Frenemy Mine

Is It In the Cards?

Episode 20: Is It in the Cards? What starts with a random knock at Rebecca’s door from a young man warning that a fire is starting in her yard somehow turns into a conversation about tarot, intuition, divine nudges, and whether the universe is constantly trying to get our attention (spoiler: we think maybe yes). We talk about why tarot gets such a weird rap, where some of that fear-based religious baggage comes from, and the difference between moving through life feeling like everything is happening to you versus for you. About the hosts: Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy. Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.  Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Catching Up and Getting Woo

Episode 19: Catching Up and Getting Woo We’re back together and doing what we do best: catching up on life, big feelings, and mildly unhinged spiritual tangents. Rebecca is fresh off a deeply meaningful retreat in Australia, Heather has closed another chapter in corporate life, and Jessica is in the very real “oh wow, I really did this” phase of startup while still striving toward that steady paycheck. We talk about what it takes to bet on yourself in midlife, quiet the mean girl in your head, and find the people who truly get you. Naturally, we also wander into the woo... soul connections, the possibility that love is the connective force of the universe, and what it means to trust the flow instead of clinging to control. About the hosts: Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy. Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.  Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Close Encounter: The Narcissist in the Wild

In this special extended episode, we sit down with narcissist-proof coach Dorothy Livio Vaughan for an honest, tender, sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why it can be so hard to see clearly while you're still inside it. Dorothy walks us through how these patterns show up, why we instinctively know the truth long before our minds catch up, and what it takes to start untangling ourselves from that toxic knot that has rewires our brains and rewrites our reality. We get into the red flags, the gray areas, the self-doubt, and the messy, meaningful work of navigating or eliminating these relationships. We share our own stories too, because of course we do. If you want to dive deeper after this one, check out the book Safe People [https://www.boundariesbooks.com/products/safe-people-how-to-find-relationships-that-are-good-for-you-and-avoid-those-that-arent] by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend from Boundaries Books, or visit the website of Dr. Ramani Durvasula [https://doctor-ramani.com/] for more expert guidance and resources. If you have ever lain awake at 2 a.m. wondering "is it just me, or is something really off here," consider this your permission slip to trust yourself. You are not crazy. You are not too much. And you are not alone. About the hosts: Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy. Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.  Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Where Nobody Could Find Us

This one started as a bad day. Mars entered Aries, a business partner was being a lot, and somebody was eating Easter candy at a genuinely alarming rate. So Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather did what you do when you need to recover: they got together and talked about everything. Which TV characters they secretly are (Beth Dutton, Hermione Granger, Samantha Jones on testosterone pellets, among others). What it felt like to grow up in the 90s when being out meant being completely, blissfully unreachable. Why that kind of freedom shaped a generation in ways that are only becoming clear now that we are watching our own kids live the opposite of it. And what it means, at this particular stage of life, to finally be primarily responsible for just yourself. About the hosts: Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy. Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.  Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.

Frenemy Mine

Friendship changes as we do, and this episode gets into all of it. Rebecca, Jessica, and Heather talk about the friendships that deepen, the ones that drift, and what connection, loyalty, and mutual effort look like in midlife. It’s warm, thoughtful, and for anyone who has ever treasured a soul-friend, grieved a friendship, or realized they no longer have energy for one-sided relationships. About the hosts: Rebecca has spent most of her life organizing, leading, fixing, building, and occasionally overthinking things for others. After decades in corporate and communal leadership, she now works as a coach and guide, helping people navigate life's transitions without losing themselves in the process. She is a partner, a mom, a sister, an auntie, a daughter, a healer, a spiritual teacher and guide, a friend, and a recent dog-mom. Based in California, Rebecca is learning (in real time) how to choose living in alignment with love, truth, and wisdom over the noise of raging hormones and the crumbling patriarchy. Jessica is a California native who now happily calls Tennessee home — yes, willingly, and yes, she loves it. For the last several years, she has been every kind of mom, including cheer mom, scout mom, room mom, snack coordinator, and calendar manager, to an 8-year-old and a 12-year-old, while also being a wife, daughter, sister, running a business, and leading in the corporate world. Jessica brings heart, sarcasm, and the kind of practical wisdom that comes from juggling a lot and still showing up. She approaches midlife the way she approaches everything: full-on, and with enough humor and prescription hormones to survive it.  Heather has questions. A California girl now rooted in Washington State, she has fully embraced being a dog guardian, fresh air, muddy boots, and starting over. She is an amazing friend, a great big sister, a devoted dog human to her rescue dog, Chance, a community gardener, a bee lover, and a general enthusiast of things that grow. Heather brings curiosity, honesty, and a quiet adventurous streak to the mic. She sees midlife not as something to manage but as something to explore, preferably outdoors, ideally with really good snacks, and always with an open heart.