Just Lookin' Out!

Red Flags Are Everywhere, Calm Down

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2458614/fan_mail/new] Some stories grab you by the collar and make you rethink what strength really means. Liam Wakefield’s journey—from a chaotic childhood to a rebellious music scene, the rigors of the infantry, a rare diagnosis, and finally, the therapy room—reveals how belonging and language can pull us back from the brink. We talk about the invisible weight of shame, why isolation is lethal, and the quiet power of being able to say exactly what you feel. Liam explains how he rebuilt an identity after losing the uniform and why nine friends lost to suicide pushed him toward prevention and practice. We unpack the nervous system in plain terms: how unspoken hurt becomes reactivity, how “parts” of us take the wheel in conflict, and how naming emotions reduces threat so we can choose rather than explode or shut down. We go deep on sextortion and the digital life of teens—what happens when social standing feels endangered, why boys struggle to show vulnerability, and what parents can do right now to keep connection alive. Hint: transparency beats surveillance, curiosity beats judgment, and open dialogue starts long before a crisis. For daters and partners, we focus on repair over perfection. The mask always slips; the question is how two people handle rupture. Liam offers a balanced take on masculinity—strength without the armor, courage without aggression—and practical cues for spotting when anxiety masquerades as intensity. We also challenge the culture of “red flags.” Everyone has them; safety and fit decide what’s workable. And when purpose turns into compulsion, Liam’s remedy is simple and profound: play. Laughter, roller skates, and unstructured time with the people you love can bring your nervous system back online. Listen in for lived wisdom, field-tested tools, and hope you can actually use.  If this conversation resonates, share it with someone who needs it, follow the show, and leave a review so more people can find these stories.  And if you need crisis support in the US, call or text 988 or contact SAMHSA at 1-800-985-5990 To find out more about Liam and his work go to:  www.liamjwakefield.com [https://www.liamjwakefield.com/] Connect with me on Instagram @KalieNitzsche - I’d love to hear what you think of this episode so please tell me in the comments. Check out the new video version of this podcast on YouTube @JustLookinOutPodcast.  Please like, share & follow! Want to be a guest or know someone who would be great? Apply at: https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87 [https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87] To find out more about my online presence monitoring solution Fuzzy Watchdog, go to Fuzzywatchdog.com. Disclaimer: The Just Lookin’ Out Podcast and content posted by SaferHer Studios LLC and Kalie Nitzsche is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or related sites or social media is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Photography For the Soul: Behind the Lens and on the Internet with Sophie Elgort

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2458614/fan_mail/new] With all the apps, filters and AI fakes on the loose, Kalie talks to this week’s guest,  photographer, director and TV host Sophie Elgort, about what it takes to slow down and savor the perfect shot.    Sophie and Kalie take a deep dive into how mom life influences work and creativity and get into the nitty gritty of whether being a photographer makes you any more likely to that perfect holiday shot with the kids...  Listen in for relatable stories, sage advice and a peek behind the curtain of life as a photographer to the A-list... For more on Sophie - check out her TV show Portrait Mode with Sophie Elgort on PBS, to see more of her fashion and celebrity photography go to Sophieelgort.com, and follow Sophie on Instagram @sophieelgort Connect with me on Instagram @KalieNitzsche - I’d love to hear what you think of this episode so please tell me in the comments. Check out the new video version of this podcast on YouTube @JustLookinOutPodcast.  Please like, share & follow! Want to be a guest or know someone who would be great? Apply at: https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87 [https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87] To find out more about my online presence monitoring solution Fuzzy Watchdog, go to Fuzzywatchdog.com. Disclaimer: The Just Lookin’ Out Podcast and content posted by SaferHer Studios LLC and Kalie Nitzsche is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or related sites or social media is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Dating Apps after 40 w/ TikTok Dating Guru Catherine Berra

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2458614/fan_mail/new] What’s the worst thing a guy can do before you meet him for a first date?  Our guest this week has the answer!  Catherine Berra, shares crazy tales from her book These Stories Are True ... I Sh#t You Not!: A Humorous Look at Online Dating for the Unsuspecting Older Human [https://www.amazon.com/These-Stories-Are-True-Shit-ebook/dp/B09S3R7HQX?ref_=ast_author_dp&th=1&psc=1], detailing both her own wild experiences and those of her male and female friends.  Hear stories so crazy that it feels like they are from a movie!  But THIS IS REAL LIFE!!   After all that can Catherine and Kalie even believe in real love anymore?  Listen in to find out... Follow Catherine  on TikTok  @CatherineRAuthor  Connect with me on Instagram @KalieNitzsche - I’d love to hear what you think of this episode so please tell me in the comments. Check out the new video version of this podcast on YouTube @JustLookinOutPodcast.  Please like, share & follow! Want to be a guest or know someone who would be great? Apply at: https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87 [https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87] To find out more about my online presence monitoring solution Fuzzy Watchdog, go to Fuzzywatchdog.com. Disclaimer: The Just Lookin’ Out Podcast and content posted by SaferHer Studios LLC and Kalie Nitzsche is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or related sites or social media is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

Reunited and it Feels So Good with our Bestie - Jess Heywood

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2458614/fan_mail/new] In this week’s episode Kalie catches up with the “other woman” that started her whole journey into dating app deception and online protection, special guest Jess Heywood.   Kalie and Jess cover the latest headlines in relationship horrors, read Reddit's most outrageous questions, and even field one anecdote from a fed-up listener!   Connect with me on Instagram @KalieNitzsche - I’d love to hear what you think of this episode so please tell me in the comments. Check out the new video version of this podcast on YouTube @JustLookinOutPodcast.  Please like, share & follow! Want to be a guest or know someone who would be great? Apply at: https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87 [https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87] To find out more about my online presence monitoring solution Fuzzy Watchdog, go to Fuzzywatchdog.com. Disclaimer: The Just Lookin’ Out Podcast and content posted by SaferHer Studios LLC and Kalie Nitzsche is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or related sites or social media is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

From Fan to Influencer with Special Guest, NYM News’s, Jaron Kiviat

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2458614/fan_mail/new] In this week’s episode, Jaron walks Kalie through how he built a sports media brand from the roots of his teenage Mets fan account.  How he went from a kid looking for a place to cheer on his favorite players and react to team decisions to becoming a creator going viral for his new media takes on a storied franchise.  Follow his ups and downs not only with the team ownership, but with Meta’s opaque and repeated take downs of his account and everything else that led him to being one of sports media’s most assertive and creative new voices.  Follow Jaron  @nym_news on Instagram, X, Snapchat, TikTok and YouTube.  Find him on Facebook at https://m.facebook.com/nymnews/ [https://m.facebook.com/nymnews/]  Connect with me on Instagram @KalieNitzsche - I’d love to hear what you think of this episode so please tell me in the comments. Check out the new video version of this podcast on YouTube @JustLookinOutPodcast.  Please like, share & follow! Want to be a guest or know someone who would be great? Apply at: https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87 [https://forms.gle/pewSJshc9YLgbSA87] To find out more about my online presence monitoring solution Fuzzy Watchdog, go to Fuzzywatchdog.com. Disclaimer: The Just Lookin’ Out Podcast and content posted by SaferHer Studios LLC and Kalie Nitzsche is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or related sites or social media is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.