Mental Load, Mom Guilt & Quitting Breastfeeding Without the Shame with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

Weaning Off Exclusive Pumping at 9 Months, a Random Panic Attack & the Sleep Deprivation Nobody Warns You About

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm getting real about what’s been happening behind the scenes for this momma.   I'm talking about weaning off exclusive pumping after nine months, the panic attack that came out of nowhere, and the sleep deprivation that has me wondering if every other mom out there is secretly a zombie too or just better at hiding it than I am. In this episode I get real about: * Why I'm finally weaning off pumping after nine months of exclusively pumping for Bram, and why I wish I had stopped sooner for my own mental health * The terrifying panic attack that hit out of nowhere the day my supply started dropping, and the emergency therapy session that talked me off the ledge * Why nobody talks about weaning the way we talk about postpartum depression, anxiety, and rage * The hormone specialist inside of Snatch who helped me get back on track with nutrition and supplements * The bedtime epiphany that finally happened after eight straight months of putting two kids down solo * My official rant on sleep deprivation, the pink sock superstition, and why I need to know if other moms are walking around as zombies too New episodes of Hot Mom Shit drop every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Join the Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_9Leah] community to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_9Leah] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum PlectrumEpisode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Mom Guilt, a JFK Meltdown, & My First Vacation Since Becoming a Mom

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm catching you up on my European vacation with Matt, our first real trip away from the boys, ever. I'm talking eight nights, two countries, and the kind of mom guilt that hit me so hard at the airport I was sobbing. To add to my guilt, I get into the pumping disaster that had me standing over a sink in the Delta lounge with two broken pump sets and a true moment of panic, the text my mom sent me that I think every mom needs to read, and what it  felt like to remember who I am outside of being someone's mother for the first time in years. Also, I have a Bravo story for you. I accidentally became paparazzi in Sicily, and I have some thoughts about Real Housewives of Rhode Island, Summer House, and the Netflix show that spoiled the ending of the book I was reading on the plane home. In this episode I get real about: * The eight nights away from my kids and the anxiety attack I had at JFK before I even left the country * The text my mom sent me that made so many of you cry when I posted it on Instagram * The pumping nightmare in the airport lounge * Why the trip wasn't really about getting away from my kids, it was about remembering who I am as a whole person * The moment I accidentally went full paparazzi on a Bravo couple in Taormina * The Netflix show that spoiled my book on the flight home and why I will never forgive Kate Hudson * My Real Housewives of Rhode Island hot takes, because we are due for a reality TV catch up New episodes of Hot Mom Shit drop every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. And join the Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_8Leah] community to get first access to new episodes and meet a community of women who get it. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_8Leah] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Screen Time Guilt, Hiding in the Bathroom & Postpartum Resentment with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, Dr. S is back and this time we took questions straight from the community and went deep on three things that I think every mom is quietly carrying: screen time guilt, the permission to hide in the bathroom when you need a minute, and the mental load mothers carry.  In this episode we get real about: * Screen time and how much is too much, what content matters, and why it starts with what we're modeling ourselves * The 90s TV method that eliminated meltdowns in my house  * The mental load and why Dr. S doesn't believe equality between moms and dads will ever be achieved  * The three H's: the one tool Dr. S gave us to teach our partners how to actually support us * How becoming a mom changes every relationship in your life Momma, we're all figuring this out together. And Dr. S is proof that even the experts are navigating this in real time. Join Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_7DrS] and meet a community of women who get it. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_7Sanam] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Nobody Shows the Real Shit: Why Fake Motherhood Content Is Stressing Us All Out

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm going somewhere I've been stewing on for a while, because there is zero accurate depiction of real motherhood anywhere. Not in movies, not on reality TV, not on social media. Nowhere.  I'm not coming for anyone. But I am coming for the beige outfits, the timestamped morning routines, and the 47th Amazon haul of the week because, momma, it's making all of us feel like we're failing, and we're not. In this episode I get real about:  * Why The Valley might actually be one of the only shows doing it right and what Secret Lives of Mormon Wives missed the mark on * The social media scroll that's leaving us feeling like garbage (and why it's literally designed to do that) * Amazon hauls, storefronts, and the closet full of clothes I bought and never wore two months postpartum * The timestamped morning routine content that makes me want to throw my phone across the room * Why I'm in my "unfollow everything that makes me feel like sh*t" era * The 2018 concealer confession you didn't know you needed to hear * What my actual nighttime routine looks like…and it includes a toddler slapping my butt This one's for the mom who opened Instagram today and closed it feeling worse than when she opened it. It’s not you, the content is not reality. Join the Snatch community [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_2Leah] to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Shit dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_6Leah] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/] "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum PlectrumEpisode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Holy Eye Bags, Batman: The Truth About My Plastic Surgery

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I get real about something I've been sitting with my entire life…the eye bags that have followed me since birth. Yes, I am talking about my lower bleph surgery today.  But, don’t come at me and do not hear me say to fix your face. This is my story and something I’ve wanted to do for decades. But do hear me say, momma it’s time to stop waiting to do the thing you’ve been waiting to do.  In this episode I get real about:  * The acting class moment that stuck with me for 22 years (and why a grown a$$ woman had no business saying that to a 16-year-old girl) * What a lower bleph actually is and what I had done * Matt's reaction: skeptical going in, full nurse mode coming out * My pre and post-surgery non-negotiables * Why this wasn't about changing my face it was about feeling like myself  * The PSA every mom needs to hear: stop putting it off, the time is gonna pass anyway Momma, do what makes you feel good. Whether that's plastic surgery, a gym membership, or just lunch with a friend. I'm four weeks out and I feel like a different person in the best way.  Join the Snatch community [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_2Leah] to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. New episodes of Hot Mom Shit drop every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts.  Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_5Leah]Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/] "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum PlectrumEpisode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]