Episode 4: Memory ft. Kayla Thomas
Content Warnings: Racism against Black Americans, Mentions of Slurs, Mentions of Addiction, Mentions of Suicide.
Hi Everyone, welcome to In the Mix, where we discuss the complexities of having a mixed racial and ethnic identity! It's our fourth episode! This one's a long episode so go grab your pulutan and buckle up!
My special guest for this episode is Kayla Thomas- Bookworm, Professional, Family Rock, Leader, and Sister to Episode 3's Aryssa Alonzo. In this episode, we get a mirror between sisters in the story of a family from many different backgrounds, challenges, and expressions. How does the world look when your ethnicity differs between your siblings? When you have a significant age difference and distance between you, how do you tell a shared story? What does it look like to be a young, mixed, Black woman?
The first child of their Mexican-Irish mother and a Black American father, Kayla grew up between Wisconsin and San Francisco. Kayla walks us through some experiences and how complicated it can be to be a Black mixed woman in non-black families, being "light skinned" and colorism in the Black community, and reconnecting with her heritage throughout her life. As a firstborn daughter, Kayla also grew up alongside Aryssa navigating complicated family dynamics, the descent of their mother's addiction, and the grief of losing their mother. With unparalleled grace, Kayla shows us the richness and complexities of growing up in a blended family and the ways that love endures through our memory.
Now as an adult, Kayla is enjoying life in Phoenix with her fiancé and two beautiful step sons, and guiding them through the intricacies of identity.
Special thanks to Kayla for opening up to a stranger and for being such a sweet guest on the show!
I hope you enjoy our discussion, feed back is welcome, being a jerk is not :)
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