under the name Hebro, a Fulcher-ism that declares his intent to use his artistic abilities to better the world as he serves in the ranks of God's military. The youngest of six children born to African-American parents who converted to Judaism 43 years ago under the guidance of Rabbi J.J. Hecht, the then-assistant to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Fulcher hails from a family of gifted vocalists. The singer, songwriter, rapper and producer lived in Crown Heights until he was four and spent his formative years in North Carolina, St. Louis and Israel. It was during his time as a student at Queens College that Fulcher, whose full name is Raphael Ohr Chayim, discovered his gift for singing publicly. "I was on the board at Chabad of Queens College and we staged musical events. I found that I had a deep passion for live performance," Fulcher told The Jewish Link. After spending a Lag B'omer at the Chevra Ahavas Yisroel synagogue, Fulcher found himself falling in love with Crown Heights and he spent the next five years there, enjoying the unique warmth of the community and honing his musical voice. Deeply enamored with rap, hip hop, reggae and R&B music, Fulcher decided that the time had come to bring those genres to Jewish audiences, albeit with all new lyrics. "Just the music and the rhythm are very powerful and could resonate with a lot of people if we had positive, uplifting content," said Fulcher, who previously performed under the name Hebro. "I kept imagining how powerful it would be if I added a real element that would allow listeners to vibe out to the rhythm, with lyrics that have meaning and purpose. I don't think you can deny that it is Jewish music." Having stretched his musical wings on stage with Matisyahu, Nissim Black, Moshav Band, Lipa Schmeltzer, Zusha and others, Fulcher decided three years ago that it was time to share his God given gifts with the world in a debut EP titled Genesis. "It is an album that is inspired by Tehillim, by King David's work," said Fulcher. "When I imagine David Hamelech performing during his life, I imagine that his music had rhythm and spirit and with all due respect, I don't think it sounded like the typical 'Jewish' music we hear today in the orthodox world" Genesis, featuring seven original compositions, will be released on March 17th, Rosh Chodesh Nissan. Fulcher is looking forward to sharing his music at a release party taking place at The Loft and Rooftop at 83 Essex Street on Manhattan's Lower East Side of Manhattan which will also feature up and coming talents Izzy Gilden, DJ Kamilly, Simple Man and others. His soon to be released Souljass music video, featuring one of the tracks on the EP, tells the story of Cain and Hevel, which Fulcher sees as the start of baseless hatred in the world. "I want to shed light on being fearful of what we don't control or understand," said Fulcher. "There is a message there in Cain's conversation with Hashem, when he says he doesn't know where his brother is. If we focused on the other person, if we were conscious of one another, and were tolerant of each other, we would be able to bring about the ultimate redemption." Still, Fulcher, a resident of the Wesley Hills section of Monsey, is subtle with his messaging. "I consider myself a chasid of the Lubavitcher Rebbe and his teachings and his mission," said Fulcher. "That is what I wanted to do with this album of songs about redemption and while I may not mention that concept by name, it is there in broader terms and in a way that will allow more people to enjoy the music." With an edgy style that is simultaneously youthful and appealing, Fulcher is a crossover artist who can appeal to the masses, but also has his priorities straight. Passionate about his music, he is even more dedicated to his religious observance. As someone with close ties to Chabad, Fulcher feels strongly about his own obligation to improve the lives of others. "My ultimate mission with my music is to do my part to bring redemption," explained Fulcher. "I consider this to be my shlichut and I believe each of us has to bring the world to a higher state of perfection by doing chesed, by reaching out and not just harboring light, but shining light out onto the world." Having been the only African-American student in the yeshivos he attended since first grade wasn't always easy, admitted Fulcher, but it was an experience that prepared him for his future. "It was challenging for myself and for my peers," said Fulcher. "It was a reality that none of them had ever dealt with before and it was new for them. Still, growing up as an African-American Jew in a white Orthodox Jewish world gave me the experience to understand the potential of breaking down the barriers of fear and difference while creating an opportunity for growth. B'nei Yisrael come in all shapes and colors and sizes and the sooner we can all handle that the sooner we will all be b'simcha."

A Near-Death Perspective and Role Reversal - with Batya Sherizen

Batya Sherizen shares her transformative journey from a driven and overwhelmed entrepreneur to a fulfilled and present mother, wife, and businesswoman. Batya recounts her life, from her early marriage and 10 years in Israel to her thriving business as a child sleep consultant, which she ran while her husband was in Kollel. A life-threatening pregnancy complication led to a near-death experience, altering her perspective profoundly. She discusses the emotional and physical toll of balancing career and family, the evolution of her relationship with her husband, and the importance of being present in relationships. Her book, 'Dying to Be Me [https://a.co/d/br8fJ3H],' encapsulates this metamorphosis, emphasizing the importance of presence and connection over professional success. Batya also touches on the pressures individuals face, the importance of self-awareness, and the need for kindness in understanding others' unseen struggles. 00:00 Introduction and Background 00:39 Life in Detroit and Family Dynamics 01:23 Professional Journey and Challenges 01:48 The Turning Point: A Life-Altering Event 02:16 Writing the Book: Dying to Be Me 06:18 The Near-Death Experience 09:27 Reflections on Life and Happiness 16:37 Balancing Work, Family, and Self-Care 26:20 Reflecting on Life and Relationships 26:58 The Gradual Process of Healing 28:24 Therapy and Finding Balance 29:56 Changes in Marital Dynamics 31:57 Parenting and Financial Roles 43:51 The Importance of Self-Relationship 48:21 Gratitude and Perspective 49:58 Finding Happiness and Fulfillment About Our Guest: Batya Sherizen is a renowned child sleep expert with nearly 20 years of experience helping exhausted, loving parents reclaim restful nights and restore balance in their lives. Through compassionate, one-on-one support, she creates personalized sleep plans tailored to each family's unique needs. Batya is also a published author and a passionate musician, bringing creativity and heart to everything she does. LINK TO BOOK - - - DYING TO BE ME: https://a.co/d/br8fJ3H [https://a.co/d/br8fJ3H] https://www.linkedin.com/in/batya-sherizen-6364a7365/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/batya-sherizen-6364a7365/] franciskakay@gmail.com [franciskakay@gmail.com] www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com

Behind the Scenes: Rak Shalom's Victory with Franciska's Song "Tov Lehodot" - with Olivia Herman & Shua Kanarek

In this episode, join Olivia, Herman, and Shua Kanarek as they discuss their experiences with Rak Shalom, an acapella Jewish choir at the University of Maryland. The conversation covers personal backgrounds, how they got involved, and how the group operates democratically, including song selection and leadership roles. They also delve into the impact of being part of a diverse Jewish community, arranging music, the challenges and benefits of a co-ed acapella group, and the logistics behind managing performances and tours. The discussion highlights their journey toward enhancing their Jewish identity through music, culminating in their recent first-place win in a national acapella competition. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Backgrounds 00:58 Olivia's Journey and Connection to Judaism 02:28 Shua's Story and Connection to Rock Shalom 03:28 Running Rak Shalom: Leadership and Song Selection 05:14 Performances, Competitions, and Time Commitment 09:51 Funding and Album Production 10:44 Host's Musical Journey and Inspirations 15:59 Social Media and Jewish Identity 18:29 Personal Connections to Judaism 19:01 Diverse Backgrounds in the Group 22:02 Spirituality and Music 24:20 Group Dynamics and Roles 26:35 Musical Arrangements and Positions 34:40 Alumni and Community 36:01 Living in Israel and Musical Backgrounds 37:27 Closing Remarks and Plugs About Our Guests: Olivia Herman is a first year student at the University of Maryland. She is the current business manager of Rak Shalom- an award winning collegiate a cappella group at UMD. She is also a proud member of the Jewish community on campus. Shua is a med student living in Israel. He graduated from Rak Shalom in 2023. His hobbies include playing piano, reading, and sweet potato. https://www.instagram.com/livherman_?igsh=MXJzbzc1ZGM0enV1NQ== [https://www.instagram.com/livherman_?igsh=MXJzbzc1ZGM0enV1NQ==] https://www.instagram.com/rak_shalom?igsh=MWczMHFneXpycWZnMA== [https://www.instagram.com/rak_shalom?igsh=MWczMHFneXpycWZnMA==] Tov Lehodot by Franciska https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7AYCnN_6SQ [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u7AYCnN_6SQ]