When Systems Fail

The Longer You Hold onto Things, the Heavier They Get: What can you put down?

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] A single quote sparks a hard truth: the longer we hold on to pain, the heavier it becomes. We talk through emotional weight, how survival and masking become habits, and why healing starts when we decide some things no longer belong on our shoulders.  • the quote that frames the whole message: holding on makes things heavier  • emotional weight we carry: shame, fear, resentment, disappointment, pressure to perform  • how trauma and grief become “normal” when we adapt for years  • what writing Loving Differently reveals about carrying responsibilities, secrets, and shame  • living with diagnoses like autism, ADHD, dyslexia, fetal alcohol and the cost of masking  • choosing to stop adapting to survive and start living  • lessons from my children: needs are not weakness, vulnerability can be safe, love can look different  • perfectionism as an extra burden that blocks real connection  • why we cling to anger, guilt, and shame and what we fear letting go means  • letting go without erasing the past and carrying pain in a healthier way  If today's episode spoke to you, I hope that you'll share it with someone who may be caring more than they realize.  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]

The Things We Carry After We Leave: Part 2 with Anna Hebra Flaster

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] A family gets 48 hours to leave Cuba and suddenly everything becomes a decision made under fear. We sit down with author and journalist Anna Hebra Flaster for Part 2 of her story, and what unfolds is equal parts heartbreaking and darkly funny, from translating “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” to realizing how quickly a new country can turn “difference” into a test you have to pass. We talk about the powerhouse women who carried the family forward, including the unforgettable moment Anna’s aunt smuggles her educational credentials out of Cuba so she can rebuild a career in the United States. We also dig into the loud, loving chaos of a home where politics divide people and still don’t break the bond. Along the way, Anna gives us a real portrait of her father, a tough, hardworking man shaped by scarcity, racism, and an honor code that doesn’t always translate to American life, yet still full of tenderness and devotion. The conversation doesn’t stop at survival. We go into identity and shame, the sting of being reminded you’re “not from here,” and what it takes to reclaim pride in your language and culture. Anna also opens up about motherhood, postpartum depression, and the moment a psychiatrist names what she couldn’t: losing your home, world, and voice overnight is trauma, and it can echo decades later. We close by looking at Cuba today, ongoing repression, and why migration stories deserve more humanity than politics. If this moved you, subscribe, share it with someone who cares about immigration and freedom, and leave a review so more listeners find these stories. What part of Anna’s journey hit you the hardest? Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]

Beside Every Struggle is a Gift: The Art of Neurodivergence

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] What if the very things we've been taught to hide are actually our greatest strengths? For so long, neurodivergence has been viewed through the lens of deficits, delays, and difficulties. But what if we looked at it differently? What if, beside every struggle, there was also a gift? In this solo episode, Ann explores the beauty, complexity, and strengths that often accompany neurodivergence. From autism and ADHD to FASD and learning differences, this conversation challenges the idea that being different means being less than. Drawing from her own experiences as a neurodivergent woman, adoptee, and mother of neurodivergent children, Ann shares how she learned that our differences are not something to overcome but something to understand. This episode is about seeing beyond labels and behaviors and recognizing the incredible gifts that often live right beside the struggles. It's about shifting from asking, "What's wrong?" to asking, "What strengths are we overlooking?" Because neurodivergence is not a flaw to fix. It is a different way of experiencing the world. And sometimes, the very thing that makes life harder is also the thing that makes life more beautiful. 🎙️ Join us as we celebrate the art of neurodivergence and discover why our differences may be our greatest gifts. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]

The Sound of Freedom: A Family's Escape

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] A single sound can carry a whole country inside it. When author Anna Hebra Flaster talks about hearing a motorcycle, she’s not being poetic, she’s describing a trauma stamp from childhood, the moment her family learned they had permission to leave Cuba and only hours to surrender their life and disappear. Ann sits down with Anna to unpack what exile really costs and what it demands from a family that refuses to fall apart. We go back to post-revolutionary Cuba, when hope in a restored democracy collapses into censorship, informants, and fear. Anna explains how the right to leave was controlled by the government, how applying to depart could turn you into a public enemy, and why refugees often carry a different kind of lifelong vigilance than immigrants who move for opportunity. We also dig into language that gets weaponized today, immigrant vs refugee vs migrant, and why accurate words change how we understand human journeys. Then the story comes forward into the United States, where freedom is visible in everyday life, protests, criticism of leaders, and choices that are not policed by ideology. But safety doesn’t erase what happened: Anna shares the childhood triggers, the terror of uniforms, the house-fire fear that fed insomnia, and the years it took to name PTSD without losing pride. We close with sharp cultural insight, family resilience, and a jaw-dropping detail about how one woman protected her education when even documents were treated like contraband. Subscribe for Part Two, share this with someone who cares about freedom and refugee stories, and leave a review if the conversation moved you. What’s one word you use to define freedom, and why? Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]

One of the Greatest Tragedies in Life Is Not Failure. It's Quitting Before We Get to the Other Side.

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] What if the hard isn't a sign to quit? What if the resistance, the setbacks, the waiting, and the closed doors are actually preparing you for the very thing you've been praying for? After reading Adassa's memoir, Love Keeps Showing Up, and hearing her incredible story of perseverance, Ann couldn't stop thinking about one powerful truth: Don't let the hard stop what God started in you. In this solo episode, Ann shares how important it is to not quit before the dream is reached. This short episode is inspired by Adassa's journey to becoming the voice of Dolores in Disney's Encanto, a dream she pursued for more than 20 years. Together, we'll explore why waiting seasons often shape us more than success, why growth rarely feels comfortable, and why one of the greatest tragedies in life isn't failure. It's quitting before we get to the other side. Ann also opens up about her own journey of writing a memoir through chaos, parenting children with autism and FASD, navigating adoption, advocating through systems that said "no," and learning that just because you don't know what to do doesn't mean you can't do it. If you're feeling discouraged, exhausted, stuck, or wondering if your dream is still worth pursuing, this episode is for you. Your breakthrough may be closer than you think. 🎙️ Listen now and take the next step.  Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the part that hit you hardest. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]