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How to Be Less Defensive in Relationships

7 min · 2 de jul de 2026
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If we had to make one generalisation about why relationships fail, it would be this: because of defensiveness. Defensiveness is behind a predominant share of the failure of all relationships. The difficulty is that there appears to be no way of escaping the sort of situations that can trigger defensiveness… Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/zY1V6 Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/JNCwF FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3HLjeW6 “If we had to make one generalisation about why relationships fail, it would be this: because of defensiveness. Defensiveness is behind the lion’s share of the failure of all relationships. The difficulty is that there is no way of escaping the sort of situations that can trigger a defensive response…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life-for-business/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Richard Foster http://www.madebyrichfoster.com Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

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