Why You Feel Like You Have To Hide Who You Really Are with Jessica Graham

I've Lived Six Different Lives with Kloé Mallard

What happens when the thing you built your identity around suddenly disappears? In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim sits down with performer, creative, event planner, and storyteller Kloé Mallard [https://www.linkedin.com/in/klo%C3%A9-klowiththefro/] for a conversation about identity, reinvention, grief, and learning how to rebuild yourself after life changes direction unexpectedly. At just 30 years old, Kloé says she feels like she’s already lived six different lives. From studying music in Chicago to performing on cruise ships around the world, losing her voice and falling into depression, rebuilding her life through school and corporate work, and now stepping into a caregiving role for her mother, this conversation explores what it means to keep evolving when every version of your life asks something different of you. Together, Kim and Khloé talk about the pressure to perform, the emotional complexity of outgrowing old identities, and the reality that many workplaces don’t actually want our “full authentic selves”—despite what modern work culture claims. This episode is about adaptation, self-worth, creativity, survival, and the quiet fear so many people carry: Do other people think I’m doing this right?   Kim and Kloé discuss: * Losing the identity you built your life around * Grief, depression, and rebuilding after sudden loss * What performing on a cruise ship was really like * Starting over in corporate America * Why adaptability is both a survival skill and a superpower * Whether it's really possible to bring your “full authentic self” to work * Code-switching, reading the room, and learning how to navigate different environments * Finding ways to stay creative inside of conventional structures About The Show 10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to. Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway. Mentions & Links * Kloé Mallard LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/klo%C3%A9-klowiththefro/] * Kim Wensel Website [http://kimwensel.com] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kimwensel] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlywensel/]

I Shared My Dreams; She Said I Was In The Wrong Room with Tanyika Fraser

What if the people who seem “good at change” became that way because life kept asking them to begin again? In this episode of 10,000 Tabs, Kim sits down with strategy leader and former fashion designer, Tanyika Fraser [https://www.oceanicstrategies.com.au/], for a conversation about reinvention, resilience, and proving people wrong. Together, they explore the hidden strengths many multi-hyphenate women develop through nonlinear careers: adaptability, self-direction, intuition, and the ability to rebuild after disappointment. On this episode Tanyika and Kim discuss: * Being defined by your work and where motherhood fits into your introduction (if at all) * Why self-trust will be always be stronger than certainty * How to recognize the situations and patterns that lead you to burnout * The reason ideas are never coincidental  * If the struggle to choose is really a superpower * How to recognize when you’ve outgrown a room, role, or version of yourself * Why movement—not certainty—is what creates clarity   About The Show 10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to. Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway. Mentions & Links * Tanyika Fraser Website [https://www.oceanicstrategies.com.au/] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tanyikafraser/] * Kim Wensel Website [http://kimwensel.com] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kimwensel] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlywensel/]

I Was Lying To Myself

Most public conversations about change are retrospective. This one is coming to you in real time. On the last episode, Kim announced her latest offer, an opportunity to join her for an intimate in-person gathering in the fall. This episode walks back on that offer. Instead of saying "everything happens for a reason" or pushing through because "anything worth having is worth working for," Kim shares her deeply personal decision making process, including: * the hesitation * conflicting desires * how to feel about sunk costs * treading through embarrassment * relief that comes from making the right, hard decision Why turn around and release this the same week? Why not wait to see how registration goes? Kim shares answers to those questions and more, offering a rare glimpse into the messy middle that we miss when consuming stories from the other side.   About The Show 10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to. Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.   Mentions & Links * Dear Writer by Maggie Smith [https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Writer-Practical-Advice-Creative/dp/1982170840] * Why Bother? by Sean Thomas Dougherty [https://www.boaeditions.org/blogs/main/poem-of-the-week-august-27-2018?srsltid=AfmBOop19oXcXKixoRToYrxRJu_Bu5VVy1fF334OHU1pLQ9Nr6RtwQ2V] * Kim Wensel Website [http://kimwensel.com] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kimwensel] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlywensel/]

Ideas Are Great. Moving On Them Will Change Your Life.

It's been one year of this podcast! From Why Is Nobody Talking About This? to 10,000 Tabs, thank you for being here. 📣 Big Announcement: the newest (and current) way to work with Kim is by joining The Bench: Fall Break. Listen through this episode to learn what Fall Break is and how you can sign up to join her in the mountains this fall. Kim takes the mic solo to reflect on her conversations with guests, share the evolution of The Bench, and the patterns she sees over and over again in highly capable women who know they want something more, but keep delaying movement toward it. From unfinished creative projects and career pivots to the quiet resentment that builds when we ignore what we really want, this episode explores the emotional cost of staying where we are simply because it feels familiar, responsible, or safe. Kim unpacks the “curse of capability,” the pressure to keep holding everything together, and why so many women wait until burnout, layoffs, or life transitions force them to make changes they already knew they needed.   In this conversation, Kim shares * Why highly capable women often delay the things they want most * How resentment builds when we ignore the ideas and desires we can’t stop thinking about * Why waiting until you feel “ready” rarely works * The difference between having ideas and actually moving on them * What she learned after a year of running The Bench community * Why women need spaces where they can bring ambition, uncertainty, creativity, and exhaustion all at once   About The Show 10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to. Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway.   Mentions & Links * Kim Wensel Website [http://kimwensel.com] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kimwensel] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlywensel/]

What Happens When The Overachiever Slows Down with India Tizol

Overachievers know how to do. To push. To make it happen. What they (👋🏼 hey, me too!) struggle with is slowing down. When you're forced to step away, you also lose the congratulations, the gold star, the "great job" comments. And that can be disorienting. So who do you become when you're forced to pause your work? That's what my friend and colleague, India Tizol [https://www.flauntyourfire.com/], are discussing. For the first time since having a baby, she returns to the mic to talk about being visible in the void, struggling to find brain capacity when her body was asking so much of her, and navigating porous transition points. On this episode India and Kim discuss: * The hidden cost of working at a constant, high pace * How motherhood reshaped India's relationship to her work * The blurred boundaries of working from home and why separation matters * Staying visible when your work and identity is very much shifting in the moment   About The Show 10,000 Tabs is a podcast about career change, reinvention, and what happens when life no longer fits the way it used to. Each episode explores the moments when something shifts—when the version of life or work that once made sense no longer fits, and the next chapter hasn’t fully revealed itself yet. Through candid conversations with founders, creatives, leaders, and everyday people, the show explores how we make meaning, find clarity, and move forward anyway. Mentions & Links * India Tizol on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theindiajackson] & LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/theindiajackson/] * Flaunt Your Fire Website [http://www.flauntyourfire.com] * Amago Therapy [https://imagorelationships.org/] * Kim Wensel Website [http://kimwensel.com] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kimwensel] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberlywensel/]