Avoiding Conflict at All Costs: Why Enneagram 9 Needs to Learn to Rock the Damn Boat

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In this Sunday Shortie episode of RTDB, Christy explores Enneagram Type 9 — The Peacemaker — and what it really means to keep the peace at your own expense. After testing equal parts Type 2 and Type 9, Christy digs into the 9's core patterns: avoiding conflict, numbing out, and the slow fade of self. She connects the 9's spiritual potential to the eight limbs of yoga as a grounding framework for growth — and gets honest about how the unhealthy 9's pull toward addiction showed up in her own life. Development tips sourced from the Enneagram Institute round out this bite-sized but powerful episode. ---------------------------------------- What You'll Hear in This Episode: * Why Christy tested as both a Type 2 and Type 9 — and what the overlap reveals * Core Type 9 traits: the peacemaker, the conflict-avoider, the one who disappears into the background * What "not rocking the boat" actually costs you * The healthy 9: becoming a spiritual seeker, grounded in contentment * How the eight limbs of yoga support a 9's growth path * The shadow side: how the 9's numbing tendency can fuel addiction (and Christy's personal connection to this) * Growth tips for Type 9s from the Enneagram Institute Resources Mentioned: * Enneagram Institute — Type 9 [https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-9] * The Eight Limbs of Yoga

When Your Nervous System Is Maxed Out: Menopause, Creativity & Letting Others Be Happy

Some weeks the nervous system runs hot. In this Sunday Shortie of RTDB, I'm talking about windows of tolerance — the space where you can actually feel and function before you tip into overwhelm or shutdown — and what it looks like when menopause keeps shrinking that window without warning. I also get honest about something quieter: the pull to dim someone else's joy when you're depleted. Not out of meanness — out of exhaustion. And what it takes to let other people be happy without making it mean something about you. Then there's Yesteryear. I always thought I was writing the character's postpartum depression. Turns out the page was holding a mirror up to my own state of mind in menopause. The writing knew before I did. In this episode of RTDB: * What a "window of tolerance" is, in plain language * Why menopause narrows that window — and how to notice the edges sooner * The difference between protecting your peace and stealing someone else's * How my own writing surfaced what I wasn't saying out loud * A gentler way to move through a depleted week Key takeaways: * Your window of tolerance isn't fixed — hormones, sleep, and stress move the walls * Feeling depleted doesn't make you a bad person; it makes you human * Someone else's joy is not a withdrawal from your account * The creative work you make often reflects you before you're ready to look * You don't have to fix the whole feeling — you can just name where you are * What is a window of tolerance? The range where your nervous system can handle stress and emotion without tipping into overwhelm (hyperarousal) or shutdown (hypoarousal). * How does menopause affect emotional regulation? Hormonal shifts can narrow that window, making it easier to feel flooded or flat with less provocation than before. * What does "stealing someone's joy" mean? Diminishing another person's happiness — often unconsciously, when you're depleted — instead of letting their good moment exist on its own. Learn more about The Thrive Collective at thrivewithchristy.com

14 de jun de 202619 min

Avoiding Conflict at All Costs: Why Enneagram 9 Needs to Learn to Rock the Damn Boat

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