Islam + Dating After Divorce

🎙️Season 4: Episode 6: “The Audacity to Want More!”

We're back at it and soema making up words as we go along — “ingratitude” 😭😂 but you know what we mean mos, right? Also it’s actually a word. Classic Skinne Bekke behaviour: half therapy session 🛋️ half chaos 🫠 full honesty always 🤍 This episode is for anyone who has ever felt guilty for wanting more. More rest 😮‍💨 More joy 🌸 More ease 🕊️ More alignment ✨ More from life 🌊 Somewhere along the way, many of us learnt that wanting more meant we were: “ungrateful” “difficult” “entitled” or simply… “too much” 🥲 But gratitude and desire can exist together 🤍 You can appreciate where you are and still know: “This isn’t enough for me anymore.” A little laughter, a little dragging ourselves, a little healing 😭🎙️

🎙️Season 4: Episode 5: “Healing isn’t softening yourself for others.”

Healing isn’t softening yourself for others. It’s returning to yourself. 🌿 It’s choosing discomfort over self-betrayal. It’s saying no — even when your voice shakes. It’s being kind, but no longer available for everything. 🚪 Integrity is quiet. Boundaries are firm. And truth… isn’t always polite. ⚖️ Sit with us as we reflect, laugh (mostly at ourselves), and learn how to navigate the messy, uncomfortable, and necessary terrain of choosing yourself.

🎙️Season 4: Episode 4: “Be a dala rot for yourself!”

Discipline isn’t punishment… but why does it sometimes feel like you’re in the tronk? 😭🚔 So here’s a little reminder — for you and us 🫶🏽: It’s not about being “better” ❌ It’s about actually showing up for yourself… consistently 🎯 Trusting yourself 🤝 Keeping small promises to yourself 💬 Building habits that don’t feel like a personality overhaul overnight 😮‍💨🌱 Because honestly— why is our first instinct always: “why can’t I just be better?” 😭 Instead of: “What would make this easier to come back to?” 👀💭 Safe discipline looks like: gentle routines 🌿 familiar rhythms 🔁 doing the bare minimum… but doing it again 🔄✨ Every time you show up for yourself, you build credibility with yourself 📈 Like… you start believing your own chat again 😭😂 Evidence that you matter to yourself 🧡 A quiet form of self-love (even if it’s a bit ghetto some days 😭🤭) So be a dala rot for yourself 🐀🧡 Soft… but you don’t fold 😌💪🏽 Anyway — we’re back 🎙️✨ Same us. Better habits (we’re trying 😭🤞🏽)

🎙️Season 4: Episode 3: “Oops! I'm triggered again!”

“Being activated doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means something needs your attention.” 🔊👂🏽 In this episode, we unpack one of the biggest healing myths: that being triggered means you’re going backwards. It doesn’t. Healing isn’t about becoming unbothered — it’s about learning how to return to yourself without shame. 🏠❤️‍🩹 Look, getting triggered does not mean you’re slip sliding back into old, harmful ways. 🛝 It doesn’t mean that you are failing at life as a person. You are still allowed to feel a full spectrum of emotions like jealousy, fear and guilt. 🎭This episode reframes healing as regulation, repair, and self-trust — not perfection. A secure relationship isn’t one without triggers; it’s one where rupture can be followed by repair, communication, and safety. 👷🏽‍♀️🏗️ We want you to have a regulated nervous system - but like, what does that even mean? Don’t worry. We got you covered. Shaheena shares lekker breathing exercises and mantras to help you get started. 💆🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️ You are not broken because you felt something deeply.You are healing because you noticed it — and chose safety instead of shame. 🌱🌻 Triggered doesn’t mean damaged. It means you’re learning a new way to come home to yourself.

🎙️Season 4: Episode 2: “Boundaries are my personality now.”

Hey Skinnebekkies! The weekend is almost here 😝 And if you’re anything like us, you need something to get you over the finish line. So we’re choosing softness this week.  In this episode, we unpack what a real soft life actually looks like. Everyone wants a soft life… Until it requires a hard conversation. 🗣️🥊💬 Soft life isn’t face masks and bath bombs, it’s truth bombs. 💆🏽‍♀️🛀🏽🧼 It has nothing to do with aesthetics, filters, or disappearing to keep the peace. 🪷☮️ Softness isn’t passive. It’s honest, regulated, and protected by boundaries. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️ We talk about: * Why rest without guilt is revolutionary * How boundaries are the work behind peace * Saying no without a backstory, apology, or emotional cushioning * The difference between peacekeeping and actual peace * Why feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong * How firmness with others allows softness with yourself If you’ve ever: * Explained yourself into exhaustion * Said yes while resenting it * Confused people-pleasing with kindness * Wanted peace but felt scared to enforce it This episode is for you. So go make a cup of coffee or tea, sit down, and lock in. ☕🍵 It’s all about no, no, no, no, no and not, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah! 🎵🎶