CHAPTER 55 - WHEN "I'M FINE" ISN'T FINE.

CHAPTER 60 - SHOWING UP WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHY IT HURTS THIS MUCH

There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t come with a clear reason. Nothing obvious happened. Nothing you can easily point to and say, “this is why.” And still… it hurts. In this episode of The Art of Showing Up, Jes explores what it means to sit with emotions that don’t make sense on the surface—feelings that are often minimized by others and, over time, by ourselves. This conversation dives into: * The confusion of feeling deeply without a clear explanation * How minimization (external and internal) impacts our emotional reality * The experience of invisible grief and unacknowledged loss * Why we question our own feelings—and how that disconnects us from ourselves * The reflex to carry everything alone, even when support is available * What it looks like to let something be real without needing to fix it If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “why does this hurt this much?”—this episode is for you. You don’t need perfect words to feel something deeply. You don’t need permission to acknowledge your own experience. Sometimes showing up…looks like letting it be real. LISTENER REFLECTION: Take a moment after listening and sit with this: * What are you feeling right now that you've been trying to explain away? * Where have you minimized your own experience because someone else did first? * What would it look like to let it be real...even without understanding it yet? CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.theartofshowingup.org/] 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

CHAPTER 59 - I CAN'T KEEP EXPLAINING MYSELF TO CLOSED DOORS

Have you ever had the feeling that someone stopped listening before you even finished explaining yourself? Not disagreement or conflict. Just that heavy realization that somebody already chose a version of you before hearing your side fully. This week on The Art of Showing Up, we’re talking about the emotional exhaustion of being misunderstood — especially when it happens repeatedly, and especially when it comes from people we hoped would know us better than that. We explore: * the stories people build about each other * being judged through assumptions, reputation, or old versions of ourselves * the emotional labor of overexplaining * what happens when proof changes nothing * the nervous system impact of chronic misinterpretation * uneven loyalty in relationships * and how to stop abandoning yourself trying to force understanding from emotionally closed spaces This episode is not about becoming cold or detached. It’s about learning how to protect your peace without losing your softness. Because some doors are not locked because you failed to explain yourself well enough. Sometimes they were never truly open to begin with. If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who’s been carrying the weight of feeling unseen. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.theartofshowingup.org/] 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

CHAPTER 58 - WHEN SELF-CARE ISN'T CUTE BUT IT STILL COUNTS

What if self-care isn’t supposed to look aesthetic all the time? In this deeply honest and conversational episode, Jes talks about the side of healing nobody really posts about: the messy, quiet, deeply human forms of self-care that don’t earn applause but still keep us connected to ourselves. This conversation explores: 🔥 ugly-cry self-care 🔥 nervous system exhaustion 🔥 survival-mode healing 🔥 micro-decisions that prevent self-abandonment 🔥 performative wellness culture 🔥 solitude vs isolation 🔥 emotional overwhelm and overstimulation 🔥 healing that looks boring, repetitive, and invisible Jes reflects on: * why aesthetic wellness culture can make struggling people feel like they’re “doing healing wrong” * how tiny acts of care matter more than people realize * the difference between performative self-care and honest self-care * sitting with yourself gently instead of punishing yourself * the quiet choices that slowly help people reconnect with themselves This episode is not about becoming perfect. It’s about learning how to care for yourself honestly—even when the care looks messy, ordinary, exhausted, inconvenient, or deeply un-photogenic. If you’ve been struggling lately…burned out…overstimulated…emotionally exhausted…or quietly trying to hold yourself together in tiny ways nobody sees…this episode is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.theartofshowingup.org/] 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

CHAPTER 57 - SHOWING UP FOR SOMEONE'S ABILITY TO DISAPPOINT YOU

What if one of the deepest forms of emotional safety is knowing a relationship can survive humanity? In this deeply honest episode, Jes explores the fear so many people carry of becoming disappointing inside relationships—and what it means to create emotional space for imperfection without immediately turning mistakes into abandonment. This conversation dives into: 🔥 fear-based attachment 🔥 emotional hypervigilance 🔥 perfectionism in relationships 🔥 people-pleasing and performance 🔥 conflict tolerance 🔥 emotional safety 🔥 accountability and repair 🔥 the difference between harm and humanity 🔥 learning how to stay connected through disappointment instead of collapsing under it Jes also reflects on: * why mistakes can feel emotionally catastrophic * the fear of being “one mistake away” from losing love * relationships built around performance instead of honesty * why intimacy cannot deepen without disappointment eventually entering the room * what healthy repair actually looks like * creating relationships strong enough to survive humanity This episode is NOT about tolerating abuse, abandoning boundaries, or excusing repeated harm. It’s about learning how to love imperfect human beings without treating every hard moment like proof the relationship is doomed. If you’ve ever felt terrified of disappointing people you love…or struggled to feel emotionally safe being fully human around others…this episode is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.theartofshowingup.org/] 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.

CHAPTER 56 - SHOWING UP IN A WORLD WHERE HUMANITY FEELS CONDITIONAL

What happens when empathy starts coming with conditions? In this deeply personal and emotionally grounded episode, Jes explores the heartbreak of living in a world where humanity itself can start feeling politicized, conditional, and unsafe. This is not a debate episode. It’s a conversation about: * moral fracture * dehumanization * family estrangement * conditional love * outrage culture * empathy fatigue * surviving emotionally unsafe environments * the normalization of cruelty * protecting your humanity in hard times Jes reflects on the emotional impact of watching relationships fracture over ideology, the exhaustion marginalized people carry while their humanity is debated publicly, and the terrifying ways cruelty has become normalized in modern culture. This episode also explores: 🔥 the difference between disagreement and dehumanization 🔥 grief over relationships with people who are still alive 🔥 how outrage culture reshapes empathy 🔥 maintaining compassion without abandoning yourself 🔥 protecting boundaries without becoming emotionally cruel 🔥 what it means to stay human in dehumanizing times If you’ve been feeling heartbroken, exhausted, emotionally unsafe, or overwhelmed by the current social climate…this conversation is for you. CONNECT + SUPPORT: If this episode landed in a place where you felt moved, I hope it helps you breathe a little bit better. As always, follow, rate, and review the show -- be part of this wonderful little community's growth. And make sure to share this and any other episode with those you love and care about and on social media. Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/the.artofshowingup] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/TAOSUpodcast] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@thejessrick] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theartofshowingup.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.theartofshowingup.org/] 📩 DM me on IG 💬 Or message me on Facebook or the website! You can stay anonymous. You can be real. No story is too small.