Why Your Nervous System Is Secretly Ruining Your Sex Life (And What to Do About It) | Ep. 177

Female Viagra Is Finally Here — And It's Called Dare to Play | Ep. 184 (Part 1)

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with Sabrina Johnson — founder, president, and CEO of Daré Bioscience — to tackle a question that's been 27 years overdue: where is the female equivalent of Viagra? Sabrina breaks down the critical distinction between libido (desire, the mental appetite for sex) and physical arousal (the body's blood flow response), explaining why the two require completely different solutions — and why the pharmaceutical industry has largely ignored the latter in women. She shares the science and story behind Dare to Play, a topical sildenafil cream engineered with proprietary Dermaflex technology to deliver the active ingredient directly to genital tissue, enhancing physical arousal sensations within 10–15 minutes. We cover how Dare to Play compares to existing options like Addyi, Vyleesi, and testosterone — and why none of those address physical arousal the way this does. We also clear up a common misconception: this is not a lubricant. It works from the inside out, enhancing the body's natural lubrication response through increased blood flow. Sabrina walks us through exactly how to get a prescription today — via your own provider or a free telehealth consult— and explains the pricing: $99/tube, 10 doses, roughly $10 per use. Currently out of pocket (no insurance), but intentionally priced for access. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation you won't want to miss. In This Episode: 0:00 – Ad: Aria.FYI 0:55 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth 1:30 – Meet Sabrina Johnson, CEO of Daré Bioscience 2:15 – Libido vs. Physical Arousal: What's Actually the Difference? 5:15 – The Real Reason There's No Female Viagra (Until Now) 8:15 – Introducing Dare to Play: Sildenafil Cream Engineered for Women 10:15 – How to Get a Prescription Today (Free Telehealth Consult) 13:15 – What Does It Cost? The $99 Tube, $10 Per Use Breakdown 15:15 – Dare to Play vs. Addyi, Vyleesi & Testosterone 17:15 – Is This a Lubricant? No — Here's the Key Difference 18:50 – Part 2 Is Coming — Subscribe Now Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About The Guest: Sabrina Martucci Johnson is a seasoned life sciences executive and passionate advocate for women’s health innovation. As Founder, President,and Chief Executive Officer of Daré Bioscience, Inc. (NASDAQ: DARE), she leads a purpose-driven biopharmaceutical company dedicated to developing and commercializing novel, differentiated products for women. Under her leadership, Daré advances a diverse pipeline spanning contraception, fertility,menopause, sexual health, and vaginal health, with the goal of accelerating access to important therapies. Her leadership has been honored by Ernst &Young Entrepreneur of the Year (Pacific Southwest Region), Fierce Pharma’sMost Influential People in Biopharma, and inclusion on the Medicine MakerPower List and Endpoints Women in Biopharma. Driven by the belief that women deserve better options, Ms. Johnson champions innovation to transform how women worldwide experience their health and well-being. Connect with Sabrina Johnson: Website [https://sirleezus.com/]: https://darebioscience.com [https://darebioscience.com] DARE to PLAY™ Sildenafil Cream: https://daretoplaybio.com [https://daretoplaybio.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sirr.leezus/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/darebioscience [https://www.instagram.com/darebioscience] About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

6 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist (And Why You Keep Missing Them) | Ep. 183

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off their guided intimacy subscription at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] Everyone talks about narcissists, but do you actually know what to look for? I'm breaking down six concrete behavioral signs of a true narcissist — and more importantly, why we keep missing them. I walk through what separates a genuine narcissist from someone who's just self-centered, explain the psychological traps — love bombing, trauma bonding, gaslighting — that keep us stuck, and give you a real checklist to spot what you've been talking yourself out of seeing. From frustration intolerance and subtle put-downs to aggressive driving and the apology cycle that never ends, these signs show up in the first year. The question is whether you're willing to see them. In This Episode: 0:00 - Sponsor: Aria.FYI 0:35 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth 0:50 - What Makes Someone a True Narcissist 1:55 - Love Bombing & Why the Signs Are Easy to Miss 2:40 - Sign #1: Frustration Tolerance (Tantrums & Grudges) 3:20 - Sign #2: Talking Over You & Subtle Put-Downs 3:55 - Sign #3: Isolation & Loyalty Tests 4:30 - Sign #4: Aggressive Driving (Backed by 30+ Studies) 5:05 - Sign #5: The Apology Fandango 5:40 - Sign #6: The Explosion & Acting Like Nothing Happened 6:25 - Why We Miss the Red Flags: The Trauma Bond 7:05 - How to Actually Protect Yourself 7:35 - Final Thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

Inside the World of Cuckolding with Adreena Winters: Trust, Power, and Desire | Ep. 182

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] In this episode, I sit down with Adreena Winters — writer, educator, and one of the most recognized voices in the world of cuckolding — to finally clear up what this dynamic actually is, and what it isn't. Adreena is the author of So You Want to Be a Cuckold and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, and she brings both lived experience and years of coaching couples through this exact terrain. We get into why most people's first reaction to the word "cuckolding" is shame or confusion, and why that reaction is almost always wrong. Adreena breaks down the real difference between a hot wife dynamic and a cuckoldress dynamic, why humiliation is usually a small piece of the puzzle rather than the main event, and why compersion — genuinely enjoying your partner's pleasure — is so often the real engine driving this for men. We talk about how couples actually start exploring this safely: communication first, boundaries second, and why over-controlling the experience can backfire. Adreena walks through the biggest mistakes couples make (hint: it usually starts with who you let into the dynamic), the red flags that signal someone isn't a good third-party candidate, and the warning signs that a couple isn't actually ready for this yet. We also get into the Red Pill and Manosphere comparison — because consent is the dividing line, and it changes everything. If you've ever been curious, confused, or quietly judging something you don't fully understand, this conversation will give you the real picture instead of the porn version. In This Episode: 00:00 Intro & Aria.FYI 01:15 Welcome to Taboo to Truth 01:45 Meet Adreena Winters 02:30 Why Cuckolding Is So Misunderstood 04:00 Cuckoldress vs. Hot Wife: What's the Real Difference 06:30 Is the Bull Part of the Couple's Dynamic? 08:15 Who Usually Initiates: Men or Women? 10:00 Cutting Queens & Reversed Dynamics 12:00 Where to Start: Communication and Boundaries 14:30 No, It's Not Always a Threesome 16:00 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make 18:30 Red Flags When Vetting a Bull 20:30 Signs a Couple Isn't Ready Yet 23:00 The Porn Fantasy vs. The Reality 26:00 Adreena's Own Relationship & Retiring From Porn 28:30 Cuckold Confessions: Filming Real Couples 30:00 Finding a Bull: Apps, Sites & Communities 31:30 Cuckolding vs. The Manosphere & Red Pill 32:30 Is Cuckolding Cheating? 33:00 Where to Find Adrena & Closing Thoughts About The Guest: Adreena Winters is a content creator, writer, and educator known for her work exploring cuckolding. With over a decade of experience both personally and professionally in the adult industry, she has become one of the most recognisable voices discussing cuckolding openly and without shame. Adreena is the author of So, You Want to Be a Cuckold?, and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, a series exploring the motivations and desires of men who embrace the cuckold identity. Through her writing, videos, and podcast appearances, she aims to demystify taboo fantasies and encourage more honest conversations about sexuality, desire, and power within relationships. Connect with Adreena Winters: Website: https://thecuckacademy.com/https://thecuckacademy.com/ [https://thecuckacademy.com/] Links: https://links.adrena-winters.com/https://links.adrena-winters.com/ [https://links.adrena-winters.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sirr.leezus/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/coachadreena [https://www.instagram.com/coachadreena] About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

Cheating Isn't About Sex — Here's What It's Really About | Ep. 181

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] In this episode, I'm tackling the topic nobody wants to bring up at dinner: cheating. Whether you've been cheated on, you've done the cheating, or you've just thought about it (and most of us have), this conversation is for you. I'm breaking down what infidelity actually is, why it shows up so often in midlife, and whether it's ever justified. I get into the messy truth that affairs are rarely about sex — they're about disconnection, unmet needs, and the stories we tell ourselves instead of having hard conversations. I'm not excusing cheating. I am asking you to understand it, because understanding is the first step toward preventing it, surviving it, or having the honest conversation you've been avoiding. In This Episode: 00:00 - Sponsor: Aria Intimacy Membership 00:48 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth 01:10 - Introduction: Talking About Cheating Like Adults 01:30 - What Actually Counts as Cheating? 02:15 - Why Cheating Happens More in Midlife 02:50 - Is Cheating Ever Justified? 03:55 - Are We Even Wired for Monogamy? 04:40 - Open Relationships vs. Cheating: Where's the Line? 05:10 - What to Do If You've Been Cheated On 06:05 - How to Prevent Infidelity Before It Happens 06:45 - Final Thoughts: Choosing Honesty Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations. I have hand-selected some great products to help support your s//xual wellness. Purchasing products from me and/or my affiliates helps support the work that I do and ensures I can continue to help as many people and couples as possible! LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

She Helped Thousands Find Love After 40 — Here's What Actually Works | Ep. 179 (Part 2)

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser In this episode, I'm back with Shana James for Part 2 of our conversation — and this time we're getting into the real, messy, funny, and deeply human side of dating in midlife. Shana breaks down the most common mistakes people make when they're back out there after divorce or a long relationship, starting with the one thing most people skip entirely: knowing what they actually want. We talk about love, lust, and partnership as three completely separate dimensions — and why collapsing them into one is where so many relationships go wrong. Shana shares her own stories of fumbling through dating after divorce, why she won't date someone who's fresh out of a relationship, and what happened when she gave her current partner a chance even when the initial chemistry wasn't there. We also get into why instant chemistry can actually be a red flag rooted in attachment wounds, how to spark connection instead of just waiting for it, and what to do if you're in a relationship that feels stuck. Shana closes with her best advice for anyone who's dating or partnered and feeling lost — and it's simpler and more powerful than you'd expect. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome Back — Going Even Deeper in Part 2 01:20 The Most Common Midlife Dating Mistakes 03:45 Know Yourself Before You Date — Why It Matters 06:00 Love, Lust, and Partnership Are Not the Same Thing 08:15 Fumbling Through Dating After Divorce — And That's Okay 10:30 Karen's Recent First Date Story (And What Honesty Made Possible) 12:50 Is the Best Love and Sex of Your Life Still Ahead of You? 15:15 The Myth of Happy Sex — Shana's Most Vulnerable Story 17:40 Why Instant Chemistry Might Be a Red Flag 19:55 How to Spark Chemistry Instead of Waiting for It 21:40 Advice for Anyone Stuck in Love or Dating Right Now 23:00 Where to Find Shana James Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About the guest: As a relationship and dating coach for 20+ years, Shana James humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Shana has facilitated decades ofAuthentic Relating workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality, and specializes in helping clients date and create healthy relationships after divorce. Shana brings her Master’s in psychology, DISC and Positive Intelligence certifications to her book:Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep RelationshipsAlive. She also hosts two podcasts: Man Alive and Practicing Love, and has aTEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men andWomen.' Connect with Shana James: Website [https://sirleezus.com/]: https://shanajamescoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/ Resources: https://shanajamescoaching.com/resources-3/ About the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F