Cognitive Distortions in Marriage

Order Within Family Chaos

Mike and Alicia Hernon from the Messy Family Project join Doug discussing how to handle the chaos of family life.   Listener questions and comments:   * Cindy - My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and we are talking about money. My concern is that he isn’t 100% open to support me. Should it be 50/50? (8:39) * Jean - We have been married 60 years and We share the money. (22:10) * Jack - I am 62 and my daughter is 22. I am seeing some similarities between what I did with my ex-wife. How involved with this should I be? (38:01)   Resources:   Sacred Heart of Jesus by Pompeo Batoni https://relevantradio.store/products/sacredheart [https://relevantradio.store/products/sacredheart]   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ [https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/]   Messy Family Project https://messyfamilyproject.org/ [https://messyfamilyproject.org/]

Cognitive Distortions in Marriage

Doug discusses how cognitive distortions can harm marriage. Listener questions and comments: * Teresa - I have been married for 36 years and after living with this for so long we had to get different living situations. (19:24)   11 Cognitive distortions 1. Filtering 2. Discounting the positive 3. Over generalization 4. Jumping to conclusions 5. Catastrophizing 6. Personalization 7. Fallacies 8. The blame game 9. “Should” statements 10. Emotional reasoning 11. Always being right

When Your Spouse Says No to Intimacy

What should you do if your spouse always says no to marital intimacy? What if there is conflict about abstaining from intimacy to avoid sin? Doug goes to the mailbag, answering these questions and more.     Listener questions and Comments: * Ray - I am seeing the biggest hindrance in marriage being unrealistic expectations. (21:57)

Marriage, Suffering, and Lasting Hope

Doug discusses suffering in marriage.   Listener questions and comments: * Jennifer - How much suffering is too much? (8:44) * Candy - I have been married for 40 years. My husband goes into funks and won’t talk to me for a day or up to 3 months. I start getting upset and I don’t know what to do. (19:37) * Elaine - I was divorced in 1991, and he was having an affair with his secretary since 1989. It was awful and I wanted to save the marriage, but I had lost to this woman. I wonder what would have happened if I had stuck around. (27:46) * Rocco - Mary at the Wedding of Cana might have said what she said to the servants because of her perspective as a married woman. She was invested in the wedding going well and starting the marriage off well. (34:51) * Mike - I suffer from depression myself and one thing I find is that medication helps. Prayer life will also help. (37:41) * Deedee - What is the difference between the 6th and 9th commandments? Which is worse? (41:45) * Anthony - My wife revealed trauma from her childhood (incest and rape) and she told me ten years after we got married. We divorced because of it. She kept this from me before marriage. (44:09)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ [https://www.marriageunhindered.com/]   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ [https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/]   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/ [https://catholictherapists.com/]   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/ [https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/]

10 Keys to a Happy Marriage

Doug shares 10 practical habits that can help couples build a happy and successful marriage. The conversation also touches on infidelity, hoarding, forgiveness, and mental health struggles that can impact relationships. Resources:  https://internationalforgiveness.com/ [https://internationalforgiveness.com/]   https://www.internationalhoardingalliance.org/ [https://www.internationalhoardingalliance.org/]    https://www.nami.org/ [https://www.nami.org/]