The Introverted Believer

14. Discipline Alternatives for Your Introverted Child

Introverted children are not easy to discipline. If they're feelers, they may be adept at emotional sabotage or withdraw for fear of getting hurt. If they're thinkers, they may try to outwit you or silently plot their next move. Kids are clever, lest we forget and soak up knowledge like a sponge. Don’t ever underestimate your kids.   Have you ever gone stir crazy because your kids are completely okay with their behavior? Maybe your kid is an ISTJ and says, "Yeah, I pinched her. She broke the rules and there are consequences. You were in the shower, so I took care of it. I don't understand - is there a problem?" Or maybe their INFP's "Yeah, I pinched her. She was being a little jerk and I had to make sure she didn't touch my treasures ever again!" You could say, "go to your room!" but they'd probably like that. Or you could demand they answer you right this minute, but chances are, they haven't had time to process what just happened. I want you listen to this episode (or read the blog) and consider these 4 alternatives to some legacy discipline that may not be working. Hey, help the rest of the parents out - how have you helped your introverted kids see the consequences of their actions? Drop a comment in the blog or contact me at kass@kassfogle.com   ABOUT KASS Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines. CONTACT ME Kassfogle.com [https://www.kassfogle.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/theintrovertedbeliever/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theintrovertedbeliever/] Twitter [https://twitter.com/kassfogle] Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/kassfogleauthor/]

13 How Professional Marriage Coaching Can Support Your Marriage

Life Coaching. It feels like such a broad term. I spoke to a few Christian women and there is a lot of hesitation to learning more. They're afraid it's some sort of mysticism or self-help approach just to feel better. As if a little self-care or soul-care somehow vanquishes the importance of the Cross. As if. Today I talk with Joyce Zook, who helps frustrated Christian women get back on track in their marriage. Yep, that's right. Christian Women get frustrated. And perturbed. And desperate. We roll our eyes with the best GIF'S the internet has to offer. But we know where the power and source of our marriage's redemption lies and we go after it hard. Enter Joyce. She helps us frustrated women build a life of love we can truly treasure. She helps women love their lives and their marriages through marriage and life coaching. Today, she talks to us about marriages between introverts and extroverts and what it's like to work through some of those strange (and frustrating) challenges so we don't feel overwhelmed. She shows us how we honor God through our gifts and talents and how to appreciate our differences. Are you an introvert married to an extrovert? Let's see what Joyce has to say about learning to love your best life. You can find Joyce on her website at https://joycezook.com/ [https://joycezook.com/]. Joyce Zook is an award-winning author, international speaker, Board Certified Advanced Christian Life and Marriage Coach. She is a weekly video blogger and the author of 12 Keys for Marriage Success, Priorities for Life, and God and Your Closet. Joyce speaks, teaches, and coaches women to love their lives and their marriages while creating success and balance. In the last twenty years, her ministry has grown with the help of the internet, telephones, and video conferences to reach people across the United States and in foreign countries.

12. Weddings in 2020: How to Cope, Celebrate, and Plan

Weddings intended for the Spring or Summer of 2020 are on hold…or even cancelled until further notice. With spring high school and collegiate sports ripped from the young men and women who’ve trained their entire lives for that final walk across the filed, court, and stage, and with proms, graduations, and pro sports cancelled, people are feeling cheated and robbed of some of life’s most captured moments. Few of these compare with the cancellation or postponement of a wedding. Many brides start planning their wedding from the first time they see a wedding dress in the JC Penney Catalogue (showing my age). Brides have binders, project management software and websites to organize their BIG day. Few things require the time, energy and money than a wedding. Sometimes brides and grooms feel like they have no choice (job relocation, military status, family member health), but to continue with a ceremony. Small, private ceremonies following all the rules may be allowed - call ahead for your marriage certificate as government office hours are drastically reduced or closed. Brides are also racing to reschedule all their vendors six months or more out. Dresses appropriate for summer weddings will now require a stole or cape for a winter wedding. And some are cancelling altogether until they know this will pass. It is an emotional time, but if you take nothing away from this episode but this, please remember, the marriage is the sacred vow, the reception is for fun. Be confident in what God has brought together and the rest will work out. For information on CDC guidelines for large gatherings visit this website: CDC on Large Gatherings [https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/community/large-events/mass-gatherings-ready-for-covid-19.html]   About Kass Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she's not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines.   Join the Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/Introvertedbelieverpodcast/] FOLLOW KASS ON: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/kass.fogle.3] Twitter [https://twitter.com/kassfogle] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theintrovertedbeliever/] Website [https://www.kassfogle.com/] Kassfogle@gmail.com [Kassfogle@gmail.com]

11. How to Make High School Graduation Special for the Class of 2020

Prom. Graduation. Dual-Credit Transfers. College Applications. Dorm Room Hoarding. Spring-break memories to last a life time. Yearbook signatures. Pulling out of the parking for the final time. Walking down the hall for the final time. Saying, "thank you" for the final time to the teachers and staff who encouraged you. SAYING GOODBYE Our high school seniors are missing out on so much right now. The final football game, the final basketball game, the final pep rally, finals, the final walk through the hallway…our seniors were robbed of those moments. They didn’t get a chance to say a proper goodbye. They won’t get to experience some of the little finals that help ease the transition to adulthood – instead, it was ripped from them without anything to fill in the emptiness it left or a covering for the wound it created. AN INTERVIEW WITH MY DAUGHTER Today I talk with my daughter, Ann, a high school senior about her thoughts and feelings about being a senior and missing out on so many "finals." I'm so proud of her and how she is handling this, but know there are a mixture of emotions too. WHAT'S A PARENT TO DO? Parent's, we can never talk to our kids too much. Though mine is as laid back as her father, and I hear her when she says it's all well and good, I still ask, nearly every day how she is doing. More importantly, I listen and observe. I see her making the most of it by redocorating her room, baking and serving others. I hear the joy in her voice when she talks about her day. And while I don't pretend she is 100% okay with the situation, I am in tune and watchful.   I hope you enjoy the interview with Ann - I think she did a great job!  If you agree, would you leave a review? I'd appreciate that so much!   About Kass Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines. Join the Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/Introvertedbelieverpodcast/] FOLLOW KASS ON: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/kass.fogle.3] Twitter [https://twitter.com/kassfogle] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theintrovertedbeliever/] Website [https://www.kassfogle.com/]   Kassfogle@gmail.com [Kassfogle@gmail.com]

10. Four Ways to Help Young Adults Fly From the Nest

One thing this dreaded Corona Virus is not delaying is growth of our children. Whether your child is moving out this year or graduating high school, parents still have time to pass along some important life lessons. In this episode, I discuss 4 ways we can promote a healthy flight for kids leaving the safety net of all they know. While I can tell you story after story about each of my children's experiences, only they truly know how those experiences made their grow or left them at risk for future temptations. So let's talk growth. How can we help? SET EXPECTATIONS While this may seem like a big NO BRAINER, there is one very important question we should ask ourselves to make sure setting expectations leads to growth and not rebellion. GIVE FEEDBACK They want to be treated like adults, but are not ready for the financial, spiritual, or emotional responsibility that comes along with that. Even if they are mature for their age, they do not have the benefit of time on their sides. Listen to why we should be their, "NO" and the one thing I recommend NOT doing at this tender time in their lives. MEMORIALIZE TRADITIONS At this age (around 17-22), they're trying to decide how they fit into the family dynamic as they possibly consider starting their own. EVEN if they are young, they are visualizing their future and thinking of themselves as mothers, fathers, wives and husbands. I share a conversation I had with my son about the traditions he would take with him, which he would stop and which he might start on his own. You might be surprised by what you hear if you ask your young adult the same questions. MODEL PERSONAL GROWTH What values is your young adult living by? Be careful about making assumptions here...have they written out the 3-5 values they will take with them that will help them make meaningful decisions? You can contribute to the personal growth of your child so meaningfully if you coach them toward choosing personal values and how to make daily choices and major life decisions based on those. Now, let me ask - do YOU have those 3-5 values that you use? Has your child seen you use those values or heard you discuss those values when choosing a new job, buying a house, choosing how to worship, deciding where to volunteer your time or financial resources? Modeling this behavior out loud and letting them shadow the process of these decisions can go a long way to building their decision-making confidence. That's it! They're ready to leave the nest. Can I ask you a favor? If you enjoyed this episode would you provide a rating and even a review for me? This is a great way to show your support and ratings are the best way for others to find this podcast. AND if you leave a review, I might read it on a future episode of this podcast. If you have any questions about today's episode or have suggestions for a future episode, you can email me at kass@kassfogle.com About Kass Kass Fogle is an award-winning author, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She has twenty years in Human Resources and holds two degrees and certifications in HR. When she’s not mind-mapping or list making, you can find her suffering at the local coffee-house meeting writing deadlines. Join the Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/Introvertedbelieverpodcast/] - We would LOVE to have you join the discussion. FOLLOW KASS ON: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/kass.fogle.3] Twitter [https://twitter.com/kassfogle] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theintrovertedbeliever/] Website [https://www.kassfogle.com/]   Kassfogle@gmail.com [Kassfogle@gmail.com]