Is Hormone Therapy Safe After 60? Dr. Sameena Rahman Sets the Record Straight | Ep. 173 (Part 2)

Inside the World of Cuckolding with Adreena Winters: Trust, Power, and Desire | Ep. 182

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] In this episode, I sit down with Adreena Winters — writer, educator, and one of the most recognized voices in the world of cuckolding — to finally clear up what this dynamic actually is, and what it isn't. Adreena is the author of So You Want to Be a Cuckold and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, and she brings both lived experience and years of coaching couples through this exact terrain. We get into why most people's first reaction to the word "cuckolding" is shame or confusion, and why that reaction is almost always wrong. Adreena breaks down the real difference between a hot wife dynamic and a cuckoldress dynamic, why humiliation is usually a small piece of the puzzle rather than the main event, and why compersion — genuinely enjoying your partner's pleasure — is so often the real engine driving this for men. We talk about how couples actually start exploring this safely: communication first, boundaries second, and why over-controlling the experience can backfire. Adreena walks through the biggest mistakes couples make (hint: it usually starts with who you let into the dynamic), the red flags that signal someone isn't a good third-party candidate, and the warning signs that a couple isn't actually ready for this yet. We also get into the Red Pill and Manosphere comparison — because consent is the dividing line, and it changes everything. If you've ever been curious, confused, or quietly judging something you don't fully understand, this conversation will give you the real picture instead of the porn version. In This Episode: 00:00 Intro & Aria.FYI 01:15 Welcome to Taboo to Truth 01:45 Meet Adreena Winters 02:30 Why Cuckolding Is So Misunderstood 04:00 Cuckoldress vs. Hot Wife: What's the Real Difference 06:30 Is the Bull Part of the Couple's Dynamic? 08:15 Who Usually Initiates: Men or Women? 10:00 Cutting Queens & Reversed Dynamics 12:00 Where to Start: Communication and Boundaries 14:30 No, It's Not Always a Threesome 16:00 Biggest Mistakes Couples Make 18:30 Red Flags When Vetting a Bull 20:30 Signs a Couple Isn't Ready Yet 23:00 The Porn Fantasy vs. The Reality 26:00 Adreena's Own Relationship & Retiring From Porn 28:30 Cuckold Confessions: Filming Real Couples 30:00 Finding a Bull: Apps, Sites & Communities 31:30 Cuckolding vs. The Manosphere & Red Pill 32:30 Is Cuckolding Cheating? 33:00 Where to Find Adrena & Closing Thoughts About The Guest: Adreena Winters is a content creator, writer, and educator known for her work exploring cuckolding. With over a decade of experience both personally and professionally in the adult industry, she has become one of the most recognisable voices discussing cuckolding openly and without shame. Adreena is the author of So, You Want to Be a Cuckold?, and the creator of Cuckold Confessions, a series exploring the motivations and desires of men who embrace the cuckold identity. Through her writing, videos, and podcast appearances, she aims to demystify taboo fantasies and encourage more honest conversations about sexuality, desire, and power within relationships. Connect with Adreena Winters: Website: https://thecuckacademy.com/https://thecuckacademy.com/ [https://thecuckacademy.com/] Links: https://links.adrena-winters.com/https://links.adrena-winters.com/ [https://links.adrena-winters.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sirr.leezus/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/coachadreena [https://www.instagram.com/coachadreena] About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

Cheating Isn't About Sex — Here's What It's Really About | Ep. 181

The antidote to a boring sex life isn't trying harder, it's trying something new together — that's what ARYA delivers, a monthly intimacy membership curated by AASECT certified sexologists and shipped right to your door. Take the quiz at arya.fyi and use code: TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 [https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861] In this episode, I'm tackling the topic nobody wants to bring up at dinner: cheating. Whether you've been cheated on, you've done the cheating, or you've just thought about it (and most of us have), this conversation is for you. I'm breaking down what infidelity actually is, why it shows up so often in midlife, and whether it's ever justified. I get into the messy truth that affairs are rarely about sex — they're about disconnection, unmet needs, and the stories we tell ourselves instead of having hard conversations. I'm not excusing cheating. I am asking you to understand it, because understanding is the first step toward preventing it, surviving it, or having the honest conversation you've been avoiding. In This Episode: 00:00 - Sponsor: Aria Intimacy Membership 00:48 - Welcome to Taboo to Truth 01:10 - Introduction: Talking About Cheating Like Adults 01:30 - What Actually Counts as Cheating? 02:15 - Why Cheating Happens More in Midlife 02:50 - Is Cheating Ever Justified? 03:55 - Are We Even Wired for Monogamy? 04:40 - Open Relationships vs. Cheating: Where's the Line? 05:10 - What to Do If You've Been Cheated On 06:05 - How to Prevent Infidelity Before It Happens 06:45 - Final Thoughts: Choosing Honesty Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out! About The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] DISCLAIMER: This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. This content is created for educational and informational purposes only. It is designed to provide viewers with knowledge and insights about intimacy, relationships, communication, and sexual wellness. This video does not depict or promote sexual acts for the purpose of sexual gratification. All discussions are conducted in a respectful, professional, and sex-positive context to encourage healthy, safe, and informed conversations. I have hand-selected some great products to help support your s//xual wellness. Purchasing products from me and/or my affiliates helps support the work that I do and ensures I can continue to help as many people and couples as possible! LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

She Helped Thousands Find Love After 40 — Here's What Actually Works | Ep. 179 (Part 2)

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser In this episode, I'm back with Shana James for Part 2 of our conversation — and this time we're getting into the real, messy, funny, and deeply human side of dating in midlife. Shana breaks down the most common mistakes people make when they're back out there after divorce or a long relationship, starting with the one thing most people skip entirely: knowing what they actually want. We talk about love, lust, and partnership as three completely separate dimensions — and why collapsing them into one is where so many relationships go wrong. Shana shares her own stories of fumbling through dating after divorce, why she won't date someone who's fresh out of a relationship, and what happened when she gave her current partner a chance even when the initial chemistry wasn't there. We also get into why instant chemistry can actually be a red flag rooted in attachment wounds, how to spark connection instead of just waiting for it, and what to do if you're in a relationship that feels stuck. Shana closes with her best advice for anyone who's dating or partnered and feeling lost — and it's simpler and more powerful than you'd expect. In this episode: 00:00 Welcome Back — Going Even Deeper in Part 2 01:20 The Most Common Midlife Dating Mistakes 03:45 Know Yourself Before You Date — Why It Matters 06:00 Love, Lust, and Partnership Are Not the Same Thing 08:15 Fumbling Through Dating After Divorce — And That's Okay 10:30 Karen's Recent First Date Story (And What Honesty Made Possible) 12:50 Is the Best Love and Sex of Your Life Still Ahead of You? 15:15 The Myth of Happy Sex — Shana's Most Vulnerable Story 17:40 Why Instant Chemistry Might Be a Red Flag 19:55 How to Spark Chemistry Instead of Waiting for It 21:40 Advice for Anyone Stuck in Love or Dating Right Now 23:00 Where to Find Shana James Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! About the guest: As a relationship and dating coach for 20+ years, Shana James humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Shana has facilitated decades ofAuthentic Relating workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality, and specializes in helping clients date and create healthy relationships after divorce. Shana brings her Master’s in psychology, DISC and Positive Intelligence certifications to her book:Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep RelationshipsAlive. She also hosts two podcasts: Man Alive and Practicing Love, and has aTEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men andWomen.' Connect with Shana James: Website [https://sirleezus.com/]: https://shanajamescoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/ Resources: https://shanajamescoaching.com/resources-3/ About the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook [https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook]. LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

I Tested 3 Clitoral Vibrators Designed for Menopausal Bodies — Here's What I Found | Ep. 180

🍋 Use code TABOO25 at hellonancy.com for 25% off Lem, Avo, and Berry. 🔗 https://hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25 In this episode, I review three clitoral vibrators from Hello Nancy — the LEM, the Berri, and the AVO — through the specific lens of what menopausal and perimenopausal bodies actually need. I explain why estrogen decline changes blood flow, lubrication, tissue sensitivity, and arousal response, and why that makes toy selection matter more in midlife than ever before. I break down each toy's design, stimulation style, and ideal use case, compare suction-based air pulse technology versus direct contact vibration, and give a clear recommendation for which toy fits which body and preference. I also share tips on lubricant use, vaginal estrogen, and how to introduce toys into partnered intimacy — because menopause is not the end of pleasure. It's the beginning of needing better information and better tools. 🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, I'mm giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause In this episode: 00:00 Welcome to Taboo to Truth 00:20 Who I Am and What I'm Reviewing Today 00:48 Why Menopause Changes Everything About Stimulation 01:25 Meet the LEM — Air Pulse Tech for Menopausal Bodies 02:10 Meet the Berry — Focused Intensity for Faster Arousal 02:52 Meet the AVO — Ergonomic Comfort for Partnered Sex 03:28 Suction vs Direct Stimulation — What's the Difference? 04:02 Lubricant, Vaginal Estrogen, and Body-Safe Tips 04:30 Which One Should You Choose? 04:55 Discount Code + Men Meet Menopause Course Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook [https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook]. LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

The #1 Reason Your Relationship Isn't Working (It's Not What You Think) | EP. 179

🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F In this episode, I sit down with Shana James — relationship and dating coach with 20 years of experience, TED Talk speaker, and author of Honest Sex — to explore the real reasons men and women keep failing each other in love and intimacy. Shana has coached thousands of men and women, and what she's uncovered is that the patterns keeping us stuck aren't about gender — they're about communication, vulnerability, and a fundamental lost-in-translation moment most couples never address. We get into why men struggle to open up (and what it actually takes for them to feel safe enough to try), why women aren't as naturally vulnerable as we think, and what men told Shana behind closed doors that women never get to hear. We also dive into the desire-rejection spiral — where it starts, who's responsible for breaking it, and how perimenopause adds a whole new layer of complexity to intimacy and dating. Shana also shares her expanded definition of sex from Honest Sex, and why letting go of the baseball analogy might change everything. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation — and we're just getting started. In This Episode: 00:00 Why Men and Women Keep Failing Each Other 01:18 Meet Shana James — 20 Years Coaching Both Sides 02:15 The #1 Pattern Keeping Couples Stuck: Communication 04:05 How to Get Men to Open Up — What Actually Works 06:40 The Surprise: Women Struggle with Vulnerability Too 08:55 Are Men Really Emotionally Unavailable? The Real Answer 11:10 What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women 13:30 The Desire Spiral: Where It Starts and Who Breaks It 15:45 Dating and Intimacy During Perimenopause 18:00 What Is Sex, Really? Shana's Expanded Definition 19:40 Part 2 Is Coming — Subscribe So You Don't Miss It Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastYouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] About the guest: As a relationship and dating coach for 20+ years, Shana James humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Shana has facilitated decades ofAuthentic Relating workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality, and specializes in helping clients date and create healthy relationships after divorce. Shana brings her Master’s in psychology, DISC and Positive Intelligence certifications to her book:Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep RelationshipsAlive. She also hosts two podcasts: Man Alive and Practicing Love, and has aTEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men andWomen.' Connect with Shana James: Website [https://sirleezus.com/]: https://shanajamescoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanajames/ Resources: https://shanajamescoaching.com/resources-3/ About the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases. This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider. Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here: Email: karen@taboototruth.com [karen@taboototruth.com] Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/ [https://www.taboototruth.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth [https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast] Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com/https://karenbigman.substack.com [https://karenbigman.substack.com] Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook [https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook]. LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES 🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more! 🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF 🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources 💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser 🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F