Episode 152: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

Episode 154: The Courage to Pause

After more than 150 episodes of To Help You Heal, I’m taking a pause for the summer. This wasn’t a decision I made overnight. In fact, I’ve been thinking about it for a couple of months. As I’ve spent the last several weeks talking about not pushing harder, questioning the voice that puts pressure on us, and examining where our expectations come from, I realized I needed to listen to my own advice. In this episode, I share why I’m stepping back from the podcast for the summer and why I believe there is value in creating space to listen, reflect, and get curious about what’s next. So often we think our only options are to keep going or give up. But what if there’s a third option? What if we simply pause? A pause isn’t failure. It isn’t quitting. It’s creating enough space to pay attention—to ourselves, to our lives, and to what God may be stirring beneath the surface. As we head into summer, I want to invite you into that same practice. Where might you need a little more room to breathe? What might you discover if you gave yourself permission to slow down and listen? In this episode, I talk about: * Why I’ve decided to pause the podcast for the summer * The difference between quitting and pausing * How busyness can keep us from hearing what our lives are trying to tell us * Why growth isn’t the same as constant production * The connection between curiosity and clarity * The importance of creating space before demanding answers * Questions to help you discern what needs your attention in this season Reflection Questions: * What feels more like an obligation than inspiration right now? * Where do I need a little more space? * What could curiosity look like in this season? * What am I afraid might happen if I pause? * What might become possible if I do? Stay Connected This Summer While the podcast is taking a break until September, I’ll still be sharing encouragement and reflections through my email list. If you’d like to stay connected, you can sign up at: www.MarieMonville.com [https://www.mariemonville.com] Thank you for being part of this journey. Whether you’ve listened to one episode or all 150+, I’m so grateful you’ve chosen to walk alongside me. Sometimes the next chapter doesn’t begin with a plan. Sometimes it begins with a pause.

Episode 153: Where Did that Voice Come From

In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, I’m continuing our series on confidence by talking about something many of us experience every day without even realizing it—negative self-talk. The truth is, the way we speak to ourselves didn’t just appear out of nowhere. That inner voice came from somewhere. It was shaped by experiences, environments, expectations, pressure, comparison, survival mode, and the things we picked up along the way. And so often, we don’t even question it—we simply assume it’s true. But what if the harshest voice in your life is the one inside your own head? In this episode, I talk about where that voice may have come from, why many of us developed patterns of pressure and self-criticism, and how awareness becomes the turning point for healing. I also share some of the ways I’ve personally learned to shift my internal dialogue—not through toxic positivity, but through curiosity, grace, and gentler questions. This conversation is an invitation to stop speaking to yourself like the enemy and start offering yourself the same compassion you would extend to someone you love. In this episode, I talk about: * Why negative self-talk feels so normal for many of us * Common inner dialogue patterns like: * “You should be doing more” * “You’re behind” * “That wasn’t good enough” * How childhood environments, performance-based approval, comparison, perfectionism, and survival mode can shape the way we speak to ourselves * Why being hard on ourselves can feel productive or protective * The difference between conviction and criticism * How awareness helps us begin changing the voice inside our heads * Learning to replace shame and pressure with curiosity and compassion * The phrase that helps me:   “I’m doing the best I can with what I have.” Reflection Questions: * What does my inner voice sound like most often? * Where might I have learned to speak to myself that way? * What beliefs about worth, success, or love might be driving it? * What would compassion toward myself sound like today? You are allowed to question the voice that constantly pressures you. And while that voice may have been learned, it can also be changed. Thanks for joining me for this week’s episode of To Help You Heal. I hope this conversation encourages you to offer yourself more grace and reminds you that healing sometimes begins with simply learning to speak to yourself differently.

Episode 152: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

This week on the podcast, I want to talk about something I think so many of us experience without even realizing it: the internal dialogue we carry every single day. Sometimes the loudest voice in our lives is the one nobody else can hear. In this episode, I’m sharing some personal stories about feeling unseen, how experiences from childhood followed me into adulthood, and the ways negative self-talk can quietly become “background noise” in our lives. From replaying conversations and overthinking messages to apologizing unnecessarily or assuming rejection before we even put ourselves out there, I think many of us are carrying thoughts we stopped questioning a long time ago. I also talk about: * why self-doubt often disguises itself as protection * how rejection, comparison, and painful experiences shape the way we see ourselves * the exhausting mental conflict many women quietly carry * why familiar thoughts are not always true thoughts * how compassion toward ourselves can begin to change the conversation internally One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is this: Just because a thought feels familiar doesn’t mean it’s telling the truth. Reflection Questions: * What do I say to myself regularly? * Where did that belief come from? * What would I say to a younger version of myself now? I hope this episode helps you begin to notice the voice in your head with a little more awareness and a little more compassion.

Episode 151: Maybe You Don't Need to Push Harder

Have you ever found yourself feeling like you just need to try harder? Push more. Figure it out. Force clarity.  In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, we're talking about the exhaustion that comes from living in constant “go mode” and the pressure many of us place on ourselves to keep everything together. When life feels uncertain, unresolved, or overwhelming, our instinct is often to push harder—but what if more pressure isn’t actually the answer? We'll discuss the difference between healthy effort and alignment, the illusion of control, and the ways fear and urgency keep us stuck in cycles of exhaustion.  This episode is a gentle reminder that not everything meaningful has to be forced—and that sometimes the breakthrough comes when we finally loosen our grip. In this episode: * Why many of us default to pushing harder when life feels uncertain * The emotional and physical cost of constant striving * How fear and the need for control fuel the pressure to push harder * The difference between effort and alignment * How peace and clarity often emerge when we create space instead of pressure Reflection Questions: * Where am I pushing from fear instead of peace? * What am I trying to force right now? * What would it look like to trust instead of striving? * Where do I need to loosen my grip a little? If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. You can connect with me on social media or through my website. And if you’re longing for deeper support as you navigate your own healing journey, you can book a free Clarity Call [https://tidycal.com/mariemonville/claritycall] with me.  Thanks for joining me for this week’s episode of To Help You Heal. I hope it reminded you to breathe a little deeper, take some time to rest, and trust that you do not have to carry everything on your own.

Episode 150: Hitting the Reset Button

In this week’s episode of To Help You Heal, I’m wrapping up this series by talking about something many of us need: a reset. Sometimes what we need most is not a dramatic life change or a total reinvention. We simply need space to pause, notice what feels off, and take one intentional step forward. Often the signs that we need a reset are subtle. We may feel disconnected, emotionally tired, mentally cluttered, or stuck on autopilot. It is not always chaos that signals change is needed—it is often misalignment. In this episode, I share common areas where a reset may be needed: * Your pace – life feels rushed and there is no margin * Your mind – too much input, overthinking, mental clutter * Your space – physical clutter affecting clarity * Your priorities – everything feels urgent, but nothing feels meaningful * Your spirit – feeling disconnected from prayer, peace, or God’s presence I also walk through simple ways to reset without overwhelm: * Pause and name what feels off * Ask yourself: What do I need more of? What do I need less of? * Choose one small shift * Repeat the process regularly A reset is not failure. It is a sign that you are paying attention and responding to what your life needs right now. Reflection Questions * What feels off right now? * Where are you running on autopilot? * What do you need more of? * What do you need less of? * What is one small reset you can make this week? You do not need to reinvent yourself. Sometimes healing begins with one honest pause and one small step forward.