"You're On Your Own" — Firefighter Survives 18 Years of Betrayal, Bullying & Trauma | Trauma Rock Stars™

She Was Clinically Dead for 70 Days. Here's What She Saw. | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] What if 70 days between life and death gave you the clearest picture of your purpose you've ever seen?  In this episode of Trauma Rock Stars™, Tracy Smaldino sits down with Holly Porter — entrepreneur, author, hypnotherapist, and near-death experience survivor — who contracted the Delta variant of COVID in fall 2021 and spent 70 days across two hospitals. Intubated twice. Sepsis. Organs shutting down. Oxygen at 63%.  And on the other side? Out-of-body experiences traveling 165 years back in time. A Stadium of Light filled with thousands of prayer warriors. A divine message that would later transform a therapist's entire perspective. And a 2-year journey back that she now calls her greatest teacher.  In this episode:  - The difference between out-of-body, spiritual transformative,  and near-death experiences  - The Stadium of Light — seeing her prayer army fight for her  - Why her life review only showed the good  - The divine message: "Love them where they're at"  - The hypnosis session that revealed the rest of the story  - The SHIFT Framework: Surrender, Hope, Intuition, Faith  & Transformation  - Why you don't have to almost die to find your purpose  - How purpose can be as simple as changing one person's life  Holly's SHIFT Framework, her book Near Death Shift, the Adventure Bucket Wish Foundation, and the International Retreat Association all grew directly from this experience.  "You don't have to almost die to truly live and find your purpose."  — Holly Porter  Connect with Holly: https://hollyporterinternational.com/ 🎯 Free Life Audit Quiz: https://traumarockstars.com  🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars  💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars  Become a Supporter:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

The Set List: Build Your Intentional Healing Roadmap | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Are you healing in chaos — reacting to whatever is loudest and never actually choosing what you're working on? In this solo episode, Tracy introduces The Set List: a 5-step method for building an intentional trauma healing roadmap across the 3 lanes of your life — emotional, physical, and mental. Just like a professional band builds their set list before a single  fan walks through the doors, your healing deserves a strategy. Without  one? You're just making noise. In this episode: - Why trauma keeps you in reactive mode — and how to break out of it - The difference between working on what hurts most vs. what needs    to come first - The 3 lanes of healing and how to prioritize without overwhelm - A 5-step process to build your personal healing set list - Why 30 days is the perfect opening set for your recovery - How the Rock Star 30™ program gives you a fully guided roadmap Your 5 Steps: 1. Take the free Life Audit Quiz 2. Choose one thing per lane 3. Put them in order 4. Give it a 30-day time frame 5. Review it weekly You are not a passenger in your healing journey. You are the artist.  You get to decide what's on the set list. Rock Stars always play  with intention. 🎯 Free Life Audit Quiz + Rock Star 30™ Program: https://traumarockstars.com 💛 SUPPORT THE SHOW: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars 🎯 Free Life Audit Quiz + Rock Star 30™ Program: https://traumarockstars.com 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

"You're On Your Own" — Firefighter Survives 18 Years of Betrayal, Bullying & Trauma | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Female firefighter bullying, workplace trauma, and PTSD recovery — this episode covers it all. Lynette was the first and only woman ever hired at her fire department, and on her very first day as a career firefighter, a captain pulled her into a room and told her: "If you ever get into trouble — we're not coming to save you." She carried that secret for over a decade, walking into burning buildings never knowing if her team would have her back. In this powerful episode, retired firefighter, trauma coach, and author of You're On Your Own, Lynette opens up about 18 years of workplace bullying, misogyny, and betrayal — and how she finally broke the cycle, found her voice, and rebuilt her life from the inside out. 🧠 In This Episode You'll Learn: * How hypnotherapy completely transformed her trauma healing journey (and what happened in session TWO) * Why trauma can be caused by betrayal — not just crisis * How a childhood pattern of abuse showed up in every area of her life * What post-traumatic growth actually looks like * Why talk therapy wasn't enough — and what finally worked * The moment she handed in her early retirement and said two words: "Plot twist." 💡 Key Takeaway: You are replaceable at your job. You are not replaceable in your own life. Choose yourself — even when it's terrifying. That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. 💬 Drop "PLOT TWIST" in the comments if this episode hit home for you! That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎙️ Connect with Lynette: 📖 Book — You're On Your Own: https://a.co/d/0frzuxt4 [https://a.co/d/0frzuxt4] 📲 Instagram: @FireWithinCrisisServices 🌐 Website: https://firewithincrisisservices.com [https://firewithincrisisservices.com] 🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™:  ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars [https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars]  📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars [https://instagram.com/traumarockstars]  📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars [https://facebook.com/traumarockstars]  🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars [https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars]  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino]  🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars [https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars]  🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com [https://traumarockstars.com] 💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars [https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars] 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new] 00:00 — Introduction: Meet Lynette  01:45 — From Hairstylist to Firefighter — How It All Began  04:00 — Fire School: The Camaraderie She Thought She'd Have  05:30 — Fighting to Volunteer: They Made It Clear She Wasn't Wanted  07:00 — The Chief Who Had Her Back  08:45 — Her First Day on the Job — The Threat That Changed Everything  11:30 — Living With Fear: A Decade of Silent Pep Talks  14:00 — Small Town, Big Secrets: The Weight She Carried  16:30 — The Breaking Point — Reconnecting with Her Feminine Side  18:00 — The Counselor Who Said: "That's Abuse."  19:30 — Childhood Trauma, Abusive Relationships & the Pattern She Finally Saw 22:00 — "I Didn't Cry for Nine Years" — Stuffing It All Down  24:00 — The Aha Moment: "Plot Twist." — Her Early Retirement  25:30 — Fighting the Union That Was Supposed to Protect Her  27:00 — Writing It All Down: Thousands of Pages, One Book  28:30 — What Led Her to Hypnotherapy  31:00 — Session Two: The Absolute Rodeo That Changed Her Life  33:30 — Past Life Regression: The Castle, the Clay Hut & Standing Up  35:30 — The Moment the Fear Left Her Body  37:00 — What Hypnotherapy Is Really Like (Not What You Think)  39:00 — The Book: You're On Your Own  41:00 — Post-Traumatic Growth & Why PTSD Is Not a Life Sentence  43:30 — The Chief Who Believed in Her — Where He Is Now  45:00 — Finding Her Voice at the End of Her Career  47:00 — What She Does Now: Trauma Coaching & Crisis Services  50:00 — Advice for Anyone Stuck in a Cycle of Suffering  52:30 — Choosing Yourself — Even When It's Terrifying  57:00 — How to Find Lynette & the Phoenix Society women in firefighting, trauma healing, PTSD recovery, workplace bullying, first responder mental health, toxic workplace, hypnotherapy, post-traumatic growth, female firefighter, trauma coach, women empowerment, healing journey, mental health podcast, first responder trauma, abuse survivor, trauma recovery, firefighter mental health, memoir, rock star resilience, Tracy Smaldino  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

Load-In & Load-Out: Are You Carrying Too Much? | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Are you carrying too much? In this solo episode, Tracy introduces the Load-In & Load-Out framework — a life audit for your energy, boundaries, and everything you're carrying. Just like a concert crew loads in and loads out, we need to review what is coming in and going out emotionally, physically, and mentally. Are you overextending yourself? This episode gives you baby steps to start auditing your energy today. In this episode: - What Load-In & Load-Out really means for your healing journey - The 3 lanes of load-in — emotional, physical, and mental - Why overextension is often a trauma response dressed up as strength - What load-out actually looks like and why skipping it costs you - Baby steps to start this week Chapters:  0:00 — Introduction & the concert metaphor 1:30 — What Load-In & Load-Out actually means 6:00 — The load-in audit: what are you carrying? 14:00 — Are you overextended? 20:00 — What load-out really looks like 27:00 — Baby steps to start today 33:00 — Life Audit™ quiz & closing 🎸 Take the free Life Audit™ at traumarockstars.com — 5 minutes and It shows you exactly where your stage is overloaded. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ SUPPORT THE SHOW 🖤 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ☕ buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH TRACY ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🌐 traumarockstars.com 📧 podcast@traumarockstars.com 🔗 linktr.ee/traumarockstars 📱 TikTok: @traumarockstars 🍎 Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-rock-stars/id1835876659 🎵 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/3j8Zoy3p3Mair20q0AQbW2 ▶️ YouTube: youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars 🎧 Amazon Music: music.amazon.com/podcasts/219f576b-698b-4678-b154-46370dac8617 🎙️ All Platforms: buzzsprout.com/2526063 Real Stories. Raw Truths. Rock Star Resilience™. 🎸 Trauma Rock Stars™ — hosted by Tracy Smaldino, Keynote Speaker · Host · Author trauma healing, boundaries, life audit, energy management, trauma recovery, mental health, solo episode, people pleasing, self care, nervous system, trauma survivor, healing journey, load-in load-out, overextension, emotional health, personal growth Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

Bullied by Women in a Bills Mafia Group — Trauma Nurse Heidi's Story | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] When trauma nurse Heidi posted a fun photo in a Bills Mafia women's group, she never expected what came next — anonymous attacks, body shaming, and a wave of cruelty from women who should have been cheering her on. 💙 In this raw and powerful episode of Trauma Rock Stars™, host Tracy sits down with Heidi to talk about adult bullying on social media, body image, the courage it takes to show up anyway — and why anonymous cruelty says everything about the bully and nothing about you. Whether you've been bullied online, watched it happen to someone else, or maybe even been guilty of a snarky comment yourself — this episode is for YOU. Go Bills. Be a buddy, not a bully. 🏈 🧠 In This Episode You'll Learn: * Why adult bullying on social media is more damaging than people admit * How anonymous cruelty reflects the bully — not the victim * What 15 years as a trauma nurse taught Heidi about the power of words * How to handle online attacks with grace and strength * Why we need to teach the next generation to be upstanders — not bystanders 💡 Key Takeaways: Anonymous cruelty says everything about the person posting it — and nothing about you. Your healing is worth protecting. 💙 0:00 — Welcome & Intro — How Heidi Became a Bills Fan 2:21 — What Prompted This Episode — The Post That Started It All 5:00 — The Photo, the Boudoir Shoot & the Backlash 8:00 — Anonymous Bullying — Why It's Still Bullying 11:44 — Trauma, Grace & Why Words Can Devastate 13:47 — Just Keep Scrolling — Don't Yuck Someone's Yum 16:08 — Supporting Small Businesses & Local Love 18:26 — Adult Bullying — We're Not in High School Anymore 20:35 — Heidi Fights Back — Why She Reposted 22:31 — Body Image, Burns & Building Confidence 24:41 — How to Handle It Constructively 26:44 — Teaching the Next Generation to Be Upstanders 29:00 — Protecting Kids from Social Media Bullying 31:14 — What's Going On Inside You Is What You Put Out 33:25 — 15 Years in Trauma — How Heidi Copes 35:50 — Relationship Goals — 18 Years & Still Newlyweds 39:30 — The Bills Game Experience in Buffalo 41:30 — Buffalo Food Tour — Wings, Ted's, Duff's & Wegmans 47:25 — Decompressing After Trauma Nursing Shifts 50:00 — A Message of Gratitude to Healthcare Workers 52:16 — Final Thoughts — Find Your Happiness & Be a Buddy 🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. 💬 Drop "BUDDY" in the comments if you stand against online bullying! That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎙️ Connect with Heidi: 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heidi.kleinwillis [https://www.facebook.com/heidi.kleinwillis] 🛍️ Bills Gear by Abigail Lee: https://byabigaillee.com/ [https://byabigaillee.com/] 🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars [https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars] 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars [https://instagram.com/traumarockstars] 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars [https://facebook.com/traumarockstars] 🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars [https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars] 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino] 🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars [https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars] 🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com [https://traumarockstars.com] 💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars [https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars] 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new] Bills Mafia bullying, adult bullying, online bullying, body shaming, social media bullying, women bullying women, cyberbullying, Buffalo Bills, trauma nurse, body image, anonymous bullying, women empowerment, trauma healing, mental health, be a buddy not a bully, trauma rock stars, rock star resilience, Tracy Smaldino, Heidi trauma nurse, upstanders  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]