Grief Relief for Christian Women | Widow, Support, Connection, Loss of Spouse, Joy, Grief and Trauma

Ep 7 - Reimagine After Loss

12 min · 14 de abr de 2026
Portada del episodio Ep 7 - Reimagine After Loss

Descripción

Have you ever had one of those quiet moments… Not a dramatic, crying-on-the-floor moment… Just a quiet afternoon, in the middle of doing absolutely nothing,  And this little thought floats through your mind… "what's ahead for me?" Not said out loud. Not even fully formed. Just… there. Like a question you're almost afraid to ask because you're not sure you're ready for the answer. Well — if that's ever been you… You are exactly where you need to be today. Because that quiet question? It's not hopelessness. That's the beginning of reimagining. 💛 INTRO Hi y'all, welcome back to Grief Relief for Christian Women. I'm Patty — and if you're new here, welcome. I am so glad you found this little podcast. Pull up a chair. Grab your coffee. Or your tea. And you don't even have to take notes because you can come back and listen as often as you need! Today we are talking about the third R in our grief framework: Reimagine. And before we go one step further, I want to say something I need you to hear before your brain starts doing that thing where it talks you out of everything good: Reimagining does not mean forgetting. It does not mean you've moved on. It does not mean you love him less. It does not mean your grief wasn't real or deep or valid. (I read once that the deeper your love was- the harder the grief is.) Reimagining means you are slowly, gently, sometimes reluctantly… allowing yourself to believe that there is still more ahead. That God is not done with your story. That the last chapter has not been written. And that is not a betrayal of who you lost — it is an act of faith. Let's pray before we dive in. 🙏 PRAYER Father, thank You for every woman listening right now. You know exactly where she is. Lord, give us vision again today. Not all at once — Just enough. Just enough light to see that our lives still hold purpose. Just enough hope to believe that You are not finished with us. Help every woman here trust that the story you started in her is still being written — and that the pages ahead are filled with more than she can currently imagine. We trust You with what we cannot yet see. In Jesus' name — Amen. 🧠 MAIN TEACHING Okay, let's talk about reimagining — because I want to be real with you about how this actually happened for me. It did not look like some beautiful sunrise moment where I stood on a hilltop and felt the wind in my hair and suddenly knew my purpose. (That is not grief. That is a movie trailer.) Reimagining, for me, was small. Very small. It was tiny little thoughts that I almost dismissed because they felt so strange, but hopeful at the same time. Not one or the other, but both. Because that's exactly what reimagining is in the early stages. It's not a clean, confident, kind of hope. It's a quiet, "I'm not sure I believe this yet, but I'm not shutting the door" kind of hope. And hey, that is enough. That is more than enough. Let me tell you how my very first “reimagining my future” went. Remember back in Episode 6 when I told you I discovered I didn’t actually want the barn house and land Ralph and I bought together… so I sold it? Well, the next step in that journey was trying to reimagine where I wanted to live next. I was still working at the time, and I loved my job, so I needed to stay in the area, but where and in what? Rent or buy? House or condo?  I couldn't make up my mind, nor was I in the mood to figure it out. Oh, btw, the ability to make any decisions at all, let alone life-changing decisions, at this point in my grief, was gone. I couldn't make a decision for my life! But here’s the thing: by the time the house closed and the new owners moved in, I had absolutely zero idea what came next. So I sat down with my son — Ryan — and shared this wild little idea I had: “What if I used the money from selling the house to buy a run-down place… and flip it?” Now, Ryan had to be involved because he has a degree in architecture, works with contractors every day, and has basically been in the building industry since birth — his dad was a licensed plumber, so that boy grew up with blueprints in one hand and tools in the other. I imagined we’d find a cute little fixer-upper that just needed some cosmetic updates… paint, floors, maybe a new kitchen faucet — you know, EASY stuff. We’d flip it, make a little money, and move on. Well… I didn’t imagine big enough. But God did. He already knew the plan. Ryan ended up becoming the general contractor for our first flip. And let me just say — the house we bought wasn’t just “run-down.” It was unlivable. He had to level the foundation — and if you know anything about remodeling, you KNOW you pray there are no foundation issues. Well… this house missed that memo. Then he tore it down to the studs, added on another 1,200 square feet, and between the permit delays, scheduling issues, and then COVID hitting… what should’ve taken six months turned into a year and a half and WAY over budget. Finally — FINALLY — it was finished. And we put that baby on the market in the middle of the wildest real estate market Austin, Texas had ever seen. It sold in two days… for 3 times more than what we bought it for. Can you imagine?! I couldn’t. But God? He is so good y'all!! Webster defines “reimagine” as forming a new, creative, or different conception of something — thinking about something in a fresh way to improve or adapt it for a new season. And that’s exactly what happened in that one conversation with my son. I reimagined everything — my finances, my living situation, my relationship with Ryan, even my relationship with my parents… because I ended up moving in with them for four months until I found my house. God used one moment of reimagining to rewrite an entire chapter of my life.  ✨ When Hope Feels Uncomfortable Let me tell you something that nobody warned me about. Hope can feel weird. Like, uncomfortable, weird. You start imagining something — like a trip, a new adventure, a new purpose — and then almost immediately your brain hits the brakes and says, "Wait. Should I be feeling this? And sometimes it even feels a little… wrong. Like, hoping for something good is somehow disrespectful to your grief. Or to him. I want to speak directly to that feeling right now: Hope is not betrayal. Listen to that again if you need to. Hope. Is not. Betrayal. Hoping for a future does not erase your past. It does not minimize your love or your loss. It does not mean you're done grieving or that you're somehow doing grief wrong. Hope is what healing looks like when it starts to take shape. Grief and hope are not opposites. They are not in competition. They can — and do — exist in the same heart at the same time. You are allowed to cry and dream. You are allowed to miss him deeply and wonder what's next. You are allowed to hold his memory close and open your heart to receive what God has ahead. Both. At the same time. 💛 You Carry Love Forward I think it is the biggest misconception about moving forward after loss: Moving forward does not mean leaving him behind. It means carrying his love with you — into what's next. His love shaped you. His presence changed you. The life you built together, the laughter you shared, the inside jokes, the sound of his voice — all of that is woven into who you are now. You do not leave that behind when you step into the future. You bring it. You carry it forward. And I believe with my whole heart: you are leaning into the woman you are becoming — the one being shaped by both the love you received and the grief you've walked through — you are extraordinary. The woman who understands depth and loss and resilience and grace in a way that most people never will. That is not nothing. That is a gift — even when it doesn't feel like one. 🌱 What Reimagining Actually Looks Like Here's what reimagining can look like in real life: Trying something new. A class you've been curious about. A restaurant you've never been to. A podcast (hi) you wouldn't have listened to before.  Saying yes again. To the invitation you almost declined. To the friend who keeps checking on you. To the opportunity that made you think "maybe" before you talked yourself out of it. Yes is a small act of courage. Make plans. This one was big for me. There's something about putting something on the calendar — a trip, a girls' night out, a class, anything — that says to your nervous system: there is a future, and I intend to be in it. Plans are hope made practical. Stepping into purpose. This might be the biggest one. At some point, you start asking: What has this season grown in me? What do I now carry that someone else desperately needs? Your grief story is not the end. It might be the very thing God uses to reach someone else who is right where you were. And here's the key thing about all of this: You don't have to do this all at once. Not in one big leap. Just small openings. One at a time. Think of it like cracking a window. You don't have to fling the whole thing open. Just… crack it. Let a little air in. See how it feels. 🛠️ YOUR ONE GENTLE STEP Alright, I'm not going to say goodbye without giving you something to do with all of this info I just laid on you. This week, I want you to do one thing: Notice one moment of possibility. Just one. It might be a thought. It might be an idea. It might be a "hm, I've always wondered what it would be like to…" It might be as simple as "maybe." When that moment shows up — and it will — instead of shutting it down… instead of saying "oh I couldn't" or "that's silly" or "I don't know if I'm ready"… Just sit with it. Think about it for a moment. before you commit to anything. Don't make any big decisions. Don't even tell anyone if you're not ready to. Just… breathe. Because that is how hope begins. Not with a grand gesture. Not with a five-year plan. With a quiet maybe that you choose not to dismiss. 💛 OUTRO If you could relate to this episode today — I'm so happy.  That's what this space is for. Before you go, can I ask a favor of you? If this encouraged you, share it. Text it to a friend. Post it in a Facebook group. message someone you know who has been quietly wondering if there's anything ahead for her. Because there is. There is so much ahead for her. There is so much ahead for you. Until next time — be gentle with your heart. You are not weak.  You are not broken. You are not lost. You are a woman in the middle of a story that God is still writing. And from where I'm standing? The best chapters are still to come. JUST THINK WHAT YOUR LIFE COULD BE AND WILL BE if you REIMAGINE💛

Comentarios

0

Sé la primera persona en comentar

¡Regístrate ahora y únete a la comunidad de Grief Relief for Christian Women | Widow, Support, Connection, Loss of Spouse, Joy, Grief and Trauma!

Prueba gratis

Empieza 7 días de prueba

$99 / mes después de la prueba. · Cancela cuando quieras.

  • Podcasts solo en Podimo
  • 20 horas de audiolibros al mes
  • Podcast gratuitos

Todos los episodios

16 episodios

episode Ep 15 - This Is Not As Good As It Gets: Finding Hope When You're Just Surviving artwork

Ep 15 - This Is Not As Good As It Gets: Finding Hope When You're Just Surviving

What happens when the people you've been caring for are gone, and you're left wondering what to do with all the empty hours? In this heartfelt episode of Grief Relief for Christian Women, Patty Jackson shares how losing her husband, Ralph, and later both of her parents left her grieving not only the people she loved, but also the routines, purpose, and identity that came with caring for them. If you've ever felt like you're just going through the motions, dreaded the silence of evenings and weekends, or wondered if life will ever feel meaningful again, this episode is for you. Patty offers biblical encouragement, personal stories, and practical hope to remind you that while grief changes your life, it doesn't end your purpose. You'll discover why it's normal to grieve the loss of your daily routines, how God gently leads us into new seasons, and why this is not as good as it gets. There is hope beyond surviving—and with God's help, you can begin living again, one faithful step at a time. Scripture: Psalm 34:18 Be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who needs a little hope today. www.mygriefrelief.com

Ayer14 min
episode Ep 14 - Father's Day Without Dad: Honoring His Memory While Healing Your Heart artwork

Ep 14 - Father's Day Without Dad: Honoring His Memory While Healing Your Heart

Father’s Day Without Dad: Honoring His Memory While Healing Your Heart Father’s Day can bring a mix of emotions when your dad is no longer here. Even years after a loss, special days have a way of reminding us of the love, memories, and moments we miss most. In this heartfelt episode of Grief Relief for Christian Women, Patty shares her personal experience of missing her father and offers faith-filled encouragement for navigating Father's Day while grieving. Together, we'll explore how to honor our dads, embrace cherished memories, and find comfort in God's presence when our hearts feel heavy. You'll discover: * Why Father's Day can trigger grief, even years later * How to honor your dad's legacy in meaningful ways * Biblical encouragement for brokenhearted daughters * A simple healing challenge to help you celebrate his impact on your life * Hope for carrying both love and loss with faith Scripture: Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." For more grief support and resources, visit MyGriefRelief.com and connect with a community of Christian women learning to find hope, healing, and purpose after loss. ❤️

23 de jun de 202611 min
episode Ep 13 - Feel Confident Again After Loss artwork

Ep 13 - Feel Confident Again After Loss

Feel Confident Again After Loss Have you ever looked in the mirror after loss and wondered where your confidence went? Grief has a way of shaking our identity, our routines, and even our belief in ourselves. The decisions that once felt easy suddenly feel overwhelming, and the future can seem uncertain. But confidence isn't something you've lost forever—it's something that can be rebuilt, one faithful step at a time. In this episode of Grief Relief for Christian Women, Patty shares from her own journey after losing her husband, Ralph, and the challenges of learning to navigate life alone. She discusses how grief affects confidence, why confidence grows through action rather than waiting to "feel ready," and practical ways to begin trusting yourself again. You'll discover: * Why grief often causes a loss of confidence * The difference between confidence and courage * Three simple ways to rebuild confidence after loss * How God can help you step forward even when you're afraid * A practical Confidence Inventory exercise to help you recognize how far you've already come If you've been questioning your ability to handle what's next, this episode is a reminder that God is still with you, still strengthening you, and still writing your story. Scripture: 2 Peter 1:3 NIV; 1 John 5:14-15 NIV; Jeremiah 17:7-8 NIV; Hebrews 4:16 NIV; Heb 13:6 NIV Weekly Challenge: Complete a Confidence Inventory and celebrate three things you've accomplished since your loss. Remember, Y'all: You don't have to feel confident before you take the next step. Sometimes confidence grows because you took it. 🎙️ Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs encouragement, and visit MyGriefRelief.com for additional grief support resources for Christian women. ❤️

16 de jun de 202615 min
episode Ep 12 - Celebrating Anniversaries With Faith, Hope, and Healing artwork

Ep 12 - Celebrating Anniversaries With Faith, Hope, and Healing

Episode 12: Celebrating Anniversaries With Faith, Hope, and Healing Do birthdays, wedding anniversaries, holidays, and heavenly anniversaries make your heart ache a little more? You're not alone. In this heartfelt episode of Grief Relief for Christian Women, Patty shares personal stories about her parents' nearly 67-year marriage, her dad's love of celebrating anniversaries, and how those special dates changed after loss. She also shares funny and touching memories of Ralph, including the anniversary they both completely forgot and the creative way he tried to convince her he had planned it all along. Together, we'll talk about why anniversary dates can trigger grief, anxiety, dread, and even guilt—and why every one of those emotions is completely normal. In this episode, you'll discover: ❤️ Why your heart remembers because love remembers ❤️ How anticipation is often harder than the actual day ❤️ Practical ways to prepare for difficult dates without putting pressure on yourself ❤️ How to honor your loved one while continuing to live the life God has called you to live ❤️ Why there is no "right way" to grieve anniversaries ❤️ How faith, gratitude, and grace can help carry you through special dates Whether you're facing a birthday, wedding anniversary, holiday, or the anniversary of your loved one's passing, this episode will remind you that grief and love are forever connected—and that God walks beside you through both. You'll leave encouraged, understood, and reminded that you can miss someone deeply while still living beautifully. Scripture: Psalm 34:18 "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." Grab a cup of coffee, a box of tissues if you need them, and join us for a conversation about celebrating anniversaries with faith, hope, healing, and gratitude for the memories that never leave our hearts.

10 de jun de 202622 min
episode Ep 11 - Grief, Grace, and Gratitude artwork

Ep 11 - Grief, Grace, and Gratitude

Grief, Grace and Gratitude 🎙️ FULL EPISODE SCRIPT Grief, Grace, and Gratitude INTRO Hey Ya'll. Welcome back to Grief Relief for Christian Women, where we talk about faith, healing, and all the things nobody warned us about—like how grief can turn a normal trip to H-E-B into a full-blown emotional meltdown in Isle 9. Yes, I've been there--did that! I’m your host, Patty Jackson, and today we’re diving into three little words that sound sweet enough to put on a farmhouse sign but powerful enough to change your healing journey: Grief, Grace, and Gratitude. But before we dig in, let’s start with prayer. OPENING PRAYER “Father God, we come to You today with hearts that are tender, tired, and maybe a little worn out. You see our tears, You know our pain, and You love us right through it. We ask for Your grace to steady us, Your peace to fill us, and Your mercy to remind us we don’t have to have it all together--not yesterday, today or even tomorrow. Lord, show us the little glimmers of gratitude! Bless every woman listening. Wrap her in Your comfort and remind her she’s not walking alone. In Jesus’ name, Amen.” SEGMENT 1: GRIEF — THE UNINVITED HOUSEGUEST Alright, let’s talk about grief—that uninvited houseguest who shows up unannounced, eats all your snacks, and refuses to leave. Grief is messy. Grief is sneaky. Grief shows up when you’re trying to pump gas or just minding your business, like while cooking or even watching TV. And if you’re anything like me, you may have thought, “Okay, surely this is supposed to get easier by now. Spoiler alert: it really does. Trust me on this! But here’s the truth I learned the hard way… Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. It follows your heart. And some days, that heart needs extra grace. Which brings us to our next part… SEGMENT 2: GRACE — GOD’S GIFT FOR THE DAYS WE CAN’T EVEN Grace is God’s way of saying, “Lady, sit down. You’re doing the best you can.”  Give yourself some grace. Grace is what whispers, “You don’t have to be strong every minute.” Give yourself grace. Grace reminds us that Jesus never once said, “Thou shalt not fall apart in Target.”  Give yourself grace. Grace shows up when we’ve used up all our patience, all our coping skills, and all your emergency food. I had to quit having "emergency food in my house, like Ice Cream, Chocolate, and wine, because when the emergency came, that stuff was already gone. And listen—grace is not only what God gives you, but what you must learn to give yourself. Maybe today grace looks like: Taking a nap instead of pretending you’re fine Saying no to people who drain you Letting the laundry stay dirty for one more day Crying without apologizing for it Grace meets you where you are—not where you think you “should be.” SEGMENT 3: GRATITUDE — THE TINY LIGHTS IN A DARK ROOM Now… let’s talk about gratitude.   I’m talking about the real-life, grief-stage gratitude that sounds more like: “Well, thank You, Lord, that my coffee didn’t spill on my shirt today.” Gratitude in grief isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about noticing the little mercies that keep you going. Sometimes gratitude looks like: A good hair day when you needed it A friend texting “thinking of you” at the perfect moment A funny memory that makes you smile through tears A day where you didn’t cry until 2 pm Every tiny thank-you is worship. Every moment of noticing good is healing. Because gratitude doesn’t erase grief— it simply gives grief somewhere softer to land.   "When people hear the word gratitude, they think I'm supposed to be grateful for losing Ralph. Not a chance. I would give anything to have one more conversation with him. That's not what gratitude means. Gratitude means I'm thankful for the years we had. I'm thankful for the love we shared. I'm thankful for the people God sent to help me survive after he was gone. I'm thankful that somehow, through all the tears, God took my greatest pain and turned it into a ministry that helps women all over the world. Some days my gratitude is deep and spiritual. Other days it's, 'Thank You, Lord, that I only had to do my makeup once today" 🌸 These are Things I'm Grateful For Even While Grieving I'm grateful that Ralph loved me so well that losing him hurt this much. I'm grateful for the years we had together instead of focusing only on the years we lost. I'm grateful that God never left me, even during the days I was angry, confused, and heartbroken. I'm grateful that my pain became my purpose. I'm grateful that my story can help another widow feel less alone. I'm grateful for every woman who listens to this podcast and realizes she's not crazy—she's grieving. I'm grateful for laughter. Some days it feels like medicine straight from Heaven. I'm grateful for coffee because Jesus works miracles, but sometimes He starts with caffeine. I'm grateful for the memories that still make me smile. I'm grateful for my friends and family, who carried me when I couldn't carry myself. I'm grateful that God helped me rediscover and reimagine my future. I'm grateful for the courage to sell our farmhouse and create a new dream. I'm grateful for my Lexus--the first luxury car I've ever had. I'm grateful for the lessons grief taught me that comfort never could. I'm grateful for every sunrise that reminds me God isn't finished with my story. I'm grateful that healing didn't require me to forget Ralph. I'm grateful for my parents, and I have so many memories of my wonderful, normal childhood. I'm grateful that joy and grief can sit at the same table. I'm grateful for the women God has brought into my life through this ministry. I'm grateful for second chances, new beginnings, and unexpected blessings. I'm grateful for the strength I didn't know I had until I needed it. I'm grateful that God specializes in resurrection stories. I want to explain gratitude — and I want to say this carefully, because gratitude is not the same as pretending everything is fine. Gratitude is not faking it until you make it. It is not dismissing your pain. Gratitude in grief is one of the most powerful, spiritually defiant acts you can do. It is saying to the enemy, "You took something from me, but you did not take everything." It is saying to God, "I still see you in here--in my heart." So here are some of the things I have become deeply, fiercely grateful for on this side of loss — things I might have taken for granted before. I am grateful for the years, the memories, and the moments I actually had. Loss has a way of sharpening your appreciation for what was given. I really don't want to spend so much time grieving what I lost that I forget to be thankful for what I had. Not everyone gets what I had. And that is a gift. I am grateful for the people grief revealed — the ones who showed up and keep showing up.  I know who they are, and they know who they are, and I do not take them for granted. Grief has a way of making you ruthlessly grateful for the right people. I am grateful for the woman I am becoming through this. I did not ask for this season. I would not have chosen it. But I can see — even on the hard days — that something is being built in me. Strength. Compassion. Faith. The kind of faith that doesn't just believe in God when life is good. The kind that believes him when it's not. That is a version of yourself worth being grateful for. And I am grateful, genuinely, for the small graces. The morning that I woke up and actually felt okay. The song that came on at the exact right moment. The friend who texted out of nowhere. The sunrise or sunset that I almost didn't stop to look at. God is in those moments. He is leaving little love notes everywhere! SEGMENT 4: HOW THESE THREE WORK TOGETHER Here’s where the magic happens… Grief will break you open. Grace will hold you together. Gratitude will slowly stitch you back up. They are not separate chapters. They’re all happening at once—like a holy casserole of emotions you didn’t ask for. Some days your grief is loud. Some days Grace holds your hand. Some days gratitude whispers, “Look right here—God is moving mountains.” It’s messy. It’s holy. It’s human. It’s healing. SEGMENT 5: PRACTICAL TAKEAWAYS FOR THE WEEK Here are three things to try this week, ya'll: 1. Name your grief moment each day. Just acknowledge it: Write it down--whatever your grief is at that moment, because I promise you, when you read it later--say next year, you will see how far you have come. 2. Practice one act of grace toward yourself. Rest, soften, breathe, slow down. Just give yourself grace. 3. Write down one tiny gratitude. Doesn’t matter how small because small stack up! As for me, I start every morning with "Thank you, God, for giving me another sunrise, and don't let me waste it today." CLOSING WORDS Your journey matters. Your tears matter. Your hope matters. And you are doing better than you think you are.  If you are listening to this podcast, you are trying, and that's all you can ask for. Give yourself grace. God hasn’t left you for one single second— And He’s going to carry you, comfort you, strengthen you, and lift you until you can walk steadily again. Thank you for spending this time with me today. We heal together. We rise together. And yes, we laugh together too. Until next time, may grief be gentle, grace be abundant, and gratitude show up right when you need it.

2 de jun de 202612 min