The Realness We Do in the Shadows

S.2.e.16 - Sexting: New Technology, Same Old Sex

Kevin and Nat are joined by Gaz, Kona, and Rowan to talk about sexting. Since technology has been so inextricably linked to sexual discourse from the sex addict era-onward, sexting is discussed as something that was once a cultural fear, but now is completely ubiquitous, especially among kinksters. The advent of cellphones with cameras made taking and sharing explicit images easier than ever. Access to internet chat rooms and forums made it easier to find likeminded individuals. Text messages have made it possible for people to type out the most depraved sexual fantasies from anywhere, without others noticing. And for the sex scandals, there are now digital records of all these things. Contact Us: kinkvisionpod@gmail.com [kinkvisionpod@gmail.com] Kevin - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram) Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social [http://thoughtfulnat.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Gaz - @gazgagged (Instagram); @gazgagged.bsky.social [http://gazgagged.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Podcast - Gaz Ungagged - Check out “Consent, Power, and Looking Back” (s.1.e.3) for Gaz’s full story about early sexting Kona - @alohaboykona (Instagram); @alohaboykona.bsky.social [http://alohaboykona.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Rowan - @knotrwn (Instagram)

The Sex Addict Era - How We Got Here

In this episode, Nat and Kevin introduce the Sexual Eras on Screen theme. The first era being covered is The Sex Addict Era from the late-oughts to mid-2010s. To contextualize this era, sexual politics from the late 90s and early 2010s are discussed, which includes the spread of internet porn, the explosion of personal mobile phones and sexting, the age of shock jocks, irony, pre-app dating websites, sex tapes, and Girls Gone Wild. Even though this era is very heteronormative, connections to queer kinksters are made. Contact Us: kinkvisionpod@gmail.com [kinkvisionpod@gmail.com] Kevin - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram) Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social [http://thoughtfulnat.bsky.social] (Blue Sky)

The Realness We Do in the Shadows

To wrap Performing the Ordinary, Kevin and Nat discuss how realness and performing the ordinary factor into the comedic, pseudo-reality-show What We Do in the Shadows with Dorian. The absurdity and hijinks of being eternal, immortal vampires comes with an awful lot of passing. First, there’s passing as human just so vampires could survive in the same world as them. Then, there’s the need to start over in a small town and getting emotionally wrapped up in the people who live there, the desire to become human again and live a delusion with a wellness cult, participating in human ideas of masculinity and femininity, or realizing that coming out as gay is the most boring thing reveal about someone. All of these things relate to kinksters and kinkster fantasies in different ways. Contact Us: kinkvisionpod@gmail.com [kinkvisionpod@gmail.com] Kevin - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram) Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social [http://thoughtfulnat.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Dorian - @dorian_hey_bound (Instagram); @dorianheybound.bsky.social [http://dorianheybound.bsky.social] (Blue Sky)

Do You Want People to Stare?!

Nat and Kevin are joined by Jon again, this time to talk about the cult classic Death Becomes Her. Like other movies that have been discussed on KinkVision, there’s a definite queer and kinky sensibility in Death Becomes Her. Particularly, there is a great deal of passing from older women passing as young, dead and immortal women passing as alive and mortal, and then there’s Ernest. The soft, bald republican did most of the heterosexual adult male touchstones, but made a career around passing, was a complete beta male, and essentially was the desexualized love object in the love triangle between Helen and Madeline. Contact Us: kinkvisionpod@gmail.com [kinkvisionpod@gmail.com] Kevin - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram) Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social [http://thoughtfulnat.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Jon - @suitbound.bsky.social [http://suitbound.bsky.social] (Blue Sky); @boundsuit (Twitter); absolutebondage (Recon)

None Shall Pass PART TWO

Kevin, Nat, and their guests continue talking about the various ways that they’ve passed. When learning that other people are kinksters, or at least more tolerant and accepting than assumed, there’s less of a need to pass. However, there can always be environments and people that make the need to pass very palatable. In kink, passing could even just involve making roleplay and looks more authentic because there is less of a need to do it. Like in PART ONE, there are segments with James, Danny, Tim, Gagmaniac, Tom, Ben, Mike, and Tex. Contact Us: kinkvisionpod@gmail.com [kinkvisionpod@gmail.com] Kevin - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram) Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social [http://thoughtfulnat.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) James - @s.t.a.n.n.u.m (Instagram); @s.t.a.n.n.u.m.bsky.social [http://s.t.a.n.n.u.m.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Podcast - Thicc Radio Tom - @suitor_wolfs_out (Instagram); @southernsuitor.bsky.social [http://southernsuitor.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Danny - @kinkmate13.0 (Instagram); @kinkmate13.bsky.social [http://kinkmate13.bsky.social] (Bluesky) Gagmaniac - @gag.mania (Instagram); @gagmaniac.bsky.social [http://gagmaniac.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Tim - @thickey_mouse (Instagram); @thickey_mouse (Twitter) Podcast - Thicc Radio Ben - @bawdylovepun (Instagram) Mike - @tightrg61eu (Instagram); @tightropeseu.bsky.social [http://tightropeseu.bsky.social] (Blue Sky) Tex - @geardpnw (Instagram); @geardpnw.bsky.social [http://geardpnw.bsky.social] (Blue Sky)