The Hook Up

Being Single, Hook Up Culture & The Male Gaze w/ Elouise Eftos

She’s ‘Australia’s First Ever Attractive Comedian’ but she’s never been in love before. In this ep, Elouise Eftos chats about the male gaze, female sexuality, heterofatalism, hook up culture and how she feels about never having a serious relationship before.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup [https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup] on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Friends With Exes: Green Flag Or Red Flag?

For some of us, being friends with an ex is a sign of emotional maturity. But for others, it’s a warning sign that there might still be feelings, or that it’s an unnecessary (or even disrespectful) relationship to keep. We hear you think and get your advice on how to do it right.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup [https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup] on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We Need To Talk About Arousal Non-Concordance

Ever been mentally turned on but your body isn't responding? Or maybe your body is turned on but your mind isn’t? That's arousal non-concordance, and it's way more common than you think. In this ep, Dee speaks to psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee about why it happens, how it can impact consent and how to handle it. SHOW NOTES: Laura Lee Website - https://www.lauralee.com.au/ [https://www.lauralee.com.au/] DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup [https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup] on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Are Humans Naturally Monogamous?

Do you think humans are biologically wired for one partner? Or have we been socially conditioned into monogamy? We deep dive into the science and history of human relationships to figure out whether pairing with one person for life is our natural state of being, or if we’re actually biologically predisposed to be non-monogamous. SHOW NOTES: Our biology wants us untethered. So why does society place so much emphasis on monogamy?: https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-barash-why-humans-choose-monogamy-20160320-story.html [https://www.latimes.com/opinion/op-ed/la-oe-barash-why-humans-choose-monogamy-20160320-story.html] Monogamous Animal Study - where humans rank: https://www.theguardian.com/science/2025/dec/10/humans-rank-among-leading-monogamous-mammals-study-finds [https://www.theguardian.com/science/2025/dec/10/humans-rank-among-leading-monogamous-mammals-study-finds] PODCAST: Science Vs - True Love: Is Monogamy Unnatural?  https://open.spotify.com/episode/1gm9BvCWsHhXN2erbvNXiv [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1gm9BvCWsHhXN2erbvNXiv] PODCAST: Lives Well Lived w/ Anna Machin: Monogamy Is Unnatural https://open.spotify.com/episode/3WyhifKm70RhzlLUChN8S3 [https://open.spotify.com/episode/3WyhifKm70RhzlLUChN8S3] BOOK: Esther Perel - Mating In Captivity BOOK: Sex At Dawn - Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá BOOK: Eve: How the Female Body Drove 200 Million Years of Human Evolution - Cat Bohannon  VIDEO: Helen Fisher + Chris Ryan + Esther Perel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMji-YE1qVA [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMji-YE1qVA] DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup [https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup] on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Unpacking The Manosphere w/ Tarang Chawla

Louis Theroux’s new Netflix doco Inside the Manosphere has everyone talking. So in this episode, Dee chats with men’s violence prevention advocate and educator Tarang Chawla about his reaction to the film, why so many young men and boys are drawn to manosphere influencers, and the real-world impacts this content is having. SHOW NOTES: Inside The Manosphere - https://www.netflix.com/au/title/81920687 [https://www.netflix.com/au/title/81920687] Tarang Chawla - https://tarangchawla.com/ [https://tarangchawla.com/] 1800 Respect (1800 737 732): national domestic family and sexual violence counselling hotline. Mensline Australia (1300 78 99 78): counselling support for men with concerns about mental health, relationships, anger management, family violence (using and experiencing), stress, and suicidal thoughts. 13YARN (13 92 76): 24/7 culturally safe crisis support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people. Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636): 24/7 support for anxiety and depression. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup [https://www.instagram.com/triplejthehookup] on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.