Why Comparison Hits Differently in Midlife (And What to Do About It)

Divorce in Midlife: The Emotional Survival Guide for Women Starting Over with Oona Metz

Divorce can feel overwhelming, heartbreaking, and incredibly lonely, especially in midlife when so much of your life feels intertwined with your marriage, family, finances, identity, and future. In this episode we talk about the emotional side of divorce that so many women struggle through quietly. Oona shares the five phases of divorce grief, what to do first when you don't know where to start, how to protect your mental health through the process, and why the emotional rollercoaster you're feeling may be more normal than you think. Today I'm sitting down with Oona Metz, author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women [https://www.oonametz.com/book-unhitched]. Oona is a therapist with 30 years of clinical experience and has spent the past 15 years helping women navigate divorce. She leads three weekly divorce support groups and trains mental health professionals to support women through divorce. Oona shares what she has seen happen for hundreds of women in midlife who once believed divorce was the worst thing that could happen, only to later find healing, growth, confidence, and even joy again. This conversation is going to give you a roadmap for what to expect, how to move through this emotionally, and hope for what's possible on the other side. ✨ In this episode, we discuss: * The 5 phases of divorce grief * What to do first when facing separation or divorce * How to protect your mental health during divorce * Why divorce in midlife feels so overwhelming * Financial fears and what women should know * Finding support and rebuilding after heartbreak * Hope, healing, and life after divorce Connect with Susie McLean Instagram: @susiemclean.xo [https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo/] Email: ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com [ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com] Connect with Oona Metz Website: oonametz.com [https://www.oonametz.com] Instagram: @oonametz [https://www.instagram.com/oonametz/] Facebook: Women Navigating Divorce [https://www.facebook.com/womennavigatingdivorce/] LinkedIn: Oona Metz, LICSW, CGP [https://www.linkedin.com/in/oona-metz-licsw-cgp-6a14a41b/] YouTube: Oona Metz [https://www.youtube.com/@OonaMetz] Substack: Unhitched: Let's Talk Divorce [https://substack.com/@oonametz] Get Oona's book: Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women [https://www.oonametz.com/book-unhitched] Article Mentioned in Episode: When Someone You Know Gets Divorced. Condolences or congratulations [https://www.wbur.org/cognoscenti/2026/02/10/divorce-what-to-say-oona-metz]

Why You Feel Disconnected in Your Relationship (And What It's Costing You) with Colette Jane Fehr

Feeling disconnected in your relationship and not sure why? Wondering if resentment in marriage or emotional distance with your partner is quietly building? In this powerful conversation, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, TEDx speaker, and author of The Cost of Quiet, Colette Jane Fehr joins me to talk about the hidden cost of staying quiet in relationships, especially for women who have spent years people pleasing, avoiding conflict, or putting everyone else first. Because sometimes relationship problems don't start with huge fights. Sometimes it looks like biting your tongue. Keeping the peace. Feeling unseen. Feeling emotionally disconnected in marriage or wondering why your relationship feels "off" even when nothing is technically wrong. In this episode, we talk about: ✨ The early signs of resentment in relationships and marriage ✨ Why emotional disconnection happens in long-term relationships ✨ How people pleasing can quietly damage intimacy ✨ Better communication in relationships and how to have hard conversations without blowing everything up ✨ How to rebuild trust after betrayal or infidelity ✨ Practical tools for healthier communication and emotional connection Whether you're navigating resentment in your marriage, struggling with communication in a relationship, dealing with emotional distance, or simply trying to understand yourself better in love and midlife, this episode will leave you feeling seen and give you practical tools you can actually start using today. 👉 Connect with Colette Jane Fehr: 📚 Get Her Book: The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love [https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book] 🎙️ Podcast: Insights from the Couch: Real Talk for Women at Midlife [https://open.spotify.com/show/2uAm0tXUVPI3RwScvqg2Ge?si=e117b43453c14734] 🎙️ Relationship Podcast/Radio Show: Love Thy Neighbor [https://open.spotify.com/show/6OnfiFJMy7WOPrkFsyfvhW?si=18dcff73c22d4b4b] 📱 Follow Colette on: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/] 🌐 Visit Colette's: Website [https://www.colettejanefehr.com/] If this episode resonates with you, send it to another woman who needs this conversation. Connect with Susie: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo] Email Susie: ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com [ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com]

Why Comparison Hits Differently in Midlife (And What to Do About It)

If you're in midlife and comparison has been making you feel like you're behind, too late, or like everyone else has figured something out that you haven't, this episode is going to hit home. Comparison in midlife feels different than it did in your twenties. Back then it felt like fuel. Now it feels more like a deadline. And that shift is not an accident. It's something a lot of women feeling stuck in midlife are experienced but rarely talk about. In this episode we cover: * Why comparison feels so much heavier in midlife than it ever did before * How to stop letting someone else's timeline mean something about your own * What to do the next time comparison shows up. Because it will * Why holding on too tightly to a plan or a timeline could be costing you your clarity * How to start trusting your own path again even when it looks nothing like everyone else's You are not behind. You are not too late. And you are not the only woman in this season of life wondering why everyone else seems to have figured it out. If comparison has been quietly convincing you that you missed your window, this episode is your reset. Come say hi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo [https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo]

Playing it Safe in Midlife? It's Time to Bet On You

Betting on yourself in midlife can feel scary, especially when you've spent years putting everyone else first. In this episode, we're talking about what it actually looks like to stop waiting, trust yourself, and finally take a chance on the life you really want. If you've ever found yourself thinking, maybe next year, when life settles down, or when I feel more ready. This conversation is for you. In this solo episode of Own Your Midlife, I'm getting personal about my own journey of waiting for permission to start this podcast, and the moment I finally realized nobody was coming to hand me the green light. We're talking about what it really means to bet on yourself in midlife, why so many women slowly stop choosing themselves, and how easy it is to spend years betting on everyone else while quietly putting yourself on the back burner. We also get into why confidence doesn't always come first, how fear shows up when you're stepping into something new, and why sometimes the bravest bet isn't starting over, it's ending something that no longer fits. In this episode: • Why betting on yourself in midlife often means taking action before you feel ready • The quiet ways women stop choosing themselves over time • Why sometimes the bravest bet is ending something that no longer fits • How fear, self-doubt, and waiting for permission can keep us stuck • The one question I want you to ask yourself before this episode ends If you've been feeling pulled toward something new, questioning what's next, or wondering if it's too late to choose yourself again, I hope this episode reminds you of one thing: You are what you're bringing to the table. Connect with me on Instagram: @susiemclean.xo [https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo]

Nervous System Overload? Small Midlife Resets That Actually Help

If you've been feeling emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed, or like life just feels heavier than it used to, this episode is for you. Maybe you're juggling work, kids, aging parents, relationships, your health, and somehow still feeling like you're supposed to hold everything together. Maybe you're waking up already feeling behind, constantly overstimulated, and wondering why everything suddenly feels like so much. And sometimes we think something is wrong with us when really, our nervous system is just overloaded. In this short solo episode, I'm talking about small nervous system resets that actually help when life feels overwhelming. No perfection. No complicated routines. Just real life ways to calm your nervous system, lower stress, and feel more like yourself again. Here's what we're getting into: • Why you don't owe everyone immediate access to you • Nervous system resets that help you feel calmer in midlife • Drained from doing it all? Perfectionism may be exhausting you more than your to-do list • Giving yourself permission to choose the easy version If life feels heavy right now, I hope this episode feels like a deep breath and a reminder that you don't have to do it all. Small shifts really do add up. And if someone came to mind while listening, send this episode their way. Maybe they need a little encouragement too Connect with Susie: Social media: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/susiemclean.xo] Email: ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com [ownyourmidlifepodcast@gmail.com]