Are You Emotionally Present in Your Relationships or Just Not There?

What’s in the Cards for Your Relationship?

PHIL: You talked at lunch about two friends who spend much of their day in each other’s company doing activities together, and I said that is not us; we have a different balance, though I suspect it’s not totally equal, … What’s in the Cards for Your Relationship? Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/whats-in-the-cards-for-your-relationship/]

How Relationships and Community Fulfill the Same Need for Connection

PHIL: In this culture, there is a strong focus on the individual. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself, to stay alive, to plan for the future. And yet, we are not a solitary species; we are a … How Relationships and Community Fulfill the Same Need for Connection Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/how-relationships-and-community-fulfill-the-same-need-for-connection/]

Why Stillness and Attention are at the Core of Peaceful Relationships

To pay attention, this is our endless and proper work. Mary Oliver PHIL: I’ve been meditating recently and have discovered that when I consciously sit still, it works much better. I’m not talking about making an effort to keep my … Why Stillness and Attention are at the Core of Peaceful Relationships Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/why-stillness-and-attention-are-at-the-core-of-peaceful-relationships/]

How to Stop Playing the Blame Game and Actually Feel Peaceful

MAUDE: I experienced a close friend engaging in the blame game this last week, and it was such a strong experience that it made me want to write about it here. My friend seemed to be walking around drowning in … How to Stop Playing the Blame Game and Actually Feel Peaceful Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/how-to-stop-playing-the-blame-game-and-actually-feel-peaceful/]

How the Play Between Words and Feelings Affects Your Relationships

PHIL: Besides writing with Maude, I also write independently on Substack. Maude is away on a trip for a few weeks, so I want to describe some ideas of mine and explain how they apply to relationships. I’ve been thinking … How the Play Between Words and Feelings Affects Your Relationships Read More » [https://philandmaude.com/how-the-play-between-words-and-feelings-affects-your-relationships/]