Exquisite Self-Care: The Real Reason Self-Care Isn’t Working for You

You're Allowed to Outgrow the Version of Yourself That Got You Here

Episode 37: You're Allowed to Outgrow the Version of Yourself That Got You Here Growth isn't about becoming someone completely different. It's about becoming more fully yourself. In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the most overlooked parts of personal growth: the grief that comes with outgrowing old versions of ourselves. Whether you're stepping into a new career, a new season of motherhood, a healthier relationship, or simply becoming more aligned with who you truly are, every expansion asks something of you. The version of you that got you here isn't wrong. She isn't broken. She deserves gratitude. But she was never meant to be the final version of you. Lauren shares personal stories from her own journey through motherhood, coaching, and business, offering a compassionate perspective on identity, change, and what it truly means to evolve without abandoning yourself. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why growth always requires change * The difference between abandoning yourself and outgrowing yourself * Why every new chapter includes a form of grief * How to honor past versions of yourself instead of criticizing them * The power of integrating your wisdom instead of leaving your past behind * What motherhood taught Lauren about identity and continual evolution * How fear of being fully seen can quietly shape your decisions * A guided reflection to help you thank—and gently release—the version of yourself you've outgrown ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

You're Not One Person—You're a Living System

Episode 36: You're Not One Person—You're a Living System What if the reason you feel inconsistent isn't because something is wrong with you? What if you're simply responding to different seasons, experiences, and needs within your own unique internal ecosystem? In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the most compassionate shifts you can make in your emotional life: moving away from trying to "fix" yourself and instead learning how to understand yourself. Rather than seeing yourself as one static personality, Lauren invites you to consider that you're a living system made up of many different parts—each carrying its own wisdom, fears, strengths, and experiences. Some parts are hopeful. Some are protective. Some are tired. Some are deeply courageous. The goal isn't to silence those parts. The goal is to build a relationship with them. Because the more connected you become with your internal world, the more clarity, self-trust, and emotional freedom you create. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why you're not inconsistent—you're contextual * What it means to think of yourself as a living ecosystem * How different "versions" of yourself show up in different situations * Why curiosity creates more growth than self-criticism * The difference between self-improvement and self-relationship * How different parts of you carry different strengths, fears, and wisdom * Why emotional integration creates greater peace and clarity * Questions you can begin asking yourself to better understand your internal world * How building a relationship with yourself changes the way you navigate life ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

What Emotional Wealth Actually Looks Like in Real Life

Episode 35: What Emotional Wealth Actually Looks Like in Real Life In this deeply personal episode of All the Feels, Lauren opens the door to her real life and shares what emotional wealth looks like beyond the concepts, frameworks, and coaching tools. After nearly a decade of dreaming, planning, and building, Lauren and her family are preparing to move into their mountain home in Western North Carolina—a dream that has lived in her heart for more than 12 years. But as exciting as this season has been, it has also been messy, exhausting, beautiful, emotional, and challenging. And that's exactly the point. Because emotional wealth isn't about creating a life without challenges. It's about having the tools to navigate challenges with awareness, self-compassion, flexibility, and support. Through stories of disrupted routines, sleep deprivation, solo-parenting, co-regulation, unmet needs, and adjusting expectations, Lauren offers a real-life look at what happens when emotional health becomes a way of living—not just something you learn about. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why beautiful seasons can still be difficult * The difference between discomfort and unnecessary suffering * What emotional wealth looks like in everyday life * How understanding your unique needs changes everything * Why self-care isn't a fixed checklist * The power of responding to reality instead of fighting it * A personal story about supporting her daughter through nighttime dysregulation * Co-regulation and caring for others without abandoning yourself * Why flexibility is a critical emotional skill * How emotional wealth helps you move through life's transitions with greater ease ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

Triggered? Here's What Your Emotions Are Actually Trying to Tell You

Episode 34: Triggered? Here's What Your Emotions Are Actually Trying to Tell You In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth and emotional health: triggers. The word "trigger" gets used a lot, but not everything we call a trigger is actually the same thing. Lauren introduces an important distinction between true nervous system triggers and emotional activations, explaining why understanding the difference can completely change how you respond to difficult emotional experiences. Because when you know what kind of activation you're experiencing, you stop trying to solve the wrong problem. Instead of viewing triggers as obstacles, Lauren invites you to see them as information. As clues. As roadmaps pointing you toward exactly what needs your attention, whether that's nervous system support, healing, communication, self-trust, or boundaries. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * The difference between a true trigger and an emotional activation * Why not all emotional reactions require the same response * How the nervous system responds to perceived threats * Personal examples of triggers from Lauren's own life * Why mindset work isn't always the answer * The role of meaning-making in emotional experiences * How beliefs, expectations, and old wounds influence emotional activation * When an activation is pointing toward healing * When an activation is pointing toward communication or boundaries * Why uncomfortable emotions are often valuable sources of information ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse]Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map⁠ [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]

You Cannot Hate Yourself Into a Life You Love

Episode 33: You Cannot Hate Yourself Into a Life You Love In this episode of All the Feels, Lauren explores a truth that sits at the heart of personal growth, healing, and sustainable change: You cannot hate yourself into a life you love. Many of us believe that our inner critic is helping us. We think harsh self-talk keeps us accountable, motivates us, or pushes us to do better. But what if that critical voice is actually creating resistance instead of growth? Lauren unpacks the relationship between self-criticism, the nervous system, and emotional well-being, explaining why shame and self-rejection often pull us further away from the very changes we want to create. She shares personal examples from her own life, including her current health, business, and work-life balance goals, and offers a compassionate framework for building self-trust instead of self-judgment. If you've ever felt stuck, frustrated with yourself, or convinced that being harder on yourself is the answer, this episode is for you. In This Episode, Lauren Explores: * Why self-criticism often feels helpful but creates resistance * How the nervous system responds to shame, judgment, and self-rejection * The difference between accountability and self-attack * Why awareness is the first step toward meaningful change * How self-compassion supports growth without letting yourself off the hook * The role of self-trust in creating lasting transformation * Why "neutral" is often the bridge between criticism and self-love * A powerful practice for reconnecting with your younger self * How to stay on your own side while pursuing your goals ✨ Private Coaching with Lauren [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Work one-on-one with Lauren to build emotional wealth, understand your emotional patterns, and create the emotional capacity needed to move through life with clarity and confidence. Learn more HERE [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall] Want to Go Deeper? Join The Emotions Crash Course + The Emotions Circle [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] If this episode resonated and you’re ready to build real emotional skill, The Emotions Crash Course will help you understand your emotions, stop treating them like problems, and create real relief in your day-to-day life. Plus, when you join, you also get access to The Emotions Circle, Lauren’s private community where she shares exclusive audio drops, real-time reflections, deeper teachings, and behind-the-scenes support as this work comes to life in real time. ✨ Learn more about The Emotions Crash Course HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] Take the next step in your self-care journey Download The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link]:  Lauren’s free guide to help you slow down, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with what truly nourishes you. It’s the perfect companion to the work we explore here on All the Feels. 👉 Get your free copy of The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook HERE [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] ✨ ⁠Free Resource: The Emotional Flow Map [https://angelic-apple-251.myflodesk.com/flowmap] If emotional resistance or avoidance is part of what’s creating stagnation, Lauren’s Emotional Flow Map is the place to start. The Flow Map teaches the four ways humans naturally handle emotions: * React * Resist * Avoid * Allow Connect with Lauren: * Instagram: @the_emotionscoach [https://www.instagram.com/the_emotionscoach/] * Website: laurencarlislebrown.com [http://laurencarlislebrown.com] * Freebie: The Exquisite Self-Care Handbook [https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1oYH9SyhARsX7uYyYCROhb0ZMp_BYKFVY?usp=drive_link] * Emotions Crash Course: JOIN HERE [https://www.laurencarlislebrown.com/emotionscrashcourse] * Learn  about One on One Coaching  with Lauren: EMOTIONAL FREEDOM CALL [https://calendly.com/theemotionscoach/emotionalfreedomcall]