Ep. 238: Surviving My Mother's Cult: Peggy on Escape, Trauma & Finding Your Voice

Ep. 250: My Anti-Aging Secrets: Skincare, Botox, Micro-Needling & Supplements

My Anti-Aging Secrets: Skincare, Botox, Micro-Needling & What Actually Works It's The Gay Bit — where Zach packs all the gay into one episode. This week, he's pulling back the curtain on his full anti-aging routine: the supplements, the devices, the spa treatments, and yes — the salmon sperm. In this episode: Zach breaks down everything he does to fight aging at 53 — from his 18-pill morning supplement stack (collagen, NAD, multivitamins, and more) to his double-cleanse routine with oil and soap-based cleansers, multiple toners, serums, vitamin C, and SPF. He talks about the LED face masks he buys and never uses, a $2,000 red light wand from South by Southwest that did absolutely nothing, and the treatments that actually make a difference — including micro-needling with salmon sperm facial, Botox every three months, and lip filler. He also gets candid about quitting smoking in January 2020, gaining weight during COVID when the gyms were closed, hating his 40s, and why turning 50 actually felt like a relief. Plus — he's signing up for a personal trainer twice a week at the fitness studio at the end of his block, because accountability is the only thing that gets him to the gym. Oh, and he definitely went on Facebook to look up his straight high school classmates and feel good about himself. No shame. Topics covered:   18-supplement morning routine: collagen, NAD, multivitamins, and horse-sized pills Double-cleanse method, toners, serums, and SPF LED face masks, red light wands, and skincare devices (mostly gathering dust) Micro-needling + salmon sperm facial — yes, really Botox every 3 months, lip filler once a year Quitting smoking in January 2020 and gaining weight during COVID Joining a personal trainer studio twice a week Being 53, gay, and aging on your own terms The Facebook scroll of shame (looking at old classmates)   Want to know the exact collagen supplement Zach swears by? Send him a DM on Instagram! New episodes drop Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday. The Gay Bit drops every Friday. Follow, subscribe, rate, review, and share — it genuinely helps the show grow. Find Zach on social and at TheRealZachRE on IG.  Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 249: She Left Everything and Built an Empire in LA | Danielle P.M. Johnson

This episode is about what it actually looks like to bet on yourself when you have almost nothing — and win. Danielle P.M. Johnson moved from the East Coast to Los Angeles in July 2020, in the middle of a global pandemic, having left behind an abusive marriage and carrying a dream that most people would have talked themselves out of. She arrived at midnight with rolling suitcases and no plan beyond this is what I'm supposed to do. What she's built since then — a choreography career, an Airbnb hustle that paid her first apartment, a women's empowerment organization, a dance-based film series, and a nonprofit that gets dancers paid — is a masterclass in resilience, faith, and moving when you don't feel ready. Zach and Danielle talk about what it really takes to start over, how dance heals even when you don't know who it's healing, and why knowing who you are changes everything. In This Episode * How Danielle moved to LA at the height of COVID with a car ride, a suitcase, and a prayer * The Airbnb hustle that turned into her first apartment — and got her debt forgiven during the pandemic * Her journey from music to choreography — and the prophecy that redirected her entire path * What performing means versus just dancing: getting into character so fully that you become the message * How dance heals — and why you can never predict which performance will move someone * The film series she shot and is now editing: telling the real story behind the highlight reel of entertainment * Glow Up House — the organization she founded for women (and men) focused on community, mentorship, and inner growth * Cardio Healing — the umbrella LLC and nonprofit helping dancers get booked, costumed, rehearsed, and paid for major events including the NYC Times Square New Year's Eve ball drop * What being a strong woman actually means: "I was always that girl — I just didn't know it yet" * What she wants her daughter to learn: resilience and going after what God placed inside you * Her manifestation list: mansion, Range Rover, touring with Beyoncé and Chris Brown, choreographing for GloRilla, Megan Thee Stallion, Cardi B, and more Guest Bio Danielle P.M. Johnson is a Los Angeles-based choreographer, entrepreneur, and founder of Glow Up House and Cardio Healing. Specializing in hip hop, jazz, and majorette, she got her start on her high school marching band dance team and has spent the last several years building a platform that centers the whole story of the artist — not just the highlight reel. Her nonprofit organization has helped dancers get booked for major performance opportunities including the New York City Times Square New Year's Eve ball drop. Connect with Danielle 🌐 Glow Up House: https://www.theglowuphaus.club/ [https://www.theglowuphaus.club/] (Merch, one-on-one dance classes, weekly Zoom calls, monthly events, and community membership) Enjoying the Show? If this conversation resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it. And please take a moment to follow, subscribe, rate, and review Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay — it makes a real difference in helping more people find these stories. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 248: Dating, Ghosting & Found Family: A Girl and a Gay on Real Modern Love

Jacqueline & Japheth | A Girl and a Gay What happens when a metropolitan girly from New York and LA meets a Nashville-born gay man at a summer party — and they become instant best friends? Magic. Content. And a whole lot of tea. Zach sits down with Jacqueline and Japheth, the creators behind the TikTok account A Girl and a Gay, for one of the most wide-ranging, real-talk conversations the show has had in a while. These two met just a year ago through a mutual friend, and they've already built a growing platform giving dating advice to thousands of followers — from real DMs about heartbreak, ghosting, and whether a guy actually likes you. In this episode: * How Jacqueline and Japheth met at a Nashville party and became instant best friends (what Japheth calls a "clandestine union of sorts") * Jacqueline's move from New York and LA to Nashville — and why she traded city life for something more peaceful * What the gay dating scene in Nashville is actually like: close-knit, warm, but also complicated when everyone knows everyone * Ghosting, catfishing, and love bombing — why ghosting may be more psychologically damaging than outright rejection * How to make friends as an adult (including Zach's Out Close dinner experience in Boston) * Being gay in a red state: Japheth's experience growing up out in Tennessee and why he cries every year at Nashville Pride * The origin of A Girl and a Gay — how a single TikTok video blew up and turned into a movement * Why their DMs started filling up with real relationship questions when they still had under 1,000 followers * Skincare secrets (shoutout to Revision Skincare and IT Cosmetics CC cream) * And the conversation every aspiring podcaster needs to hear about patience, persistence, and not going in with expectations Connect with Jacqueline & Japheth: * TikTok: @agirlAndAGay (combined account) https://www.tiktok.com/@a.girl.and.a.gay [https://www.tiktok.com/@a.girl.and.a.gay] * Plus their individual TikTok and Instagram accounts —   * https://www.tiktok.com/@japhethfranco [https://www.tiktok.com/@japhethfranco] * https://www.tiktok.com/@itsjacqs [https://www.tiktok.com/@itsjacqs] * https://www.instagram.com/japheth__franco/ [https://www.instagram.com/japheth__franco/] Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay is hosted by Zach Randles-Friedman. New episodes drop regularly. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 247: This Is Everything: Gay Men, Aging & the Skin Obsession Nobody Talks About

Episode Notes: Let's be real — the gay community has a complicated relationship with age. And Zach is done pretending otherwise. In this episode of This Is Everything, Zach reflects on the journey every gay man eventually takes: from the invincible 20-something who thought 35 was ancient, to the 53-year-old still showing up, still looking good, and still absolutely judging the 21-year-olds walking in like they own the place. In this episode, Zach covers: * Growing up in Miami and living his best twink life in South Beach going out six or seven nights a week * The exact moment in his 30s at Wonder Bar in New York City when it hit him — oh shit, I'm not the young one anymore * The infamous "old troll" comment he and his friend Tony made on the dance floor at Amnesia — and how karma came for both of them * Why gay men aging feels a lot more like straight women aging than straight men aging * His full skincare arsenal: Botox, microneedling, salmon sperm facials, and his newest obsession — Plated Skin Science, a serum powered by over one trillion platelet-derived exosomes developed by Mayo Clinic physician-scientists * Why he'll never do fillers (except for the lips, which doesn't count, apparently) * Dressing your age without looking like you've given up — and why he gave his oversized sweaters to his husband * The unexpected upside of being 53 in the age of AI About Plated Skin Science: Zach just started using the Plated INTENSE Serum and EYE Serum. Plated is the #1 dermatologist-recommended exosome brand, developed through 20+ years of Mayo Clinic research. The INTENSE Serum contains over 1 trillion platelet-derived exosomes per bottle and is clinically proven to reduce the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles, dark spots, and uneven tone. Time Magazine named it one of the Best Inventions of 2024. Learn more at platedskinscience.com [https://platedskinscience.com].  💬 Have your own "holy shit I'm getting older" gay bar moment? Tell Zach about it. 📩 DM on Instagram or drop a comment.https://www.instagram.com/therealzachre/ [https://www.instagram.com/therealzachre/] 🎙️ Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay drops new episodes five days a week. Subscribe, rate, and review wherever you listen — it genuinely helps more than you know.   Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ep. 246: Billboard-Charting Musical Theater Writer Billy Recce on Big Man & Queer Storytelling

Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay Episode: Billboard-Charting Musical Theater Composer Billy Recce Billy Recce is a queer composer, lyricist, and songwriter whose work spans Broadway development, off-Broadway productions, pop, and cabaret. He's a two-time MAC Award winner, Jonathan Larson Grant finalist, and William Finn Award winner — and his songs have been performed by Bernadette Peters, Mandy Patinkin, Tituss Burgess, and Rachel Dratch, among others. In this episode, Zach and Billy cover: * How Billy started writing musicals in spiral notebooks during third-grade math class and got his first major production as the youngest writer in the NY Musical Theater Festival with Balloon Boy * His new single "Wanted to Believe" from Big Man — an original musical about Alzheimer's, dementia caregiving, and a character whose condition leads him to believe he's close friends with the Rat Pack. The single is performed by Tony nominee Ramin Karimloo and 100% of proceeds benefit the Alzheimer's Association (alz.org) * Foul Play — a queer musical comedy about two theater writers hired to create an apology musical for Chick-fil-A, exploring rainbow capitalism and queer identity, directed by Ty Defoe (Titanic) * Little Black Book — Billy's one-woman musical about Heidi Fleiss living in the Nevada desert with 40 parrots, starring Broadway's Orfe, developed through a 2021 concept album and now heading toward a new production * What it actually takes to develop a musical — the seven-year journey, packaging, concept albums as momentum-builders, and keeping 18 projects in the fire at once * His long-term vision: queering the musical theater canon and telling stories across theater, film, and TV * Advice for young queer artists: get your work out, cold email everyone, find your performers, and use every platform available * His annual collaboration with P-Town drag performer Paige Turner, writing original songs for her yearly show at the Post Office Café Listen to "Wanted to Believe" https://open.spotify.com/track/0BvwefSfeKbHvBVtV8YNbP [https://open.spotify.com/track/0BvwefSfeKbHvBVtV8YNbP] on all streaming and digital platforms — and stream it knowing your listen supports the Alzheimer's Association.  Follow Billy: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebillyrecce/ [https://www.instagram.com/thebillyrecce/] * Website: https://www.billyrecce.com/ [https://www.billyrecce.com/] Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay is hosted by Zach Randles-Friedman. If this episode resonated with you, share it — and share Billy's single. Subscribe, rate, and review wherever you listen.     Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com [https://www.sixfoot5prod.com]  Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977  [https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 ] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ [https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.