02. Returning to the cage to find a better way out, with Jeanette LeBlanc.

02. Returning to the cage to find a better way out, with Jeanette LeBlanc.

There is a phenomenon that occurs when deep healing is afoot: as we begin to expose our deep wounds to the air and get relief from what has felt impossibly heavy, there is beauty and space that opens up in our hearts and lives -- but right alongside that, comes grief. It shows up in unexpected ways and with unpredictable timing. Somatic healing seems to ask that we learn how to grieve well. I sat down with Jeanette LeBlanc, author of, "You Are Not Too Much: Love Notes on Heartache, Redemption & Reclamation." [https://amzn.to/3y00gFf] Jeanette is one of my dearest friends, and in this episode, we talk about how when we have the capacity feel and acknowledge the wisdom of grief, it can open up other pathways to levity and pleasure. We also talk cycles of healing, and how important it is to notice what's not present as much as we notice what is. Also included: attachment theory and love languages. Mentioned in this episode: + Jeanette's piece, "To Love Is To Come Into Intimacy With Grief." [https://jeanetteleblanc.substack.com/p/to-love-is-to-come-into-intimacy] + Rainer Maria Rilke's Letters to a Young Poet [https://amzn.to/39VAr1h] and On Love and Other Difficulties [https://amzn.to/3byyesK] + Rumi's poem, "There Is A Field" [https://amzn.to/3btb8E1] + Martin Luther King, Jr., "Strength to Love" [https://amzn.to/3OuKFo9] Want to connect? Shoot me a message [https://hellohealing.net/contact/]. You can also leave a comment about your musings on  on the episode webpage [https://hellohealing.net/thelovingkind02/], or shoot me an email directly at ohhellohealing@gmail.com. Find me on Instagram @thelovingkind_ [https://www.instagram.com/thelovingkind_/], I'd love to hear from you about your experiences of this episode.

01. What is a trauma-informed sacred relationship?

We're beginning this conversation -- and the first episode of the podcast -- the way I would if I were sitting down with a new client, answering the question, "What are we really talking about here?" Unscripted, off the cuff, human to human. We're talking about the realm of romantic relationship and intimacy as a spiritual practice. We're building a bridge between the sacredness of intimate relationship and the legit trauma that keeps partners from being able to connect and co-emerge as two sovereign, deeply responsible lovers with shared and reciprocal capacity. We're talking about what capacity really means in the context of the body and heart, and why we need to keep an eye on codependent default mode when creating a relationship. We're also asking (and answering) the question: What makes the work of relating sacred? And how do we work with triggers as a portal to devotional love? In this episode, I also mention the work of Thomas Huble and John Gottman. Find the show notes here [https://hellohealing.net/thelovingkind01/]. You can find The Loving Kind [https://hellohealing.net/thelovingkind/] everywhere, and if you do Apple podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-loving-kind/id1603302028], I'd love to hear your feedback and thoughts as you listen along. Find me on Instagram @thelovingkind_ [https://www.instagram.com/thelovingkind_/] or via my website at hellohealing.net [http://www.hellohealing.net/].

The Loving Kind: Season 1 Trailer

Romantic relationships can be life-affirming -- and terrifying. We want to experience intimacy as a reciprocal, deeply dependable dance -- but what about when someone in the room is triggered AF and that person is us? Or the partner we adore? The Loving Kind is exploring how we can build a bridge from wound to devotion in our most sacred relationships. What might it be like to choose partners from this place, and connect with the partners we already have from within dynamics that are healing, and playful and passionate...? Learn more about somatic healing by visiting hellohealing.net [https://hellohealing.net], and follow along on Instagram @thelovingkind_ [https://www.instagram.com/thelovingkind_/]