When Your Spouse Says No to Intimacy

What Dads Need for Father’s Day

What do dads really need on Father’s Day? Doug offers seven powerful reminders of how love, respect, and gratitude can make a father feel seen and valued.   Resources: The Bible and Marriage: The Two Shall Become One Flesh (A Catholic Biblical Theology of the Sacraments) https://stpaulcenter.com/store/the-bible-and-marriage-the-two-shall-become-one-flesh-a-catholic-biblical-theology-of-the-sacraments [https://stpaulcenter.com/store/the-bible-and-marriage-the-two-shall-become-one-flesh-a-catholic-biblical-theology-of-the-sacraments]   Marriage Tune-Up: https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ [https://www.marriageunhindered.com/]   What dads really need on Father’s Day 1. I love watching you be a father. 2. I love the way you show up even when it’s hard. 3. You make this family better in ways you don’t even realize. 4. I trust your judgement as a father. 5. You teach our kids things I never could. 6. I’m proud of the man you’ve become. 7. I still choose you every day.

Marriage Unhindered Lightning Round

Doug discusses how married people are living their best lives and how married women are increasingly the happiest women.   Listener questions and comments: * Denise - My boyfriend has stopped talking to other women but he has a friend who is a woman. She is married but he doesn't want to hurt the friendship. It bothers me. (10:34) * Dana - It seems like Catholicism encourages marriage when Paul advises against it. Why? (21:00) * Rita - I am in a relationship with a man after being widowed. I want to get married but he won’t move forward with it. Should we go to therapy? (25:49) * Adela - I have seen two instances where the men have left their fiancés for their best friends. (30:24) * Ann - I know a man who adopted some children and now has a problem with them and doesn’t want to live with them. (35:35) * Regina - the context of Paul’s writing is that Paul believed that the second coming would be within the year or two so it wasn’t worth having kids because we have so little time. (42:27) * Danielle - I am married and we are both Catholic and I am still learning about the faith and he has abused me so I am asking about a divorce. He wants to go to therapy. What do I do? (44:17)

Attachment Needs That Strengthen Marriage

Doug unpacks the 5 attachment needs every married person has. PLUS: The Friday rant!   Listener questions and comments: * Liza - My daughter is 28, lives at home and will never help me with any chores. Her father won’t make her help and she ignores me. (37:36)   Resources:   5 attachment needs in marriage 1. To be seen, known, heard and understood 2. To feel safe and secure 3. To be comforted, soothed and reassured 4. To be cherished, rejoiced and delighted 5. To believe that my spouse wills my good

Mistakes That Push Kids Away

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to discuss ways parents lose their children without realizing it.   Listener questions and comments: * Lucy - I have an 18-year-old and 20-year-old and I caught them drinking. What do I do? (8:44) * Monica - My children have cut me off because of a divorce. They are influenced by their father on this. (19:42) * Shirley - Comment about drinking: you can't forget that the parents are responsible as the parents and could get sued or get in trouble. (25:32) * Akilah - I have a 19-year-old and when she turned 18 she decided that she would leave the house whenever, and she would ignore curfews. But she still lives at home when she is back from college. What should I do? (36:11) * Sherry - I have two sons who are 33 and 36 and we are in the process of trying to sell the farm to one of them and the other isn’t happy. What should we do? (43:50)   Resources: Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus https://relevantradio.com/2026/06/prayer-to-the-sacred-heart-of-jesus/ [https://relevantradio.com/2026/06/prayer-to-the-sacred-heart-of-jesus/]   Ways parents lose their children without realizing it. 1. They guilt their kids into staying close 2. They turn every conversation into a criticism

Impact of Attachment Styles (Part 2)

Doug continues his discussion on childhood attachment wounds and how they can negatively impact your marriage. Today, he looks at anxious and disorganized attachment strategies.   Listener questions and comments: * John - My wife doesn't like talking about difficult topics and she just wants me to listen but I want to fix. its effecting our communication. (24:20) * Angel - My fiancé was an orphan raised by his uncle and was very spoiled. He has a very entitled attitude. What should I do? (26:31)   Resources: Impact of Attachment Styles (Part 1) https://relevantradio.com/2026/06/impact-of-attachment-styles/ [https://relevantradio.com/2026/06/impact-of-attachment-styles/]   Emotionally Focused Therapy https://iceeft.com/ [https://iceeft.com/]     Signs of an anxious attachment style 1. Tendency to be very clingy 2. Highly sensitive to criticism 3. Need for approval from others 4. Tendency to be very jealous 5. Hard time being alone 6. Tendency for having low self esteem 7. Feel unworthy of love 8. Intense fear of rejection   Signs of a disorganized attachment style 1. Fear of rejection 2. Difficulty regulating emotions 3. Contradictory behavior 4. High level of anxiety 5. Substance abuse and self-harm 6. Unpredictable and confusing behavior in relationships 7. Perceive spouses to be unpredictable