90. Beyond Culture: Why Human Connection Works Everywhere

95. Why You Hate Making Decisions at Work (And What It's Really About)

At the ATD Conference, we noticed a common theme: many leaders and learning professionals were excited about innovation and AI, yet hesitant when it came to navigating emotions, vulnerability, and human connection in the workplace. That tension inspired this conversation on emotional ambivalence—the experience of feeling pulled in two directions at the same time.  In this episode, Lola and Polina explore why people often struggle to make decisions, speak up, take risks, or embrace change. Together, they unpack the fears that drive emotional ambivalence, including the fear of making the wrong choice, being judged, appearing incompetent, experiencing rejection, or exposing vulnerability.  You’ll learn: *  What emotional ambivalence is and why it shows up in leadership, teamwork, and everyday life  *  How psychological safety and secure relationships influence confidence and decision-making  *  Why vulnerability is often the pathway to growth rather than a sign of weakness  *  How shame, fear, and disconnection keep people stuck  *  Why suppressing difficult emotions also limits positive emotions, engagement, and connection  *  A practical framework called VERSE for helping leaders and teams navigate emotional uncertainty with greater clarity and confidence  Whether you're a leader, manager, coach, HR professional, or simply someone facing a difficult decision, this episode offers a powerful perspective on how emotional safety helps people move from fear and hesitation to confidence, connection, and action. Because sometimes the problem isn't that we don't know what to do—it’s that we don’t feel safe enough to do it. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.  CONNECT: EmC Leaders [https://emcleaders.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/emcleaders/ ] Twitter [https://twitter.com/emcleaders ] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/emcleaders/] YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvRm8PIdTj2rPHr3w1iDsg] RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT [https://emcleaders.com/tesa] RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS [https://emcleaders.com/resources] CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM [https://emcleaders.com/crp] CONTACT US [https://emcleaders.com/contact-us] Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/] Instagram: @drlolaemc [https://www.instagram.com/drlolaemc/] Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian [https://www.linkedin.com/in/polinamarian/] Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

94. AI Was Everywhere at ATD… But This Is What Stood Out

After returning from the ATD Conference, one thing kept staying with us. Yes, AI was everywhere. It was in sessions, at booths, and woven into conversations about the future of work. But what stood out most wasn't technology at all. It was people. In this episode of The Leader in You, Dr. Lola Gershfeld reconnects with Niamh Hannan and Aoife O'Brien to reflect on their experience after ATD and discuss what they discovered beneath the surface of all the AI conversations. Together, they explore: * Why attendees felt relieved to talk about emotions, relationships, and human connection *  The passion that drives L&D professionals to keep showing up and helping others grow *  Why workplace conflict often has less to do with the issue itself and more to do with emotional triggers *  How negative cycles quietly shape our teams and relationships *  Why connection doesn't happen automatically—it must be intentionally prioritized *  What organizations risk losing if technology replaces human touchpoints If the future of work is changing, one important question remains: How do we make sure we don't lose the relationships that help people thrive? Join us for a thoughtful conversation about leadership, emotional safety, learning and development, and what truly stood out after ATD. Connect with us on LinkedIn Niamh Hannan [https://www.linkedin.com/in/niamhhannan/]  Aoife O'Brien [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aoifemobrien/] The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.  CONNECT: EmC Leaders [https://emcleaders.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/emcleaders/ ] Twitter [https://twitter.com/emcleaders ] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/emcleaders/] YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvRm8PIdTj2rPHr3w1iDsg] RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT [https://emcleaders.com/tesa] RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS [https://emcleaders.com/resources] CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM [https://emcleaders.com/crp] CONTACT US [https://emcleaders.com/contact-us] Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/] Instagram: @drlolaemc [https://www.instagram.com/drlolaemc/] Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian [https://www.linkedin.com/in/polinamarian/] Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

93. Live from ATD: Thriving Talent in the Age of AI with Aoife O'Brien

In this special live episode from the ATD Conference in Los Angeles, Dr. Lola Gershfeld welcomes returning guest Aoife O'Brien, author of Thriving Talent and host of the Happier at Work Podcast, for a thought-provoking conversation about one of the biggest questions leaders face today: As AI becomes more integrated into the workplace, what happens to the human connections that help people feel safe, valued, and able to thrive? Drawing from her U.S. book tour and conversations with leaders across organizations, Aoife shares insights on what organizations may gain through technology—and what they risk losing if human relationships are replaced by efficiency alone. Together, Lola and Aoife explore: • Why AI can support our work but cannot replace human connection • The small moments and "bids for connection" that strengthen workplace relationships • Why people may feel increasingly disconnected and lonely at work • The difference between psychological safety and emotional safety • Why feedback can feel threatening when relationships feel insecure • How fixed and growth mindsets influence our ability to learn and change • Why people and teams do not have to stay stuck This conversation reminds us that thriving at work is about more than performance, productivity, and technology. People grow, learn, and do their best work when they feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. Because thriving talent isn't created by AI alone—it is created through human relationships. Connect with Aoife O'Brien: • Aoife O'Brien on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aoifemobrien/?utm_source=chatgpt.com] • Thriving Talent • Happier at Work Podcast [https://happieratwork.ie/] The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.  CONNECT: EmC Leaders [https://emcleaders.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/emcleaders/ ] Twitter [https://twitter.com/emcleaders ] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/emcleaders/] YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvRm8PIdTj2rPHr3w1iDsg] RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT [https://emcleaders.com/tesa] RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS [https://emcleaders.com/resources] CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM [https://emcleaders.com/crp] CONTACT US [https://emcleaders.com/contact-us] Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/] Instagram: @drlolaemc [https://www.instagram.com/drlolaemc/] Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian [https://www.linkedin.com/in/polinamarian/] Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

92. Live from ATD: Disengaged Teams Don’t Happen by Accident

What really causes disengagement at work? Is it a lack of motivation, poor communication, or something deeper? Broadcasting live from the ATD Conference in Los Angeles, Dr. Lola Gershfeld, Polina Marian, and Niamh Hannan explore the hidden emotional patterns that shape workplace relationships and team performance. Together, they unpack new research showing the powerful impact managers have on employee engagement and reveal why disengagement is often a symptom of something happening beneath the surface. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why disengaged managers create disengaged teams  • The surprising cost of disengagement on collaboration, productivity, and well-being  • The common pursue-withdraw cycle that keeps people stuck in workplace conflict  • Why the problem isn't the person — it's the pattern  • How emotional awareness helps leaders stay Accessible, Responsive, and Engaged (A.R.E.) during difficult conversations  • How changing emotional patterns can transform team dynamics and connection Conflict isn't simply a communication problem or a skills problem. When emotions drive reactions, logic alone rarely fixes it. The key is learning how to recognize the cycle and create emotional safety that allows people to reconnect. Join us for this special live ATD conversation as we explore what becomes possible when leaders learn to create stronger emotional bonds at work.  The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.  CONNECT: EmC Leaders [https://emcleaders.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/emcleaders/ ] Twitter [https://twitter.com/emcleaders ] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/emcleaders/] YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvRm8PIdTj2rPHr3w1iDsg] RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT [https://emcleaders.com/tesa] RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS [https://emcleaders.com/resources] CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM [https://emcleaders.com/crp] CONTACT US [https://emcleaders.com/contact-us] Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/] Instagram: @drlolaemc [https://www.instagram.com/drlolaemc/] Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian [https://www.linkedin.com/in/polinamarian/] Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...

91. Why Workplace Conflict Feels So Personal: The Attachment Patterns Behind Leadership & Team Dynamics

In this deeply personal and insightful episode of The Leader in You Podcast, Dr. Lola Gershfeld and Polina Marian explore why workplace relationships can feel so emotionally intense—and why conflict at work often has roots far deeper than communication skills alone. Drawing from attachment science, emotional connection research, and real workplace examples, they unpack how the patterns we learned with our parents and caregivers can unconsciously shape the way we respond to managers, feedback, promotions, rejection, conflict, and emotional disconnection at work. In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why managers often become “key attachment figures” in the workplace * How childhood attachment patterns replay themselves in leadership and team relationships * Why fear—not lack of skills—is often driving workplace conflict * The hidden emotional meaning behind defensiveness, withdrawal, silence, and “I don’t want to talk about it” * How emotionally responsive leadership creates stronger performance, engagement, resilience, and trust * Why emotional safety is essential for teams to thrive * How the EmC Process helps people recognize and restructure unhealthy relational patterns Dr. Lola also shares powerful research on attachment and leadership, including studies showing how emotionally responsive leaders improve performance, stress management, and team connection. This episode is a reminder that leadership is not just about strategy, accountability, or communication techniques—it’s about creating a secure emotional connection where people feel safe enough to grow, contribute, take risks, and succeed together. If you’ve ever wondered why certain workplace interactions trigger such strong emotional reactions… this conversation may change the way you see leadership forever. The Leader in You is the go-to podcast for anyone who wants to create a workplace culture where teams can thrive. Envision a future where you are more grounded, confident, and in sync with your team.  CONNECT: EmC Leaders [https://emcleaders.com/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/emcleaders/ ] Twitter [https://twitter.com/emcleaders ] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/emcleaders/] YouTube Channel [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOvRm8PIdTj2rPHr3w1iDsg] RESOURCES: TESA - TEAM EMOTIONAL SAFETY ASSESSMENT [https://emcleaders.com/tesa] RESOURCES & DOWNLOADS [https://emcleaders.com/resources] CONFLICT RESOLUTION MASTER PROGRAM [https://emcleaders.com/crp] CONTACT US [https://emcleaders.com/contact-us] Connect with Dr. Lola Gershfeld: LinkedIn: Dr. Lola Gershfeld [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/] Instagram: @drlolaemc [https://www.instagram.com/drlolaemc/] Connect with Polina Marian: LinkedIn: Polina Marian [https://www.linkedin.com/in/polinamarian/] Instagram: @livewithfivekids Dr. Lola Gershfeld, a distinguished organizational psychologist, has dedicated her career to delving into the intricate layers of employee engagement, team dynamics, and wo...