The ABGW Method®: Calm First. Reality First. Then Change.™

The Resilience Trumpet And The Office Sandwich

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/fan_mail/new] Nice people can still be unsafe people. That sounds harsh until you’ve lived the quiet version of workplace stress: the meetings where everyone speaks calmly, the smiles that don’t match the outcomes, the slow shift in access and warmth that leaves you tense, over-responsible, and second-guessing your own judgement. I’m Cheryl Parris, and I’m naming the uncomfortable truth that costs so many of us time, confidence, and career energy: nice is not the same as safe.  We go deeper into discernment and psychological safety at work, especially for high-functioning women who’ve been trained to “be reasonable” no matter what it does to their body. I break down what safety actually looks like in day-to-day behaviour: consistent fairness, clear expectations, real support, respect for your role, and a pattern that steadies your nervous system instead of shrinking it. We also talk about why resilience becomes dangerous when it turns into self-abandonment.  You’ll get practical tools you can use immediately: keeping grounded notes (date, time, what changed, impact, response), spotting patterns across relationships, support, roles, and change, and a simple micro-step I call the three-column people map: warmth, pressure, evidence. The goal is not to label anyone a villain, but to decide who gets access to your honesty, your trust, and your career decisions based on reality, not performance.  If this helped you see your workplace more clearly, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s been doubting themselves, and leave a review so more people can find Work Stress Anxiety. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/support] If this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes: https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] If you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first: https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] Join the HerGuru WhatsApp Channel: https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite [https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite] Got feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion? https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety [https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety] Work Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®. Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™ Connect with Cheryl Paris LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog [https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog] Disclaimer: https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/ [https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/] Shared stories are anonymised. This podcast is provided for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychologica...

When New Management Changes the Weather- Work Stress

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/fan_mail/new] When management changes, your body often knows before your mind does—and that anxiety is valid. In this episode, Cheryl explores how women leaders pick up on subtle workplace shifts, why nervous system Awareness matters during transitions, and practical stress-recovery strategies for navigating uncertainty without burning out. Because your job doesn't have to feel like constant weather changes. Cheryl explores the subtle yet significant shifts that can occur in the workplace following management changes.  She invites listeners to reflect on how their bodies often sense these changes before their minds can articulate them, highlighting the importance of acknowledging these feelings rather than dismissing them as overreactions. Cheryl introduces the concept of workplace seasons, explaining how management transitions can alter the emotional climate, affecting relationships, expectations, and overall well-being.  She emphasises that while not all changes are detrimental, they can lead to self-doubt and confusion for high-functioning individuals who often overlook their instincts.  Through relatable anecdotes, Cheryl illustrates how the pressure to maintain a facade of professionalism can hinder our ability to recognise and respond to these shifts. Listeners will be guided to identify specific changes in their work environment by using the HSE management standards as a framework. Cheryl encourages a proactive approach to understanding one's feelings, advocating for clarity and calm as vital tools in navigating workplace dynamics.  This episode serves as a reminder that recognising the difference between relief and restoration is crucial in fostering resilience and making informed choices. Join us for this enlightening discussion that empowers you to trust your instincts and embrace the journey of self-discovery amidst the complexities of work stress and anxiety. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/support] If this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes: https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] If you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first: https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] Join the HerGuru WhatsApp Channel: https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite [https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite] Got feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion? https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety [https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety] Work Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®. Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™ Connect with Cheryl Paris LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog [https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog] Disclaimer: https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/ [https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/] Shared stories are anonymised. This podcast is provided for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychologica...

Why I Charge for a Discovery Session: Respect, Clarity, and Not Wasting Your Time

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/fan_mail/new] In this insightful episode, Cheryl delves into the significance of the discovery session within the ABGW Method®, shedding light on why she charges for it. She addresses the common misconception surrounding paid consultations, contrasting it with the often disingenuous free sessions that lead to sales pitches. Cheryl emphasises the importance of clarity in the coaching process, explaining how unclear expectations can lead to resentment and disappointment. By front-loading clarity, both parties can avoid misunderstandings and truly engage in meaningful support. Listeners will learn about the purpose of the discovery session, which serves as a structured yet human conversation aimed at understanding individual stressors and determining the right support. Cheryl candidly discusses the barriers that high-functioning women face when seeking help and reassures them that wanting support is not a sign of weakness. This episode is a powerful reminder that taking the first step towards clarity and well-being is essential for progress, and every small action counts. Join us for this enriching discussion that encourages you to prioritise your mental health and embrace the journey towards balance and restoration. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/support] If this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes: https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] If you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first: https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] Join the HerGuru WhatsApp Channel: https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite [https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite] Got feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion? https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety [https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety] Work Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®. Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™ Connect with Cheryl Paris LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog [https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog] Disclaimer: https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/ [https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/] Shared stories are anonymised. This podcast is provided for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychologica...

Why I Created the Emotional Survival System™: For Women Who Are Always Expected to Cope

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/fan_mail/new] In this insightful episode, Cheryl unveils the Emotional Survival System, designed specifically for women who are often seen as the reliable ones, yet struggle silently under the weight of expectations.  She challenges the damaging myth that being capable equates to being immune to stress, emphasising that even the strongest among us can feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Cheryl shares her personal journey and the pivotal moments in her life when she wished for practical tools to manage stress without lengthy discussions or emotional elegance. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the necessity for emotional support that is accessible and effective, rather than reserved for moments of crisis. Cheryl discusses how the Emotional Survival System provides focused kits to address various aspects of emotional overload, from anxiety and pain to the need for gratitude and energy.  She encourages listeners to consider their own needs and take actionable steps towards self-care, reminding us that seeking support is not a sign of weakness but a vital part of maintaining our well-being. Join us for a candid conversation that redefines emotional support and empowers you to reclaim your steadiness amidst the chaos of daily life.  Remember, every small step you take is a move towards a brighter and more balanced future. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers]. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/support] If this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes: https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] If you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first: https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] Join the HerGuru WhatsApp Channel: https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite [https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite] Got feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion? https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety [https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety] Work Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®. Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™ Connect with Cheryl Paris LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog [https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog] Disclaimer: https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/ [https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/] Shared stories are anonymised. This podcast is provided for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychologica...

Stress Recovery Through Real Gratitude | Beyond Toxic Positivity

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/fan_mail/new] Gratitude gets a bad rap—and for good reason. Cheryl explores why forced thankfulness is actually a trauma response and how authentic appreciation serves as a powerful tool for regulating the nervous systems of stressed women leaders.  Discover the difference between toxic positivity and real stress recovery through genuine gratitude, and why your body knows when thanks is real. In this compelling episode, Cheryl delves into the often-misunderstood concept of gratitude, challenging the superficial interpretations that have become commonplace.  She argues that gratitude is not merely about writing down nice things or adopting a facade of positivity; it is a powerful tool for restoring balance and perspective amidst the chaos of work stress and anxiety.  Cheryl highlights how high-functioning women often feel overwhelmed by societal expectations and pressures, leading to emotional burnout. Instead of viewing gratitude as an additional demand, she reframes it as a means of reconnecting with our humanity and fostering self-compassion. Listeners will discover how gratitude serves as an antidote to the ego, helping to interrupt the cycle of stress that narrows our focus and distorts our reality. Cheryl shares practical steps for integrating gratitude into daily life, emphasising that it is not about pretending everything is fine but about recognising what is true and holding space for both our struggles and our strengths.  This episode is a vital reminder that embracing gratitude can lead to deeper connections with ourselves and others, ultimately supporting our journey towards balance and well-being. Join us for this enlightening discussion that promises to shift your perspective on gratitude and its role in your emotional survival toolkit.  Remember, every small step you take towards understanding gratitude is a step towards a more humane and balanced existence. The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimers [http://herguru.uk/disclaimers] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2286309/support] If this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes: https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] If you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first: https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety [https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxiety] Join the HerGuru WhatsApp Channel: https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite [https://go.workstressanxiety.com/whatsappinvite] Got feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion? https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety [https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxiety] Work Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®. Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™ Connect with Cheryl Paris LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog [https://www.facebook.com/abgwblog] Disclaimer: https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/ [https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/] Shared stories are anonymised. This podcast is provided for educational and reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychologica...