Your Work Ethic Is Not Your Strength — It's Your Hiding Place

You Say Your Kids Are Everything — So Why Won't You Do Everything?

Every divorced dad says his kids are everything. But when it comes to doing everything to become the man they need — the excuses show up. I'm trying. Life is hard. I don't have enough time. This episode is the one nobody wants to hear and everybody needs. Anthony breaks down the real cost of avoidance, the three excuses that keep divorced dads stuck, and the Accountability Architecture that separates the builders from the drifters. You already know what you need to do. Today you stop avoiding it. In this episode: * Why avoidance is not about laziness — the University of Calgary research on what procrastination is actually protecting you from * The three excuses divorced dads use to stay stuck — and why each one is a choice disguised as a circumstance * Why trying is not the same as deciding — and what commitment actually looks like in practice * The Wharton School research on why "I don't have time" is never really about time * The Accountability Architecture — three pillars that build the daily structure your rebuild actually needs * Kelly McGonigal's Stanford research on stress and why the pressure you're feeling is your fuel not your enemy * The 40-year developmental study on what your kids are actually learning from watching you right now * Why you need someone who will call you out not cheer you on — and the research that proves why it works * Galatians 6:9 and the promise that belongs to the process not the dramatic moment * Commit and own it — or repeat the year. There is no third option. Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: * Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f [https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f] * Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97 [https://bit.ly/3Z83e97] * Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

She's Poisoning Your Kids — But That's Not Your Real Problem

She's poisoning your kids. She won't let you see them. Your lawyer is working on it. It's not fair and you know it. Every single one of those things may be true. And none of them are your real problem right now. The fastest way to win the war for your kids is to stop fighting the battle you can't control and start winning the one you can. This episode is the one nobody else is going to give you — because it starts with you. In this episode: * Why parental alienation is real — and why the courts aren't your first battlefield * The Family Court Review research on what actually determines custody outcomes * Why your anger — as justified as it feels — may be doing her work for her * Dr. Daniel Siegel's brain science on why you literally cannot think straight when you're reactive * The Inside Win framework — three steps every divorced dad in a high conflict situation needs to take in order * Why becoming undeniable is your most powerful legal strategy — and it's free * The APA research on the one thing that protects your kids during high conflict divorce * Proverbs 16:32 and why emotional control is the most tactical move you can make right now Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: * Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f [https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f] * Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97 [https://bit.ly/3Z83e97] * Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

Shame Off You — Jon Gordon on What Guilt Is Really Doing to Divorced Dads

Jon Gordon almost got divorced. Lost his job. Lost his ego. Lost everything except his marriage — and nearly lost that too. Today one of the most influential voices in the world sits down with Anthony to talk about what guilt and shame are actually doing to divorced dads, why forgiveness unlocked 33 books worth of purpose, and why the size of your apartment has nothing to do with the size of your impact on your kids. This one will hit different. In this episode: * Why Jon Gordon said "I almost got divorced" — and what he did when his wife gave him one last shot * The thank you walk that rewired his brain over 25 years — and the UC Davis research that proves why it works * What forgiveness actually is — the hot coal image that will change how you think about your ex * How forgiving his biological father unlocked 33 books and a mission that has reached millions * Why guilt and shame do not come from God — and the enemy's exact playbook for using them against you * The mechanics of negative thought — why you are not the thoughts you think but the thoughts you believe * What the Harvard 85-year happiness study says your kids will actually remember about this season * How to talk to yourself instead of listening to yourself — practical self talk from one of the world's top performance coaches * The Power of Positive Habits — 93 habits and how to pick the ones that will move the needle right now * Romans 8:1 and what no condemnation actually means for a divorced dad carrying shame today Connect with Jon Gordon: * Instagram: @JonGordon11 * Website: jongordon.com * Book: The Power of Positive Habits Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: * Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f [https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f] * Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97 [https://bit.ly/3Z83e97] * Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

I Had the Life. Then I Drove Lyft. Here's What That Season Built in Me

A dad jumped on the free Monday night call this week. Six bedroom house — gone. Kids have everything at his ex's. He's in a small apartment wondering if he's the lesser option. Anthony's been there. Driving Lyft so his kids could eat. Living with his parents. Feeling like life was over. This episode is for that dad — and for every divorced dad carrying shame about what he can't provide right now. The apartment is not the problem. The meaning you're attaching to it is. Here's how to change it. In this episode: * The difference between guilt and shame — and why shame is destroying your ability to show up for your kids * Why the meaning you assign to your circumstances matters more than the circumstances themselves * Viktor Frankl's logotherapy research and what a Holocaust survivor can teach a divorced dad about the apartment he's sitting in * The Shorten the Vision framework — how to stack small wins when the long range goals are demoralizing * The Harvard Progress Principle — why progress is happiness and how to manufacture it starting this week * What your kids are actually watching — and why it's not the apartment * The University of Maryland research on what actually predicts your kids' outcomes after divorce * Proverbs 24:16 and the only job you have in this season Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: * Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f [https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f] * Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97 [https://bit.ly/3Z83e97] * Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica

What Divorced Dads Feel on the 4th of July That Nobody Talks About

The whole magic of fireworks is watching your kids' faces. When they're not there — the holiday hits different. In this episode Anthony gets honest about what the 4th of July actually feels like without your kids, why your brain pulls you back to what no longer exists, and the system he uses to go on offense before the hard day arrives. Plus the Positive Menu — the framework that replaces every bad habit with a deliberate choice made before the feeling hits. In this episode: * Why your brain is most vulnerable to the past on the days that used to mean the most — and the neuroscience behind it * Why willpower doesn't work on hard holidays — and what actually does * The Positive Menu — how to build your main menu and your evening menu before the silence hits * Why watching 1917 and WW2 documentaries alone is not just entertainment — it's programming * The pre-commitment research that proves deciding in advance beats in-the-moment discipline every time * Ecclesiastes 3:1 and what season you're actually in right now * The difference between a builder and a drifter when the house goes quiet Connect with Anthony & Divorced Dads of America: * Apply for 1-on-1 coaching: https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f [https://bit.ly/3PfPU0f] * Join the free Skool community: https://bit.ly/3Z83e97 [https://bit.ly/3Z83e97] * Instagram: @divorceddadsofamerica