Life, Love and Legacy

The fine line between achievement and self-abandonment - with Sue Revell

20 min · 28 de abr de 2026
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Where are you abandoning yourself in the name of achievement? It’s a brave question. Especially when achievement has been rewarded, applauded, admired, or quietly used as proof that we are enough. In this Insights episode of Life, Love & Legacy, I’m reflecting on my conversation with Averil Price, The Legacy Coach. The interview was hugely thought-provoking and left me musing on a number of themes including success, burnout, recovery, alignment and the courage to live a life that feels true to who we are. This episode is not about rejecting ambition. Far from it. Sometimes striving for things teaches us how we grow, serve, protect, recover or create. But when achievement becomes the only way we know how to measure our worth, something starts to suffer. I explore the fine line between achievement and self-abandonment, the stories that can sit beneath proving and pushing, and why alignment is not about doing less - but actually about living with more truth. I also reflect on Averil’s beautiful idea of a ceremony of gratitude for still being here, and the thresholds we move through without ever pausing to honour what they cost, changed or revealed. Because legacy is not only about what we achieve. It’s about how honestly we live, how consciously we choose, and how courageously we return to ourselves. IN THIS EPISODE, I REFLECT ON: * when achievement starts to feel more like pressure than expression * how striving can begin with care, loyalty, service or love * the hidden stories beneath proving, pushing and holding it all together * why alignment is not the same as opting out * the role of flow, grace and ease in a meaningful life * Averil’s ceremony of gratitude for still being here If you're wondering what might be possible if you stopped leaving so much of yourself behind, this episode is for you. Connect with Sue: Website: https://www.suerevell.com [https://www.suerevell.com] Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/] Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell [http://www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell]

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At the threshold: introducing Season Two - with Sue Revell

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episode More than what we leave behind: the Season One lessons - with Sue Revell artwork

More than what we leave behind: the Season One lessons - with Sue Revell

What if legacy is less about how we’re remembered and more about how we’re living now? In this Season One finale, I’m looking back at seven conversations that explored identity, visibility, self-worth, kindness, success, truth and the courage to live more fully as ourselves. What began as an experiment in creating a different kind of conversation became something much deeper. Again and again, the subject of love led us back to the relationship we have with ourselves: how we see ourselves, trust ourselves, express ourselves and stop abandoning ourselves in order to belong. I revisit the central ideas from each guest conversation and its accompanying Insights episode, including what it means to be born pre-approved, the quiet cost of hiding who we are, the fine line between achievement and self-abandonment, and the courage to believe things can be different. This episode is both a reflection on Season One and an invitation to return to the conversations that may be calling you now. Connect with Sue: Website: https://www.suerevell.com [https://www.suerevell.com] Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/] Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell [http://www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell]

16 de jun de 202622 min
episode Rebels, rulebreakers and the courage to believe things can be different - with Sue Revell artwork

Rebels, rulebreakers and the courage to believe things can be different - with Sue Revell

Some truths were never really ours. We inherited them, absorbed them, repeated them, and somewhere along the way we began treating them as fact. In this solo Insights episode, I’m reflecting on my conversation with brand strategist, writer and ideas person Matt Thomas, and exploring the themes that stayed with me: truth, rebellion, language, ideas and becoming. Not rebellion as noise, ego or some sort of performance. The deeper kind that begins when we question the accepted path, the rules of the room, and the stories we’ve been told about who we are allowed to be. Drawing on Matt’s reflections on rebels, rulebreakers, punk, creativity, class, belonging and self-doubt, I explore how the things that held us back may also have driven us forward, and why we need more curiosity and compassion for the parts of ourselves we’re tempted to reject. I also reflect on why, as a coach, I love disrupting people’s thinking, and why language really matters when we are talking about truth. The words we use can honour what matters, or quietly make it smaller. This episode is an invitation to question the truths, scripts and language you may have accepted without realising, and to ask what might become possible if you allowed yourself, even quietly, to rebel. Because sometimes the most important legacy we create begins with a simple refusal: I don’t believe it has to be this way. HIGHLIGHTS INCLUDE: * The difference between rebellion and disruption for performance * How inherited truths become mistaken for reality * Why coaching can interrupt the thoughts that keep us small * The messy relationship between what holds us back and what drives us forward * Why language matters when we are trying to live truthfully * Ideas as invitations to see, speak, make and become differently Connect with Sue: Website: https://www.suerevell.com [https://www.suerevell.com] Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/] Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell [http://www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell]

9 de jun de 202614 min
episode The pursuit of truth: rebellion or responsibility? - with Matt Thomas artwork

The pursuit of truth: rebellion or responsibility? - with Matt Thomas

Maybe you were never here to fit the market, follow the script, or become more acceptable. Maybe part of your work is to disturb what’s become too comfortable, challenge what’s now too familiar, and tell the truth that keeps being quietly avoided. In this episode of Life, Love & Legacy, I’m talking to Matt Thomas, brand strategist, speaker, and former award-winning business journalist, whose work helps experts, founders and organisations move beyond safe, samey positioning and become impossible to ignore in crowded markets. But beneath the branding lies something much deeper. Matt’s work is rooted in a lifelong pursuit of truth. The truth beneath the performance. The truth inside the story. The truth we often think but don’t say. From his early curiosity about why people behave as they do, to his love of rebels, rule-breakers, artists and ideas, Matt has built a body of work around helping people stop blending in and start becoming unmistakably themselves. And what emerges in this conversation is that truth-telling is not only an act of rebellion. Sometimes it is an act of responsibility. A responsibility to your work, your voice, your people, and the difference only you can make. Matt reflects on growing up in Birmingham, being shaped by working-class humour, love and loyalty, losing his father at 23, and the deeply human journey of becoming a father after fertility struggles. We also explore curiosity, class, creativity, grief, belonging, self-doubt and the quiet rebellion of refusing to become what the world expected. At the heart of this conversation is a question that applies to brand, identity, life and legacy: Are you brave enough to become true enough to be impossible to ignore? HIGHLIGHTS * Why the pursuit of truth has shaped Matt’s life, work and way of seeing people * How journalism, curiosity and brand strategy all connect through story * Why becoming “impossible to ignore” starts with becoming more unmistakably yourself * The creative power of rebels, rule-breakers, artists and people who refuse to fit the mould * Losing his father at 23, and how grief changed Matt’s understanding of life and meaning * Fertility, fatherhood and the moment his daughter’s birth became a release of love, relief and faith * Why great work often comes from slowing down, making properly, and refusing to settle Connect with Matt: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themattthomas_/ Website: https://www.mattthomas.co/about Connect with Sue: Website: https://www.suerevell.com [https://www.suerevell.com] Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/] Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell [http://www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell]

2 de jun de 202636 min
episode The privilege of being seen, heard, witnessed and valued - with Sue Revell artwork

The privilege of being seen, heard, witnessed and valued - with Sue Revell

What if the part of you that’s still in hiding is not only protecting you, but withholding something that someone else might really need? In this week’s Insights episode of Life, Love & Legacy, I’m reflecting on my conversation with Jenny Kovacs, the visibility specialist known as the Queen of Being Seen. But this reflection moved beyond visibility as confidence, courage or profile, and into something deeper: visibility as dignity and grace.. After leading my first funeral as a celebrant, and reading about a Service of Remembrance for people who had died while experiencing homelessness, I found myself thinking about what it really means for a life to be witnessed. Not simply recorded or summarised, but seen with love, heard with care, remembered with dignity and valued for the imprint it has left. Jenny spoke about the “sea of what ifs” that so often keeps us hidden: what if I get it wrong, what if I’m misunderstood, what if I’m too much, what if nobody cares? And yet the alternative is not neutral. When we hide, some part of our wisdom, experience, humanity or love may never reach the people it might have helped. This episode is an invitation to think differently about being seen. Because life, love and legacy are lived in the way that we show up; the way that we speak, listen, honour and remember. And in refusing to let any life, including our own, disappear unnoticed. HIGHLIGHTS 01:31 Visibility beyond confidence: the deeper theme Jenny’s conversation opened up 02:44 Witnessing a life: what my first funeral brought into focus 04:09 The privilege of living a life that is seen, heard, witnessed and valued 06:40 The “sea of what ifs” that can make hiding feel safer 09:47 Why being comfortable in our own skin is deeper work than it sounds 12:08 Speaking from the edge of certainty, and the cost of staying silent Connect with Sue: Website: https://www.suerevell.com [https://www.suerevell.com] Social Media Links Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/ [https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/] Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social] LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell [http://www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell]

26 de may de 202617 min