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Questioning Your Identity, Relationships & Gender Scripts | Queer Perspectives on Liberation with Kelz Cousins

There is no normal. So stop trying to be it.On Juneteenth and on their birthday therapist, liberation educator, and artist Kelz Cousins joined Dr. Jeni Wahlig for one of the most paradigm-disrupting conversations in Catalyst Conversations history. Kelz specializes in queer communities, consensually non-monogamous relationships, kink, and neurodivergence. Their work is grounded in liberation, pleasure, informed consent, and the radical belief that healing is shaped by the systems we live in...not just our individual experiences. In this episode:• Why so few people question the scripts they were handed and what finally opens the jar• The difference between defaulting to a relationship structure and consciously, consensually choosing it • The fear of self-discovery that keeps us in our box and what lives on the other side• The Wheel of Consent: a tool for every relationship, not just romantic or sexual ones• How choosing ... even the same choice ... dissolves resentment and restores power This is Episode 3 of Proud Love: Celebrating Queer Perspectives on Love, Identity & Living Out Loud. New episodes drop every Friday at 12:30 PM Pacific. 🚀 Go deeper inside The Relationship Revolution Community... The space where powerful women (and the partners who love them) learn to lead love differently -- with truth, courage, and support. 🔗 Learn more and join here: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazNXMmpNNHJYQnBoX2JwWjhzZy1USHFrMVR2Z3xBQ3Jtc0tuSEs3bUNKbDN5YjJfNUtJSHNvdHExQXpWWWliSVVaeHdWckQtWDVPLXJjVU8zNGVHcDJPeHp5MHdCZHIyR05CRlg3V0MzR0pTcktlQ1d6ZWNtblhuNTlKdGlIWk1RZ2NMbXEzNzR4b2xOa2xpcGk2MA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=cf46pExRjTk] ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazNXMmpNNHJYQnBoX2JwWjhzZy1USHFrMVR2Z3xBQ3Jtc0tuSEs3bUNKbDN5YjJfNUtJSHNvdHExQXpWWWliSVVaeHdWckQtWDVPLXJjVU8zNGVHcDJPeHp5MHdCZHIyR05CRlg3V0MzR0pTcktlQ1d6ZWNtblhuNTlKdGlIWk1RZ2NMbXEzNzR4b2xOa2xpcGk2MA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=cf46pExRjTk]📺 Subscribe to our YouTube channel for all Catalyst Conversations: ⁠   / @powerfulove  ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A] Check out Kelz's first solo art exhibition Read My Lips: Silence Is Still Death happening this Pride Month:⁠https://www.eventbrite.com/e/june-exh... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWhHQ2hLalZUelR5aFMwUWFxMWFQN1o0Z19Ed3xBQ3Jtc0ttdjVDY0ZESzFNb0puNXZVX203NHIyVjMxa2lqQUtSRkE3RzV4YnNENlhWUjh5cEotdFJBZDljVmZBWERoX0p1YVd0VXVEa29OdzdBaGFKS05xVHlYa3ZGd3B3NC10R2oySzZ6bDlyVGpVZGYtdlhLZw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eventbrite.com%2Fe%2Fjune-exhibition-at-the-congregation-read-my-lips-silence-is-still-death-tickets-1990569214104&v=amz5nNJCCEo] ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWhHQ2hLalZUelR5aFMwUWFxMWFQN1o0Z19Ed3xBQ3Jtc0ttdjVDY0ZESzFNb0puNXZVX203NHIyVjMxa2lqQUtSRkE3RzV4YnNENlhWUjh5cEotdFJBZDljVmZBWERoX0p1YVd0VXVEa29OdzdBaGFKS05xVHlYa3ZGd3B3NC10R2oySzZ6bDlyVGpVZGYtdlhLZw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.eventbrite.com%2Fe%2Fjune-exhibition-at-the-congregation-read-my-lips-silence-is-still-death-tickets-1990569214104&v=amz5nNJCCEo]Learn more about Kelz and find all their links at:⁠https://linktr.ee/kelzcreates [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2oxNDZ0TUxlcTUtbFAwdFNTYUlrc2xyc2RqZ3xBQ3Jtc0treVNjVkdzd0o3b1hrRkZibnZtR0dhRHNySFlEX25hTlkyZ2l6ZkgzRHFYQ25Zd0VZVFFLSHRXQUFBekxjcllTblliUEN4ZFN2RWlhYVhWSmhZNTRaNXNaNzFHajR5UlFTTkJCTXlCc29WbTRVdXdNWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flinktr.ee%2Fkelzcreates&v=amz5nNJCCEo]

The Real Cost of Building a Queer Family (Money, Grief & What Actually Helps) | Proud Love Ep. 2

A surrogacy journey in the US can run a quarter of a million dollars for one child. And that's only the cost you can put on a spreadsheet. This week's guest is Sam Leeson, founder of babyREADY, host of the Becoming Baby Ready podcast (now in its fifth season), and a birth worker and educator who has supported queer families for nearly three decades, from the very beginning of their journey through their first years of parenting. In this episode you'll hear: The real financial numbers behind queer family creation, and why they've climbed so dramatically over the last twenty years. The “anxiety cost” that doesn't show up on any invoice the what-ifs about paperwork, donors, and outcomes that live in the body long after a decision is made. How legal and political realities shape what's even possible, depending on where you live. What “implications counseling” is, and why finding the right person for it matters so much. And why having one consistent person who truly understands your whole story can be, in Sam's words, game changing and life saving. This is episode two of our Proud Love series, where every June we center two-spirit and LGBTQIA+ voices, stories, and truths. If this conversation lands for you, share it with someone walking this road right now. 🚀 Go deeper inside The Relationship Revolution Community... The space where powerful women (and the partners who love them) learn to lead love differently -- with truth, courage, and support.🔗 Learn more and join here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbU5Ba3NZTWlZVjQtYl92dVBwaGlTU1NfWlB3Z3xBQ3Jtc0tuWklybUoycTI5clhDOWh1MXdYaHpkSlRwQ1lzMW11cTVLaDFDM3BfYnB5bHc2cGdUTjgyRUM4RlRQTjhmWXVfaDZiWl9zV2Q3VmJnTEJmSGNUNXZGUGp2X2dKZkswc0lJdXdqNlVmUHZ0Nm1rZkhicw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=cf46pExRjTk]📺 Subscribe to our YouTube channel for all Catalyst Conversations:    / @powerfulove   [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A]For answers to questions you didn't even know you had, visit babyREADY.infowww.babyREADY.infoListen to Sam's podcast, becoming babyREADY:https://www.babyready.info/podcast [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbHZNQllnbEwxak9ZYWE1ZFRLb25zZVBiYTNEUXxBQ3Jtc0trSllxVkhFNEJ0TlBtR2RJYjNFQm5Uc0ozMEFzV2V2QzhjZzlFeHpVX196X0gzYjZkVm1iWXhTTmlqeFcydXUxb1p3dW1XTWt0ZjNzbXF3cU5iU2tzZWRwd2hGLVJXTGFqYlJibDV6eENBUWlXMHJhTQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babyready.info%2Fpodcast&v=cf46pExRjTk]

My Queer Identity Story: Bisexual, Lesbian, Genderqueer, Graysexual . How I Stopped Thinking Something Was Wrong With Me

She thought something was wrong with her for decades. She was wrong about that. In this episode the first in the Proud Love Series Dr. Jeni Wahlig tells her own identity story in full for the very first time: queerness, genderqueer identity, graysexuality, and polyamory. A doctorate in marriage and family therapy, fifteen years as a clinician, and she still spent twenty years cycling through labels that each held some of her and none of her fully. In this episode you’ll hear: * The moment Jeni lost her best friend at 16 and what she locked away because of it * Years of thinking her body was broken, and the book (Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski) that finally named what was actually happening * What graysexuality is, and how understanding it transformed her relationship with intimacy * How she went from bisexual to lesbian to performing butch to performing femme and finally landing in genderqueer * The moment on the Appalachian Trail that reassembled her entire understanding of attraction * The teaching she wants every listener to take: identity is not a destination. It’s a living thing. You keep becoming. Queer or not, this episode is for anyone who has ever thought something was wrong with them for who they are, who they’ve been, or who they’re still becoming. This is episode two of our Proud Love series, where every June we center two-spirit and LGBTQIA+ voices, stories, and truths. If this conversation lands for you, share it with someone walking this road right now. 🚀 Go deeper inside The Relationship Revolution Community... The space where powerful women (and the partners who love them) learn to lead love differently -- with truth, courage, and support.🔗 Learn more and join here: ⁠https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA...⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbU5Ba3NZTWlZVjQtYl92dVBwaGlTU1NfWlB3Z3xBQ3Jtc0tuWklybUoycTI5clhDOWh1MXdYaHpkSlRwQ1lzMW11cTVLaDFDM3BfYnB5bHc2cGdUTjgyRUM4RlRQTjhmWXVfaDZiWl9zV2Q3VmJnTEJmSGNUNXZGUGp2X2dKZkswc0lJdXdqNlVmUHZ0Nm1rZkhicw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=cf46pExRjTk] 📺 Subscribe to our YouTube channel for all Catalyst Conversations: ⁠   / @powerfulove  ⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A]

Why You're Still Not Happy (Even After All the Personal Development Work) | Christy Holt + Dr. Jeni Wahlig

Catalyst Conversations: A Relationship RevolutionEp. 13: The Biggest Myth About Happiness (And What Actually Works) | May Myths Finale You've done the work. Read the books. Tried the therapy. Done the journaling. And still something is missing. The reason? You've been looking in the wrong place.In this final episode of the May Myths series, Dr. Jeni Wahlig sits down with Christy Holt — author, podcast host, and self-described Happiness Hussy — to bust open the biggest myth about happiness most high-achieving women have been living by without realizing it.Christy brings two divorces, zero apologies, and a decade of helping women stop performing happiness and start actually feeling it. In this conversation: • Why the self-help industry profits from keeping you stuck and how to recognize when it's happening to you• The "common denominator" moment that shifts everything (in relationships and in life) • What actually happens when you stop chasing external happiness and start aligning internally • The practical approach to creating feel-good states now without waiting for circumstances to cooperate. Join my free masterclass- "From Frustrated... To Fulfilled- How to get your partner to finally show up the way you've been asking, without burning yourself out trying to make it happen." https://powerfulove.com/the-love-you-... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2Z1dFg4dHZmWUk2eXp2eVVTZ3otS05FbldSQXxBQ3Jtc0ttY1dQcGlXUE4zTktwczFONDNlaWtTN0Z6Ukd3YkF6bWdCS0txMDVZeVlXSlF4YVZ1dXFsMW5CNkNMcC1lbGRCU2lHNTNjaWpyNThZakJpYndTZU9VTm1WY3dIVG9IYnNYdlV4eGNoMk1xWW1YdXRxQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fpowerfulove.com%2Fthe-love-you-deserve-masterclass&v=0Cn0GMYg8bU]🚀 Go deeper inside The Relationship Revolution Community... The space where powerful women (and the partners who love them) learn to lead love differently — with truth, courage, and support.🔗 Learn more and join here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqblhNRTJCcmpBUGJBc2hiRWdQMzhhdk5QRWphZ3xBQ3Jtc0ttckU4alFGS0Z1dlVQVTc3T3VKSnVWWHUtTHhQNDBsd2taNzl6eXVJRlhRLXJEVGJ6VllFZU1mWGpxaTFienhJdEtoV3plcExxNFZyX0REdWQyRjlabkZJZkRWRTk0NERLR1Q4ZUNJMzdONm1kMjVOMA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=0Cn0GMYg8bU]📺 Subscribe to our YouTube channel for all Catalyst Conversations:    / @powerfulove   [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A]Get Love, Unstuck — Christy Holt's guidebook to creating healthy, happy relationships, starting with the one you have with yourself:www.loveunstuck.comListen to Christy's podcast, Create Your Happy wherever you listen to podcasts!www.createyourhappy.ca

You've been performing for love. And it's exactly why you can't seem to have it.

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations: A Relationship Revolution, Dr. Jeni Wahlig is joined by Gianna Yazana — philosopher, relationship coach, and writer — whose work draws on Socrates, Carl Jung, Eric Fromm, and ancient mythology to dismantle one of the most damaging stories women carry: that love is a reward for becoming desirable enough. Together they unpack why performing for love guarantees you'll never actually receive it, what happens inside relationships when a persona — not a person — shows up, and what it looks like to stop chasing love and start becoming it. In this episode:• The capitalistic logic that turned you into an object to be acquired — and why it's woven into every piece of dating advice you've ever received• What the honeymoon phase crash is really about and why the performance always breaks down eventually• Jeni's client story: what happened when a woman stopped hiding herself and showed up fully• Eric Fromm's radical reframe: love is not separate from us — we are love, and becoming it is the whole path• The question that replaces 'how do I get chosen?' and why it changes everything• What 'love yourself first' actually means, made concrete and actionable 🚀 Go deeper inside The Relationship Revolution Community... The space where powerful women (and the partners who love them) learn to lead love differently-- with truth, courage, and support.🔗 Learn more and join the community here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbERXamhJR2J5dXU1cmpOSnlHMy02Y0hOM2J1UXxBQ3Jtc0trV1RaRHV5NjZoc0VkemswWkt5ekpleF9EZktxYWNFWThDSExCdnFiWThidHlWQVVqeFVvZVA0cXBsaXBfZ3lGVUhfdXlkNEVrWHFQWS1pVnEwRUQtNXpBYzhic3kxVWhiQ0Y3LWNNVmFfZXlWWnRyaw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdocs.google.com%2Fforms%2Fd%2Fe%2F1FAIpQLScAIj7diqMCOdLDH4Ufg1X8hQRZLWnTTryE2SxbQDuvqDFf1A%2Fviewform&v=1_9b0PBBQhw]Join my next FREE Live masterclass: "From Frustrated... To Fulfilled. Get The Love You Deserve." https://powerfulove.com/the-love-you-... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFR4SG1ZMkNlUGFZNE9kbGExWnNLVjc4Vi1wUXxBQ3Jtc0ttc283ZUhHME5kVjlPRnFwTGg1WTFlU0hsREY2ZnpjSmNucFA5UmdNZE5QMHRSczdwWmRBUlFTRE1SV0R5MTFjaktZYUc0dWtxZmhfRkI4SWt1dmR0WEd0U0FJbjdKTElnSnRfaTRrc2R3SUQ5dGpjVQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fpowerfulove.com%2Fthe-love-you-deserve-masterclass&v=1_9b0PBBQhw]📺 Subscribe to our YouTube channel for all Catalyst Conversations:    / @powerfulove   [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3yVd52IcRRG_lljev2BB3A]Get Gianna's free reflective guided journal — designed to help you reset your relationship patterns by moving from performance and external validation into self-awareness, presence, and a more conscious way of loving:https://philosophicalhearts.com/chall... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmh1bUR5MVZQS0h1WlE4WUgtblJlaG45RVljUXxBQ3Jtc0tsZkVVdTh5ZzlYUFk5S0pfS1NsUjRUN1RHSFJyV2lwWExScVdiOWhMWEgwbFJGTFZCSDZiZkV0VTBZd3ZacTlwaDVjNEJhWTdPOTZSQ21BWFZxU0JLLU83VWdfU0RJZTNoQms2Xzd3LUk2YUdjZ0VDVQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fphilosophicalhearts.com%2Fchallenge-freebie&v=1_9b0PBBQhw]Additional resources:Loving in the Now Mini Course — https://philosophicalhearts.com/sales... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0l2OXZGS1BCRm9xTzVqZ19wWTJmeEs4aWNYZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuMEo4TWlsYVZpazBxSHdJbXZpWW9TR29IVjZOSklGdnViNUJlb2Y5YnZVQVg2VmhBWDRGbzdSTDhZclBBOE9Ia2NZcWo2cmhnY1FGd3MyMlVDNGJYaExzcjdhZFhCRVRSZ3MyVGc0R0FXSURPVnpfQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fphilosophicalhearts.com%2Fsales-page-page-8320-2791-4123&v=1_9b0PBBQhw]#RelationshipRevolution [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshiprevolution] #RelationalLeadership [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationalleadership] #DesirableWoman [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/desirablewoman] #LoveYourself [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/loveyourself] #AuthenticLove [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/authenticlove] #WomenInRelationships [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/womeninrelationships] #PerformingForLove [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/performingforlove] #SelfLove [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/selflove] #RelationshipCoach [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshipcoach] #PowerfuLove [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/powerfulove]