How to Take Back Control of Your Mind (Stop Negative Self Talk)

The Marriage Mirror: Why Changing Yourself Changes Your Relationship

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] 🎁 Free Resource from Doc Jess If this conversation resonates with you and you want practical tools to strengthen your marriage by focusing on personal growth first, Doc Jess is offering a free marriage assessment and relationship resource to help you identify areas for growth and build a stronger foundation. 👉 Get started here: https://firstonesfree.com/ [https://firstonesfree.com/] If you feel stuck in the same arguments, frustrated with your spouse, or wondering why your relationship keeps running into the same challenges, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez sits down with Doc Jess to discuss one of the most overlooked truths about healthy relationships. The strongest marriages are often built when each person focuses on improving themselves before trying to fix their spouse. Drawing from personal experience, counseling practice, military life, and marriage research, they explore why self-reflection creates lasting change, how unresolved pain affects communication, and why assumptions often create conflict where none exists. You will learn how past experiences shape the way you interpret your spouse's actions, why your brain naturally tries to protect you from emotional pain, and how that protection can sometimes damage connection. Doc Jess also shares her practical 24-48-72 Hour Tool for responding thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally. This episode explores the importance of personal accountability, emotional awareness, healthy communication, and creating space for growth within marriage. The goal is not to change your spouse. The goal is to become the healthiest version of yourself. Watch if you are searching for * How to improve your marriage * How to stop arguing with your spouse * Christian marriage advice * Marriage communication tips * How to build a stronger relationship * How to work on yourself first Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn't flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron "Sgt Q" Quinonez: * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] * Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ [https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/] Disclaimer: Educational only. Not medical, psychological, or relationship counseling advice. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] 🎁 Free Resource from Estyn If this episode resonated with you and you want to understand where you are in your life right now, Estyn shares a simple tool to help you evaluate different areas of your life and see where you need to focus next. 👉 Get started here:  https://firstonesfree.com/ [https://firstonesfree.com/] If you feel stuck in who you are, struggle with confidence, or feel like you have lost your sense of identity, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez sits down with Estyn Elan, a style image consultant, to break down how identity, self image, and confidence are shaped and how you can rebuild them with intention. You will learn how many people go through identity shifts during life transitions like becoming a parent, moving to a new environment, or going through major life changes, and why these moments often lead to confusion, low self esteem, and feeling disconnected from yourself. This episode also explores how self mastery starts with understanding who you are beyond roles and expectations, and how your appearance, communication, and daily habits all play a role in how you show up in the world. You will learn a simple system to evaluate your life, identify where you feel out of alignment, and begin rebuilding your confidence from the inside out. The goal is not to become someone else, but to fully step into who you are meant to be. WATCH IF YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR * How to build confidence * How to reinvent yourself * Identity crisis help * How to improve self image * Personal growth and self development Timestamps * 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors * 01:00 Growing Up with Limited Perspective * 02:30 Expanding Identity Through Travel * 04:00 Identity Crisis as a New Mom * 06:00 Why Most People Struggle with Self Esteem * 08:00 Self Mastery and Finding Your True Identity * 10:00 How Self Image Affects Confidence * 12:30 The 7 Step System for Personal Transformation * 16:00 The Compass of Life Direction Tool * 19:00 Real Life Transformation Stories and Next Steps Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations with your spouse turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn’t flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] * Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ [https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/?hl=en] Disclaimer: Educational only; not medical advice. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

The Trauma Lens: How Past Wounds Affect Your Marriage

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] Most marriages don't suffer because of communication problems. They suffer because of unresolved wounds, unchecked emotions, unrealistic expectations, and baggage that never got dealt with. In this powerful episode of Mental Health Janitors, Sgt Q and Doc Jess tackle the hard truths about marriage, emotional healing, faith, trauma, and personal responsibility. They break down why lasting change doesn't happen when you focus on fixing your spouse—it happens when you confront what needs to change within yourself. From PTSD and emotional triggers to limiting beliefs, mindset, and relationship growth, this conversation delivers practical wisdom, real-life experience, and actionable tools to help you build stronger relationships and a stronger life. If you're tired of the same arguments, the same frustrations, and the same cycles repeating themselves, this episode will challenge the way you think about marriage and personal growth. 🎧 Tune in now. Stop waiting for someone else to change. Start doing the work that changes everything. Episode Highlights: * 00:00 - Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors * 07:26 - The Lies You Believe Are Holding You Back * 09:12 - When Performance Becomes Your Identity * 14:19 - Most People Talk Too Much About Themselves * 15:07 - How to Destroy Imposter Syndrome * 17:11 - Slay the Giant in Front of You * 20:40 - Stop Letting Your Thoughts Control You * 23:51 - Master Your Emotions Before They Master You Be part of a growing community having real conversations about veteran mental health, PTSD, trauma, faith, resilience, and healing. Find support, purpose, and practical tools to move forward.  🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: * Website- https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]  * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

How to Reinvent Yourself and Build Confidence (Overcome Identity Crisis)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] 🎁 Free Resource from Estyn If this episode resonated with you and you want to understand where you are in your life right now, Estyn shares a simple tool to help you evaluate different areas of your life and see where you need to focus next. 👉 Get started here:  https://firstonesfree.com/ [https://firstonesfree.com/] If you feel stuck in who you are, struggle with confidence, or feel like you have lost your sense of identity, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Mental Health Janitors, Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez sits down with Estyn Elan, a style image consultant, to break down how identity, self image, and confidence are shaped and how you can rebuild them with intention. You will learn how many people go through identity shifts during life transitions like becoming a parent, moving to a new environment, or going through major life changes, and why these moments often lead to confusion, low self esteem, and feeling disconnected from yourself. This episode also explores how self mastery starts with understanding who you are beyond roles and expectations, and how your appearance, communication, and daily habits all play a role in how you show up in the world. You will learn a simple system to evaluate your life, identify where you feel out of alignment, and begin rebuilding your confidence from the inside out. The goal is not to become someone else, but to fully step into who you are meant to be. WATCH IF YOU ARE SEARCHING FOR * How to build confidence * How to reinvent yourself * Identity crisis help * How to improve self image * Personal growth and self development Timestamps 00:00 Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors 01:00 Growing Up with Limited Perspective 02:30 Expanding Identity Through Travel 04:00 Identity Crisis as a New Mom 06:00 Why Most People Struggle with Self Esteem 08:00 Self Mastery and Finding Your True Identity 10:00 How Self Image Affects Confidence 12:30 The 7 Step System for Personal Transformation 16:00 The Compass of Life Direction Tool 19:00 Real Life Transformation Stories and Next Steps Be part of our online family where faith meets mental health, and honest conversations with your spouse turn struggles into growth. Find practical strategies, real testimonies, and truth that doesn’t flinch. 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] * Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/ [https://www.instagram.com/sgt.q_/?hl=en] Disclaimer: Educational only; not medical advice. #selfimprovement #inspiration #confidence #selfconfidence #selfesteem Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]

Why Memorial Day Hits Veterans So Deeply (PTSD & Trauma)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/fan_mail/new] Some pain does not disappear with time. Sometimes it stays buried until a moment, a song, or a memory brings everything back to the surface. In this emotional episode of Mental Health Janitors, Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez and Doc Jess talk about PTSD, survivor’s guilt, faith, trauma healing, and the hidden emotional weight many combat veterans carry for years. What began as a simple conversation about a video on social media turned into a powerful reflection on sacrifice, grief, and the freedom that healing can bring. It explores the connection between combat trauma, emotional healing, Christianity, survivor’s guilt, and post-traumatic growth. It is a reminder that healing often begins when people stop suffering in silence and allow others into their story. If you are carrying guilt, grief, shame, or emotional pain, this conversation may help you take the first step toward healing. Timestamps: * 0:00 - Welcome to The Mental Health Janitors * 0:43 - The Triggering Video and Emotional Honesty * 01:24 - The Emotional Clip (Brotherly Love and Safety) * 01:46 - Battlefield, Worship, and Internal Struggle * 04:10 - Combat Trauma Story: Sacrifice on the Front Lines * 05:15 - Group Therapy, Survivor’s Guilt, and Shared Experience * 06:55 -  Reframing Survivor’s Guilt: From Burden to Honor * 07:45 - Spiritual Parallel: Christ’s Sacrifice and Christian Freedom * 07:20 - Purpose in Pain: Inviting Others into Your Suffering * 08:07 - Practical Steps: How Listeners Can Start Their Healing Journey 🔗 Join our community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/ [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1988960518109166/] Listen on: * 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c [https://open.spotify.com/show/0nPegvqPi1AO47Xbx3EvNz?si=d2cdfa086c32460c] * 🎧 Website: https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/ [https://thementalhealthjanitors.com/] * 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/ [https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/the-mental-health-janitors/] Connect with Aaron “Sgt Q” Quinonez: * Website- https://sgtq.net/ [https://sgtq.net/]  * Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13 [https://www.facebook.com/SgtQ13] * LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keynotespeakerbusinessscalingcoachbetabloxjudgerealitytvstarpodcaster/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2224277/support]