My Process For Achieving Goals: How to Change Your Life in 5 Simple Steps

Do THIS Every Day to Rewire Your Brain From Stress and Anxiety

What you learn today will make you forever calmer and more in control of your emotions.  If you’ve ever had a moment where you thought:  “Why does one email, one comment…ruin my day?”  “Why do I always get overwhelmed by the littlest things?”  “Why am I like this?”  This conversation gives you the answer. In this episode, Dr. Burke Harris explains why so many of the patterns you hate, like being reactive, shutting down, people-pleasing, not being able to follow through, and feeling dread for no reason, are not your “personality flaws” – and give you the truth. Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, MD is one of the most important voices in trauma science and public health. She’s a pediatrician, who conducted pioneering research on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), the founder of the Center for Youth Wellness, and the former Surgeon General of the State of California.  She is here to tell you that your body is running an overactive stress response that got wired in childhood, and never got turned off. Dr. Burke Harris gives you research-backed tools that help your body re-regulate, calm down, and feel safe, so stress stops driving your life. You will be able to start rewiring your nervous system today, with one powerful, 3-word sentence you can say to yourself. It takes less than a few minutes and reverses the feelings that make life harder than it should be.  In this episode, you’ll learn: -Why you shut down sometimes, get emotional, “triggered”, or overwhelmed  (and why it’s not your fault) -Why you procrastinate even when it feels bad -How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime -Why trauma is (Mel had it wrong for decades) and how childhood trauma is keeping you stuck -How to help your body return to balance after being upset -The 3 essential words that rewire your nervous system -The 7 evidence-based things you can do to regulate your nervous system -How to support someone you love who’s stuck, shut down, or overwhelmed in their life This episode is hopeful, practical, and empowering.  You will get a playbook that helps you rewire your nervous system so you feel less stress and more in control of your emotions. When you finally understand what’s happening in your body, you can have a different life. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-390/] for the podcast episode page.  If you liked the episode, check out this one next:  Why You Feel Lost in Life: Dr. Gabor Maté on Trauma & How to Heal [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-274/] Connect with Mel:     * Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein [https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP] * Get Pure Genius Protein at Target [https://www.target.com/b/pure-genius/-/N-q643leyptqo] * Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. [https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/] * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

My Process For Achieving Goals: How to Change Your Life in 5 Simple Steps

Do you want to know how to set goals you can actually achieve?  Do you want the two science‑backed requirements that determine whether goals succeed or fail?  Or do you feel stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure what you even want anymore?  This episode is a step‑by‑step, research‑backed framework for setting goals that give you clarity, motivation, and momentum. You’ll learn how to choose the right goal and how to start pursuing it immediately. By the end of this episode, you won’t just feel inspired – you'll have already taken action. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, out of control, or like your life is running you instead of the other way around, this episode is for you. Whether you’re exhausted, stuck in reaction mode, caring for everyone else, unsure what you want anymore, or feeling disconnected from yourself, this episode will show you exactly how to take back control – starting today. This episode delivers the most important guidance you need to hear right now. It will teach you the 5 essential rules for setting and achieving personal goals - the skills no one ever taught you, but everyone needs to reclaim their time, energy, and sense of control. And it’s your guide to taking control of your life: how to choose a goal that actually matters to you, how to pursue it in a busy life, and how to keep going even when motivation fades. Today, Mel breaks down decades of research from psychology, neuroscience, and behavioral science  and shows how she’s used these five rules to achieve her own goals.  In this episode, you’ll learn: -The counterintuitive reason setting one meaningful personal goal can immediately help you feel more in control -The 5 research‑backed rules that make goals stick - even if you’re exhausted or short on time -How to choose a goal that’s truly yours (and not something you think you “should” want) -Why writing your goal down and visualizing it rewires your brain to follow through -The difference between the will (your why) and the way (your plan)  -Why consistency beats intensity - and how to keep going even after setbacks -How personal goals become an anchor in the storm when the world feels heavy After listening, you’ll walk away with clarity, a sense of direction, and a simple plan to start pursuing something meaningful - even if life feels full right now. This is practical, research‑backed guidance that actually works. If you’re ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start taking control of your life again, this episode is where it begins. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-389/] for the podcast episode page.   In the episode, Mel mentioned Pure Genius, the company she co-founded that is one of her personal goals. You can learn more here. [https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP] If you liked the episode, check out this episode with James Clear: The Science of Making & Breaking Habits: How to Change Your Life in 1 Month [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-359/] Connect with Mel:     * Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. [https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/] * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Stanford Luck Researcher: How to Manifest the Life You Want

In today’s episode, a Stanford neuroscientist is going to teach you exactly how to manifest the life you want – by becoming a luckier person.  Dr. Tina Seelig has spent 25+ years at Stanford, where she also earned her PhD in the science of neuroplasticity, studying leadership, success, neuroscience, and luck.  She's written 18 books, including her newest, What I Wish I Knew About Luck – and after this conversation, you will never see luck the same way again.  In it, she breaks down something most people get completely wrong:  You may believe that luck is something you have, or you don't.  As Dr. Seelig will teach you today, there is a science to luck. And when you understand it, and start using it, you can create a life that feels a whole lot luckier.  In this conversation, you’ll learn: -What research reveals about lucky people -The #1 mindset shift that separates lucky people from everyone else -The difference between fortune (what happens to you) and luck (what you create) -The 3-step framework to creating luck: build your sailboat, recruit your crew, hoist the sail -The 6 kinds of risk (and how your risk profile might be keeping you stuck) -Why asking for a “5-minute favor” can change your entire life -Simple ways to “stir the pot” this week so new opportunities can find you Dr. Seelig isn't ignoring reality. A lot of life right now doesn’t feel lucky. Everything is more expensive. Jobs are harder to get. Headlines are scary. Owning a home feels out of reach. That is real. And Dr. Seelig acknowledges all of it. And still she says this: There are practical, everyday things you can do - even when you feel stuck in the thick of it - that can change your luck and the direction of your life. If you’ve been telling yourself, “Nothing ever works out for me,” this episode is your wake-up call. If you follow the formula that Dr. Seelig is sharing with you today, there is no doubt that you will have a better and luckier life - because you will have created it.  For more resources related to today’s episode, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-388/] for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out this one next: Unlock Your Brain’s Hidden Power: 6 Tools to Boost Focus, Confidence, and Creativity [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-238/] Connect with Mel:    * Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein [https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP] * Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. [https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/] * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The 5 Top Health Lies & The Truth You Need to Feel Better Today

If you’re confused, anxious, or overwhelmed by your health and what choices to make, this episode is for you. In this conversation, Mel sits down with Doctor Mike Varshavski, the most followed medical doctor in the world, to expose the health lies and medical misinformation that are making people sicker, more stressed, and afraid to trust their own bodies. Doctor Mike has spent over a decade in clinical practice and continues to work in a community‑based family medical practice, where he sees patients of all ages and backgrounds. Every day, he witnesses the real‑world consequences of viral health myths, fear‑based medical advice, and misinformation spread online. In this episode, Doctor Mike explains how dangerous health lies lead people to ignore symptoms, delay care, avoid their primary care doctor and why some of this misinformation will result in preventable illness and death. This episode delivers the most important health truths you need to hear right now. Doctor Mike breaks down why taking care of your health feels harder than ever: you’re flooded with conflicting advice, extreme claims, and content designed to scare or sell - not help.  He teaches you how to identify medical red flags, spot misinformation, and understand what actually works versus what doesn’t. This conversation will help you take back control of your health with clear, science‑based guidance without panic, guilt, or overwhelm. Doctor Mike also shares deeply moving insights on grief, how to navigate life’s most painful moments, and his personal story of coping with the sudden loss of his mother. In this episode, you’ll learn: - How to argue a medical bill and advocate for yourself in a broken healthcare system - The most dangerous health lies being spread online right now and why they’re so harmful - The truth about vaccines and how misinformation is putting lives at risk - How to spot medical misinformation, red flags, and fear‑based tactics designed to scare or sell - What to know about vaping, smoking, and nicotine patches  - Why viral health trends and “miracle cures” often cause more harm than good - How grief, stress, and burnout impact your physical health and why basics can feel so hard - What actually improves long‑term health and what’s just noise - How misinformation hijacks decision‑making and fuels anxiety - How to have more honest, effective conversations with your doctor - How to make informed health decisions you can trust Whether you’re trying to get healthier, caring for everyone else while neglecting yourself, or feeling frozen by conflicting medical advice, this episode will feel like a lifeline. This is honest, research‑backed health information from a doctor who is committed to telling the truth.  If you’re ready to stop being misled by health misinformation and start making confident, informed decisions about your health, this episode is where it begins. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-387/] for the podcast episode page.   If you liked the episode, check out this one next: Try It For 1 Week: 3 Small Habits That Change Your Body, Energy, And Life [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-309/] Connect with Mel:     * Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein [https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP] * Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. [https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/] * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Best Money Advice You Will Ever Receive: 4 Rules From the Top Financial Minds In The World

If you’ve ever felt stressed, confused, ashamed, or behind when it comes to money, this episode is for you.  Whether you’re living paycheck‑to‑paycheck, trying to pay off debt, building credit, wondering how you’ll ever afford a home, or doing “okay” but still feeling anxious about the future, this episode will show you exactly what to do next.  This episode delivers the most important money advice you need to hear right now.  It will teach you the 4 essential rules of money - the skills no one ever taught you, but everyone needs to build financial freedom.  And it’s your guide to taking control of your money: how to make it, how to save, and how to invest no matter where you’re starting from.  And it’s not about how much you earn. It’s about learning how money actually works - so you can stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling calm, capable, and in control.  Today, Mel shares the best money advice from four of the most trusted and influential experts in personal finance.  Tiffany Aliche, known as The Budgetnista, is a New York Times bestselling author who has helped millions of people save money, manage their finances, and pay off massive amounts of debt.  David Bach is a 10‑time New York Times bestselling author and the creator of The Automatic Millionaire, who will show you how small, automatic daily habits can turn into millions over time.  Ramit Sethi is a New York Times bestselling author, the creator of I Will Teach You to Be Rich, and the host of Netflix’s How to Get Rich, is going to simplify money into four clear buckets.  Morgan Housel is the bestselling author of The Psychology of Money and one of the most respected financial thinkers in the world, and today he will help you understand the emotional and psychological forces that drive financial decisions. In this episode, you’ll learn: - The 4 money rules that determine whether you build wealth or stay stuck - no matter what you earn - The #1 mistake that’s quietly keeping people broke - How to stop guessing where your money is going and finally take control - The simple habits that make saving, spending, and investing feel easier - Why you can start feeling better about your life before you’re debt‑free - How small daily decisions can turn into massive long‑term wealth - The mindset shift that instantly reduces money stress  After listening, you’ll walk away with a clear plan, a healthier relationship with money, and the confidence to make smarter financial decisions starting today. This is simple, practical, and research‑backed financial advice that actually works. If you’re ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start taking control of your financial future, this episode is where it begins. If you loved this episode, you’ll definitely want to listen to the full conversations with each of the financial experts you heard from today: Tiffany Aliche: 5 Rules of Money: How to Make It, Save It, & Be Smarter About It [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-153/] Rami Sethi: You’ve Got Money All Wrong: A Step by Step Guide to Living a Rich Life [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-61/] David Bach: The #1 Money Habit That Sets You Up for Financial Freedom [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-362/] Morgan Housel: The Best Financial Advice You’ll Ever Hear [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-327/] For more resources related to today’s episode, click here [https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-386/] for the podcast episode page.   Connect with Mel:     * Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein [https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP] * Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. [https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/] * Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true] * Watch the episodes on YouTube [https://bit.ly/45OWCNr] * Follow Mel on Instagram  [https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb] * The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram [https://bit.ly/49bg4GP] * Mel's TikTok  [https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v] * Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free [https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/] * Disclaimer [https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.