How to Be a Person

The Internet Is Rewiring Human Relationships | John Kai Wallis

1 h 13 min · 19 de may de 2026
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Why does the internet make people feel more divided, more suspicious of each other, and more disconnected from real human connection? And what happens when online identity starts replacing real-life experience? In this conversation, Giuliano sits down with relationship mentor John Kai Wallis to unpack the hidden psychological forces shaping modern relationships, online culture, identity, trauma, and the way social media is influencing how we see each other. What starts as a conversation about a Threads comment quickly turns into a much deeper exploration of echo chambers, ideology, parenting, emotional safety, dating culture, and the human need to belong to something bigger than ourselves. John shares his perspective on “The Love Map,” the unconscious emotional blueprint that shapes who we’re attracted to, what feels familiar in relationships, and why so many people unknowingly repeat the same painful patterns over and over again. The conversation explores how childhood experiences, unresolved emotional wounds, and online reinforcement loops can distort the way people view intimacy, men, women, and even humanity itself. They also talk about the growing divide between online interactions and real-life human connection, why social media algorithms seem to reward outrage and tribalism, and how many people are building entire identities around ideological movements without realizing it. Giuliano and John discuss modern dating culture, the psychology behind internet dogpiling and blocking culture, why people become emotionally attached to certain beliefs, and what happens when disagreement starts feeling like a personal threat. The conversation eventually moves into parenting, emotional regulation, trauma, and the pressure modern parents feel to “do everything right.” Giuliano opens up about becoming a father, while John shares his thoughts on presence, repair, and why raising emotionally resilient children may have less to do with perfect techniques and more to do with authenticity, emotional honesty, and allowing kids to fully become themselves. This episode is thoughtful, philosophical, deeply human, and filled with the kind of honest conversation that feels increasingly rare online. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.instagram.com/johnkaiwallis/ [https://www.instagram.com/johnkaiwallis/] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Life insurance: ⁠https://life.howtobeaperson.co [https://life.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.

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